Burnt Out Moms!

That is the exact reason I demand a "me day". No, you are not supposed to take care of everyone and everything. Unfortunately your family seems to think so and takes it for granted that you will. Have a family meeting and discuss openly and honestly how overwhelmed you are feeling. Then list out all your job duties and explain how though you are not demanding payment in the form of cash, you will be expecting payment in the form of love, understanding, patience oh yeah and housework. I hope it gets better for you dragonflyfli. *hugs*

i here and know just how you feel.every day is the same.we dont really get any different.and yes they do wonder why you loose it and they dont understand because they dont do the same as us.they have off days so why cant us mums have some too!!!

I can tell you from first hand experience that being everything for your family will make you resent them and want to get away. My Mother left me when I was two, I had a 9 and 3 year brother and a 8 year sister. She just up and left. I never really understood. Then about 5 years ago my sister did the same thing, she left her 16 and 12 year old sons. Just up and moved out of state one day. I believe in both cases they wanted to have lives of their own. They both had childern way to young and never really got to enjoy their lifes so one day, they decided to make it all about them. I am a mom and I make sure that I take care of the kids and my family but on the same note I do things just for me, like bowling every Thursday night, it is something I do for me because I do not want to get lost and end up doing the same thing that my sister and my mother did.

Well, first of all I'm not a mom, but my girlfriend is. We bought a house together and right now her daughter, along with her boyfriend live with us. And yes, as long as mom's happy, not complaining, everything is fine. And it's like we are supposed serve her. We are supposed to do the dishes, (which she does several times a day on her days off) not complain when she leaves the living room a mess and oh yeah, let her have the TV on any channel she wants, again, on mom's day off. Even when my girlfriend was sick with the flu, she didn't do any dishes. I guess that's what i'm for. Now of course, mom let's her get away with it, mom let's her boyfriewnd live here and that's her fault but still, it shows how insensitive and self centered toady's kids have become.

Im a mother of my 10 months old son, and he makes me supre tired, burnt out in the other words. It's not really easy become a mother lolz. You look after them and the house , clean cook, laundry and allt he way round. lolz, Are you thinking to have a break? Well i do thinking of break but it's a kind of the job that you can't take a break or day off lolz.So just enjoy, let it done and no complain hehehee. Happy posting.

This may sound stupid but have you watched that movie mom on strike lol?? general idea is she was unappreciated and simply went... on... strike =P I did that when my little sister and brother would make me feel like their maid and not pick up their clothing in their room... 3 days i didn't lift a finger they noticed and saw the mounting pile of clothing and general junk they tossed around. Your husband is over protective and perhaps even jealous (actually clearly) which is why he is giving you the 3rd degree about going out. If the excuse is he doesn't want to be around the kids ask a friend or a relative to watch them when you DO want to go out. Some of my cousins used to get together take their kids to the park and have a bar-b-que. Basically you don't have one set of eyes rather many... and the kids keep each other occupied. Tell him you are human you need help. Tell your kids. Assign chores to them, we sure had a chore list. We didn't finish it lets just say our day was not pleasant lol... no TV, no computer no going out. You want to be treated like adults you want to have fun earn it =P my brother had the simple task of taking out the trash. My sister and i alternated on dishes and dusting, as well as vacuuming. We'd mop and sweep to. My mom had cooking, cleaning the bathroom, laundry and a dozen of other little things that DO add up. She did most of the mopping and sweeping but every once in a while it was our job. Heck if we nagged her about wanting homemade pizza we had to help her lol... i kneed the dough and my sister and brother put it all together after my mom gets the crust ready =P Was a lot more yummy since we knew we helped with it... and was our odd way of considering it a bribe for my mom =P she measures, she pops it in the oven we do the in between lol (i started doing the dough with her around 16 or 17 not sure exactly) Well, hope my rambling is of some use to you and gives you some ideas.