A Women Refused To Adopt A Ugly Baby!

If I wanted an ugly baby I would have one of my own.

So what? There will be someone that will adopt a baby without caring about the looks.

I would love to adopt a little girl and if I did it wouldn't matter what she looked like. She would get a loving and caring home with me. I have two boys already so I wouldn't want to adopt a boy. The lady was shocking for saying ugly baby. My friend fosters two little girls aged five months and three years old. The five month old was almost bald and dressed in boyish clothing the first time she met them. She was expecting two girls and she thought she had been given a girl and a baby boy. Once dressed in pink she looked like a baby girl. My friend is a caring foster carer and excellent at what she does.

You have to do what you are comfortable with. If you can't handle an ugly baby then you shouldn't adopt one. It's good to know and be realistic with your limits. Even if they seem shallow to others. The important thing is that the "ugly" baby didn't end up with parents that wouldn't have liked the child that much. Someone else might not think the baby is ugly at all and the baby will have a much happier life growing up with that family instead of the ones who are scared off. It doesn't make the original family bad they are just being honest. There is not enough honesty these days I think.

That tells me alot about the kind of person she is. Need I say more?

I Personally wouldn't expect a women of her age to say something so nasty. with age wisdom should come but I think it skipped her. some people are just rude and shouldn't be allowed to raise children with that kind of perspective. This very thing is what is wrong with the world today. Everyone is more concerned with looks thats why we are so corrupt now. I wouldn't want her around my kids let alone raising any. My children will grow up knowing that everyone is beautiful creations of God, and to say something like that is just morally and ethically wrong.

Haha thats so funny to me,all babies are cute ....I do not understand why a woman in her 60's would even want to adopt a child...She will be old as dirt before the child grows up..

Not only is the woman ignorant but she's too old to adopt a child anyway. Think about this when the child is 15 a time when a child needs parental guideness the old woman is 75 and what have you got in common with a teenager at that age? This is ridiculous. I wonder how cute this old girl is?

I think that even though this woman said it, I'd bet that a lot of people in this situation think. Even if its rude. The whole thing is that adoption is all about choice. And a lot of adopting couples pick and choose the attributes that they want the child to have, both physically and mentally. Most couples want a child of the same race as they are, they want them a particular gender, they want healthy children, some have even gone as far as choosing from different scholastic backgrounds from the parents, some want a particular color hair or eyes, etc. Couples search for children or women that bear children that look most like them. There are the couples that simply want a living child to love and care for. All of the things that I mentioned above doesn't matter to those people. You and your husband probally fit this mode. But you can't assume that everyone else thinks that way. It would not have surprised me at all to hear that.

I would have held my temper about things like that until after the adobtion is final. Then that person would have an ear full from me. So what if the baby is ugly at least it was healthy and no problems existed.The problem with these people its all about the job and nothing about caring about the babies. And to me thats sad. But i would get one anyone of them if i could which ever one they would give me i would take. So just dont worry about what she said go with ur heart and pick the one u would like. Happy mylotting

I don't know what she really meant, but that is surely a rude woman. She should treat people as equal and children are beautiful. I can't imagine some woman saying that.

Reading this, I remember a couple who adopted a baby girl few years ago. The child is obviously with physical defects and has speech problem and learning disability. the couple have grown up children . The family loves the baby girl so much, that she is the apple of the eye of the whole family. The mother told me the baby is their lucky charm, their business went really good when they had her, they became more prosperous and life became easier and enjoyable. I though that time, they because they were not selfish to give their love to the baby despite of her shown defects and so the Lord gave them more that they can expect .

Yes that is a very ugly thing to say in thinking one of God's precious creatures could be considered ugly.Ironically I have heard that the so called "ugly babies" grow pretty so you never know .The truth is beauty is supericial and some of the "so called pretty babies" god forbid will end up doing bad things so we should cherish all babies and teach them well- hope you get the point I am making.

i will not adopt a child depending on the look of the child, because my attitude is that everybody in the world are same.i dont belive in things like racism. so its stpid to say the if you adopt a child try to adopte a beautifull one, adopting a child is not a thing like going to market and buying a fruit.

That is absolutly horrible! Every child deserves to be loved and have people who care for them. To say such a thing is just awful of her!! I would think that picking out a child to love and care for is something that should be taken seriously and from what it seems it's not taken as serious by this woman who would turn away an innocent child because of looks. I mean it's a human life you going to be raising and taking care of not a beauty contest.

Oh my God, poor woman thinking that so bad. Why is the baby is ugly it means s/he don't have a right to live in a good life with mum and dad? What kind of thinking she has, i think it's not very good.If i heard that i maybe going to walk out, i can't take that kind of word from him. What if she become ugly and people reject her, how could she feel? Poor thinking and i feel so bad, she's so ugly more than the ugly baby coz of her ugly attitude and views. Happy posting.

That is a horrible thing to say! However, I can see a person choosing a more attractive child over a homely one, it's just what any person might do. It's just the way it is. I would probably not mind at all to have a homely child, because then it would be easier to teach him or her about character. I think it's not as shocking to me that somebody said that, as it is that they said it out loud, as though to give advice.

This is disgusting! Children are not designer cars. You don't get to pick out make, model, and design if you're pregnant, so why should adopting be any different? Further more, adopting is supposed to be about the child, not about PAPs/APs picking out the baby that will best go with their home decor. I think anyone who says things like this should not be allowed to adopt...ever.

I am sorry, but you are right, that is just horrible what she said. You adopt a child to give he/she a loving/caring home. A child is a natural miracle to have no matter it be your birth child or an adopted child. It should not matter on the looks of the child, it should matter that you are giving the child a place to call home.

I`m not agree ith that kind of thinking but, if someone decides to adopt a child, i think that they must like that child, so thay can take carre of him and do not treat him wrong as i saw cases on TV. So,I think that all childrens are lovely , there are no ugly kids but when is about adopting, the most important thing is to find a connection between future parents and the child.