How I am going to tell my son that Father Christmas does not exist?

I support you my friend. God and tell the truth to your son! I don't believe we should lie to our children just to add thrill every Christmas. We can always celebrate Christmas without making our children believe there is one Santa coming to give gifts. Why make Santa the center of child's attention during Christmas. Why not instill in the mind of our children that there is a Savior who was born to fulfill the greatest sacrifice to save mankind. Why not tell our children it it none but God who blesses us that's why there are gifts, toys and food in our home. Go and tell your son my dear that Santa does not exist but Jesus is and he needs Jesus more than anyone and anything else!

haha.. Well, get your father in law to call him back again ^_^ U cant lie to a kid, and especially now he's still waiting.. So all the more u cant disappoint him, as he might lose his trust in u too.. Get your father in law to explain to him, as well as u yourself too.. Telling him there's no santa claus, and as he grows up, i'm sure he will understand that ^_^

hey there..and happy day to ya..Soo i was wondering..if he still believes this year..why not let him? Kids are growing up more and more wayy earlier now adays..and he and you have been blessed that he is till innocent.and believes in such things.This is a very special time for him..he wil be grown up before u know it..soo just sit and relax..and he will know by next year for sure..thats when i found out.in school..my teacher told me...then i came home..and told my mom what she said and while we were watching Miracle on 34th Street she told me the truth....and to this day i REFUSE to watch it..i blame that movie for ruining my Christmas..soo take my advice..if theres something on tv..make sure its soemthign he already hates lol lol..but plzzzz wait til next year and have someone call this year..he has waited soo very long...have a good one! April

He will figure it out on his own so don't. My son was ten, I thought, when he figured it out, as we kept up the story for a long time. My daughter was younger so I told her not to tell her brother. It turns out he knew but did not tell us. It is harmless and it gives them happy memories. He may already know and is playing along with the adults. My son told me, years later, that he knew sooner but it was fun to pretend and so he kept it up. I was four when my brother told me and it sort of took some of the fun out of it. With my kids, we baked cookies for Santa, wrote letters, and just had a big thing going but they also knew what Christmas was really about. Many people, who do not believe in Christ, still do Christmas as it has become a holiday about giving, sharing and helping others. So, even if it is not all about Christ, for some, many good things happen around the world at Christmastime.

Hi ronaldinu, Don't tell him, he is till young and sometimes I wish I still believe in Santa, don't shatter his belive, as it is all too often kids are growing up to fast and not believing in anything, so let him be, he will grow out of it soon enough. Tamara

Just sit him down and talk to him and see where he is coming from. He probably knows already, just don't want to spoil things for you. I am sure he has had this conversation with other kids and they have told him that there is no Santa Claus or Father Christmas.

Oh no you are in a pickle. Maybe a friend could call? If he still believes that is great I think. My brother told his kids that Santa was fake. I think my nephew was only 5 when his Christmas bubble got poked and the baby was to young and my niece wasn't 8.I think that we should leave them be until they grow out of it themselves. They are enough Santa's running around to no have to break the illusion.

I don't believe there is a right age to tell your son. I found out very young, as I found things in a hall cupboard that were to come from Father Christmas three days later. Most kids get curious when other kids talk about parents buying the toys, and they see so many Santas at malls etc. Don't spoil nis illusion, he's only young once! On the pther hand some kids continue to fool their parents long after the reailze Father Christmas is a myth. They are afraid that when their parents know they don't believe the toys might stop. Parents beware.

Hi ronaldinu, Why do you have to tell him at all this year? He is only 8 years old and can have a couple of more years to believe in Santa Claus or Father Christmas as you say. You can figure out something to tell him about Santa Claus not calling this year, or maybe you could arrange for someone to call him. I think that children should remain children and enjoy these beliefs for as long as possible. Blessings.

Why do you need to tell him? Most children find out on their own. Actually this is the second discussion I've seen with this exact same question and honestly until I saw the first one, it never even occurred to me to tell my children.

I wouldn't tell him, just let him be innocent as a little child, they grow up too fast these days, one of these days he'll figure it out on his own. Up until last year my nephew still believed in him, and he was 11, but now he says he knows Santa isn't real, that its really his mom that gives the presents..lol. I don't know how he figured it out, nobody told him anything, he just did.

In our case it was Santa Claus, I remember the conversation started out with how happy they were,(there were 3 , we told them all together) waiting for Santa and how much they enjoyed the suspense of waiting for him. Then we said that Santa is a wish that all parents had for their children and so the stories which we all loved came about. Santa is not really a lie he is a feeling and like all fairy tales is based on truth but in our time the stories are used to make the season that much better for kids. Then we also told them the story of St Nickolas who lived a long time ago. I think that by the time they were told they were ready to understand all this, anyway it went over OK. Good luck

Hi ya ronaldinu I nearly included a link to my discussion about the very same thing but you have already responded to my discussion so I am now responding to yours! I actually don't see any harm in them beleiving in father christmas/santa claus for as long as they wish to. I think my son will tell me himself when he no longer believes in him or doesn't want to believe anymore. I was shocked today when my friend told me that she has always told her kids there is no Father Christmas but they still get a stocking. Then she told me how upset she was when her parents told her that he didn't exist and she doesn't want her kids to go through the same thing as she did! Ahhhh

let him believe one more year and then explain to him on another season dont ruin his Christmas right in the middle of it! then you can tell him it is not important that santa exists it is that he can live on in the good feelings and the spirit of the season

Why tell him? Let him find out for himself. That's how most kids find out. It's around this age when they start to realize. Some find out a lot older then 8. Don't ruin it for him right now during this time of year... maybe wait about 3 months after Christmas if you really want to tell him. I just think it's bad timing to spill the beans now, but I do wish you luck & when you do decide to tell him, just tell him the best way you feel fit. Good luck!

Well, it's probably about time that he'll be asking some questions. If the subject comes up, tell him that Santa was originally Saint Nicholas who put gifts in children's shoes on Christmas Eve. And that his spirit lives on today. If he asks more after that, tell him that Santa is in the heart of every parent and you take a lot of joy in playing the role. My two boys asked me around that age, and they understood when I explained it that way. Just be sure that your son knows how much joy you get playing Santa, because you love him so much. And be sure he understands the spirit of Christmas, how much giving gives the giver.

Aaaahh the joys of youth...wait am I talking about? I'm still pretty young right?!? Anyway back then in those days I thought Santa was real I didn't care much as long as I got presents. The time I stopped believing in Santa was when some kids at school made fun of another child for talking about Santa like he was real. and of course me being the kind of person who doesnt want to look stupid (unintentionally anyway) I just stopped believeing.Also at the time my mom would actually let me pick out my christmas presents and buy them in front of me. So Father Christmas wasn't a word used often in my house. Oh yea about your problem, I say just tell the kid. He's gotta figure sooner or later and he might end up looking like an (pardon me) idiot in front of his friends. So brainstorm and find a way!! luck to ya!

Hi dear, Really it is a big problem to convince or make understand the children's and now the situation you are there i can't even imagine what could be done to make your child understand.I think you have to lie with your child like father christmas is on world tour helping poor people and will come back when you are at 15years old. Convey this messege to your son in a letter or a greeting.You send a greeting to your child on the name of father christmas then he may understand and wait up to 15years.By that time he is grown up and you can tell him the truth.Send a gift along with the greeting on the name of father to your son to make him happy...

I told my son when he was 8 and had 2 three year old sisters. He was starting to show signs of doubt and I wanted them to be able to believe a little longer. The next year when Christmas rolled around he acted as if he had never been told. I think he thought if he didn't believe he wouldn't get presents...LOL...so we went right along with him. Your son will let you know when the time is right. Chances are he knows and doesn't want to spoil the fun of believing. So have Grandpa call him and wish him a Merry Christmas.

Why worry about telling him. When I used to watch Superman, Spiderman, Batman and other superhuman characters I believed that they really existed but later on I realized that they were just imaginary characters just to amuse kids...even your kid is no different, now he thinks that Santa really exists but, slowly even he will come to know the truth. happy lotting