Have you ever kept a secret from your spouse or SO?

I don't think it is wrong to have private matters from your spouse. However, the situation depends highly on your spouses' attitude. Consider, if you will, a friend of mine. He looks at pictures of women on his computer and his wife considers this a high-moral-crime. Now, if he does this.. he knows it will affect his marriage. So, while innately he might be doing no serious harm, effectively it is a thing which should be avoided to respect his wife and ensure his marriage runs smoothly. The same thing holds in my house. My wife would feel hurt if I kept secrets from her and it would hurt the marriage. Therefore, while I don't think having private thoughts is wrong, I also have to respect her point of view.

I can keep a secret about gifts but that is about all. We had a thirtieth birthday party for my wife and it was supposed to be a surprise. Me and my big mouth. Slap!

If you have to keep it a secret then it is probably bad. I don't keep secrets from my husband, at least not intentionally. Sometimes I amy think I told him something and find out later down the road that I didn't. Lying or hiding things is never good in a relationship.

Even i shared the same kind of relationship with my husband... i didn't feel that i am lying to him but i didn't even think about it.. i just had to tell him everything... but lately he has been quite busy with his work and we don't get much time together. Earlier i used to feel very bad and had one of the worst moods of mine but now i have come to terms with it. Now i know that if i feel bad or am sad than its only my problem, he can't give me even that much time... it's not that he does not love me anymore.., ours is a love marriage and i know that he loves me a lot but it's just that he is over-occupied with his work and once he gets what he wants things will be fine again, i only hope that i don't really change till that time... :)

When we are boyfriend and girlfriend before I do because his a very jealous man. Now I'm not hidind anymore when we live together. But I think his hiding something with me.

I believe that:guy will not cheat his love, just not being 'too honest' to their girl!

Yes I have I know that it isn't good but I do it so that I don't have to deal with jealousy and arguments. I don't let him know that I have friends on Mylot that are men like P1keF1sh and a few others that I talk to regularly on here. Besides that I might not tell him when I give my brother,sister or parents money. Other then that nope I don't hide stuff. But then again I am sure not all women tell everything they do all day..gotta keep the mystery somehow..once they figure us out it gets boring for them gotta keep them guessing and wondering. There have been some things that I haven't told my husband that family or in laws have asked me not to tell anyone I don't keep it all from him just things that I know shouldn't be repeated. My husband I love him but he is the world's second biggest gossip,first being my sister in law you want the world to know tell them two..

Nope I tell my hubby every thing! Even when some one tells me not to tell any one. I have to talk about it to some one and he is the best at listening. Now if you tell him not to tell some thing he won't! Makes me nuts!!! LOL I can keep a secret like what I got him for Christmas or Birthday but thats about it!!

that is so nice of you i have never seen anyone like you who tell everything to their husbands hope u have a good life long relationship

Yes I have kept secrets from my partner. If someone tells me not to tell something then I am not going home and telling him it. But I also kept other secrets from him because I was not ready to tell him things. He also has done it to me as well. Though I guess it isn't good to keep secrets from each other, I don't think that we do it because we are bad, but more like don't want to see the other hurt or upset about something. Like if those pants are terrible on him I don't need to tell him that. And like the fact that over a dozen years my weight has gone up and down drastically. So I don't need to hear that I am looking a bit puffy lately. I think it depends on the couple. I am okay with him not being totally open about everything and he is okay with me doing that as well so it isn't a problem for us. But some other people like to have that in their relationship and that is good too.

I don't keep any secrets from him, except for gifts. Sometimes it's difficult to keep gifts a secret, usually I am so excited that I give him the gift early. I've gotten better about Christmas gifts, I usually do wait until Christmas, but when it comes to birthday or Father's day gifts, he usually gets them early if they are good presents. Sometimes I can't afford a really great present and just get him something that he really needs, like a new pair of work pants. I don't get too excited about that, so it's easier to keep it secret, and he's usually just surprised to have gotten anything at all.

YES. If someone tells me something and asks me to keep it confidential then I don't even tell my SO.

Yeah, I actually do but that's because of his daughters. I'm sure he knows I don;t agree with a lot of things when it comes to his daughters. they're in their teen years and yet there's so spoiled and messy. So I always go to our room when they're around. LOL