Can You Hide Your Excitement?
By Brian
@wolfie34 (26771)
United Kingdom
November 18, 2008 3:24pm CST
Imagine you got a letter and inside was a cheque to tell you that you had won $500 your first reaction would be excitement wouldn't it, the cheque is 100% genuine and you have entered the competition so the money is yours.
BUT... Could you hide your excitement from your partner? Bearing in mind your partner has money problems or he/she would expect you to treat him/her or share it with them knowing full that they'd only p*ss it up the wall or gamble it away?
Could you hide the excitement from money grabbing friends who would suddenly become extra friendly to you
This happened with my ex I won a bit of money but I couldn't tell my ex because my ex had bad money problems, they would fritter it away whereas I used to save hard and they had a well paid job and yet they still had money problems, and I didn't have a job. I would be made to feel guilty about winning and fully expected to part with some of it by using the guilt trip, in the end I would regret entering the competition
Have you ever had to hide your excitement from others knowing that if you didn't it would cause a lot of upset and hurt?
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20 responses
@beki710 (949)
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18 Nov 08
I think there you did the right thing. I'm guessing it must be really hard to hide the excitement of coming into a lot of money - I don't think I could do it! - but it seems that you reaped advantages of keeping it to yourself. You saved everyone from getting emotional over it even though you had the ownership to the money. I would think you are an extremely strong person!
@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
18 Nov 08
I had to be strong for my own sanity! It was a battle of wills and I was determined to win, sometimes we need to lie to protect not just ourselves but others, if I had of told my ex then I wouldn't have heard the last of it! Thank you for your response and compliment!
@smiley83 (1534)
• Malaysia
19 Nov 08
hey,
first of all, i would like to congratulate you for being the winner and for being strong enough in dealing with the situation in general...
secondly, hiding my excitement seems to be a bit difficult to me... i might not jump but i might act weired by being more nicer and calmer than before! such attitudes can clearly show that there is something unusual happening to me!
but you have done the right thing...
Smiley,
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@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
21 Nov 08
I've had to do this. I can't remember the exact circumstances but my ex would spend up big on booze when there was extra cash. Nothing would be put aside to save or put towards our ever growing balance on the credit card. Anything extra I got would go in the bank and stay there...it took all I had to leave him and move interstate when the time was right. Part of the excitement was always sharing the good news and so I became adept at not being excited, I became calculating instead.
When I got my inheritance and moved here, I got in touch with him (2 years later) to share my good news and invited him for a visit. He came laden with booze and we had a great time getting very drunk and then he made a sickening, embarrassing drunken pass at me. The next morning, before he left he said he didn't understand why I was so upset - he couldn't remember what he had done. He said he thought the invitation to visit meant we could get back together again....AS IF! I sent him on his way and we haven't been in touch since. So yes, there was lots of upset and hurt from that bit of exciting news......LOTS.
@positiveminded1977 (7072)
• India
19 Nov 08
LOL!! Where money is concerned, I am a sealed book. No one knows how much I have. Actually, I don't have much, but many people think I do. I am like you; I love saving money and spending it carefully, maybe because I have to work hard for it and cannot afford to waste it on money-problem friends.
Cheers and happy mylotting
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@Humbug25 (12540)
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18 Nov 08
Hi ya wolfie34
A very simular thing happened to me too and it was so hard for me not to tell him so I just went and paid off some bill with the money. I think I told my mum because I had to tell someone and she wouldn't tell anyone. It is hard to conceal such excitement and especially from someone you are supposed to love! Know exactly where you are coming oh so well!
@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
11 Jan 09
Hello my friend, hope you are ok, there has to be someone we 'let out' our good news too, it's like anger if we keep it to ourselves then we explode for all the wrong reasons and the excitement actually becomes a negative! and yes my mum is the first person I tell, as long as it is out of earshot!
@smartie0317 (1610)
• United States
18 Nov 08
Yes, I do. I currently live with my mom as I finish up university. She can't handle money. She wants to be a show off infront of friends despite us basically being poor. When I get money, I hide it. I save it in the back or spend it on things I need or bills ASAP.
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@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
13 Dec 08
If I know that my partner would gamble or waste the money I would try to hide my emotions. I would keep it a secret and save for a rainy day. i would not waste my won money on my partner
@iamfine (740)
• China
19 Nov 08
First I would like to say five hundred dollars is not much to me, I own my credit card one thousand and five hundred dollars. I have trouble in backing them back in one time. If if I have five hundred dollars I won't feel too happy because not enough for me.
And as you question, I think I won't reveal the secret that I have money to any friend who has financial problems. But sometimes it is hard to say whehter my friends have financial problems or not. Like me, I never told anyone I know in reality that I have own so much money to my credit card.
And I think it is common not to let your friends know that you have own that money, because it would be better for both/all of your if there's no moeny get involved. I had a friends who borrowed moeny from me, and pretend that she forgot about that, I think she wouldn't return the money back to me if I hadn't told her to.
I wish you good luck.
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@srganesh (6340)
• India
19 Nov 08
If people around have money problems and would expect from you,there is no otherway to hide your emotions.After all,it came from your competance and you deserve it and nobody can have the least claim.I never had a situation like this.If I were you,then I will do the same you did.
@carmelsuarez (329)
• Philippines
19 Nov 08
Hahahha! No! I can't hide my excitement ever. I need to shout it out or atleast tell someone about it. or else... I'll go crazy. hahaha.
Well with that situation though. I can definitely hide it from my partner. But, I need to go see a friend or at least tell my closest friend ever about the money. hahaha. can't keep it to my self coz it will wiegh me down.
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@nannacroc (4049)
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19 Nov 08
I wouldn't be able to hide it from my other half but it wouldn't matter because he knows that what's his is mine and what's mine is my own. I would treat him but the treat would be my decision. It's a good thing we enjoy similar things.
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
20 Nov 08
You just did the right thing Wolfie. Having said that, I think, it would be difficult for me to hide my excitement from my close ones. What I am and what and how I feel get apparent and even though it would be wise I do not think I could do that. Now, coming to the consequences, I have to deal with it with strong heart. It's not easy for me.
@eaforeman6 (8979)
• United States
22 Nov 08
I have . I kept quiet when I got raises because it would have caused friction and by keeping quiet it saved others from getting jealous or mad. Sometimes when you work with others , its just best to keep it to yourself. I am usualy very homnnest and open . I am a firm believer in honesty and being as truthful as I possibly can.
@bluerainhong (400)
• China
26 Nov 08
Oh, it is difficult for me to hide my excitement? I even do not know why.
