Thats the career we want for you ,we are your parents!!!!!!

I am also a parents of my 2 kids actually they still young not even in 1st grader but they have dreams and keep telling me that oneday they want to be like this and that. being a parents we have to build up dreams and support their ambitions until they grown up. I dont care about tradition of the family to follow the rules because I believed the respect of my children decision but not tradition. I don't want them to look down on me and think that I am selfish because when they are younger I support their dreams and when they grewn up I suddenly change my plan to them because of tradition. we must try to be supportive and cooperative being a parents--who knows someday they dreams that our children wants will lead them in success! happy lotting!!!

I have a 15 year old daughter who is beginning to seriously think about what she wants to do. We are certainly not telling her what she should do, but we advise her that if she wants to do such-and-such then she will need to take a particular course. For example, she is into hair dressing (and taking courses in high school) and also loves Taekwondo. I have told her that if she has an interest in possibly opening her own salon or dojo then she will have to take a business course after high school. If have given her ideas from her own interests but would never force her to do something that doesn't interest her. My father made suggestions for me when I was graduating high school but they were unrealistic. He first suggested ECE (Early Childhood Education). Well, the most I had done was babysit. I hadn't been a counsellor at camps or anything so I wasn't even accepted into the course due to lack of experience. So he said to take secretarial, can't go wrong with that. Now if only I had known back then that there was something called "Library Sciences" I would have taken that. My parents weren't very helpful in that regard. So I am helping my daughters according to their interests, but not pushing them to do anything. Who wants to do something they don't have a passion for? I certainly don't.

I have always told my children that they can do whatever they set their minds to. My oldest decided to not go to college and it was a bit disappointing to my husband and I . I told him that he had to get a job then, and he did. He actually got a great job, works as a welder full time with great benefits. He loves it and makes great money! My other children have dreams and I am going to support them. I would rather have them happy and successful, then resentful.

I've known a lot of people who were forced by their parents to take up courses in college that they totally, totally hate to the high heavens. Oh well, some of them did well in school despite their dislike for what they were studying. So, their parents naturally thought their kids will succeed eventually. After they have satisfied their parents' wishes of finishing the course of their parents' choice, most of them just got "lost" somewhere in the middle with not much of a career or even ambition to speak of. A lawyer friend I know who was in the same situation cannot even come close to the status his father has achieved -- thus making his dad more disappointed than pleased to have a lawyer son. There were quite a few who decided to just ditch the whole degree and follow their dreams after college. And these people proved to their parents that they can still make them proud in their field of choice. I wouldn't do that to my kids. I wouldn't force them to take a college course that they don't like for tradition's sake.

I wont force them. Career choice is up to them. I will guide and support them whatever they decide to do with their lives. Happy mylotting

We have brought our children up with their welfare at heart and given them everything we can and helped them in everyway possible,to make them the people they are today.It is extremely hard but like I said we have done our bit,and it is awful but we have to let them go and do what they want, we cannot live their lives for them and we will lose them completely if we try to push them in a direction they don't want to go.They have to learn and make their own mistakes ,as a mother of grown up children I well know what that feels like.Thankfully things have changed and no one should be forced to do a job for forty years that they don't enjoy to keep father happy.All I want is for my kids to be happy,not be an extension of myself so i can brag about them. If the parents really love their kids they will stop making their lives unbearable with traditionx

My kids can do whatever they want for a career choice. I can't decide there paths for them. However I will give them guidance and support in whatever they decide to do with their lives. It's not a choice I can make for them.

i will definitely do this. parents should be able to support their son's/daughter's needs and that includes supporting their decisions and preferences in life. all we can do is give them the best education and guide them (not force them) in their decisions. in case they choose a career path that you think is absurd, then maybe talk to your son/daughter about it. ask you child why he/he likes it. tell her about your ideas or what you think about it. if you want, do research so have a good idea what people in those professions do and all.. but in the end, the decision should still be done by your son/daughter.

When I have children I will not force them to follow a career path that I want them too. I would allow them to pick their own paths and desires for their future. I would rather my children to be happy instead of making a lot of money. I would support my kids to follow their dreams.

When I was going to resign from my previous job, my parents called me and told me not to do that, because the economic situation that period is already very unstable, and there were too many people hunting a job, and jobs offered were limited. I felt sorry that they don't totally trust my ability, and i finally resign succefully and found another job 2 weekes later. Now whenever my parents call me, they would tell me stay in this company longer, till I get promotion and earn more higher salary. They don't know they to be paid monthly is not my dream, to have my own company is... My point is, parents may not give you the best idea, maybe it is becuase they don't know about your dreams, and they don't understand the situation, but no matter what they try to do, they do it because they think it is good to you. somtimes we should take our parents advise into serious consideration, maybe they have more experience and they may in some extent, expect what difficulty would come to you in the future. Everyone have its own direction, and we should check time and time again to make sure we are not taking a wrong path.

it is so old school, teeneagers nowadays are more liberal minded and i think even they are our parents, they must not force us to something that we can't do because in the end of the day it is us who will suffer for what we have decided to do... but we must keep in minds that we need to take profession which would benefit us the most because it is not just interest that will lead us to development but also the opportunities.