Oh I should have met her first !!!

First off what went through my head was a question of how was the first person when you two first got together. Was it butterflies and she was mild or was it always lacking butterflies and she was always easily angered? For myself I think relationships change as time goes on. I have a partner of 12 years and when we met he was always tidy and stuff. I was always affectionate and mild. But as children came and time went on, the relationship changed from courting to a deeper family love. And there are times now he hasn't shaved and times I am cranky after a bad day. But I still get butterflies when I see him and he says it is the same for him. But it isn't that rush you get when you are first dating when each person is putting their best behavior forward. My concern is that you may like the romance of first falling in love. The second girl will have bad days and over time you will see that. Are you going to replace her when a new fresh relationship becomes possible? Are you going to regret leaving the first girl once the second girl becomes secure and shows her less great side (which we all have). Will she be able to stick with you like the first when you go through your bad times? What I think right now for you is that you are not ready to have any long term relationship. I would think it fair to be honest with both girls about how you feel and let them decide what they want to do.

Hi you never know anybody till you live with them,she might after a while be the same as your present girlfriend who by all accounts is loyal and faithfull.If you really are not ready to settle down with this girlfriend you are with at the moment then tell her you are very sorry and leave her to find someone that will give her what she needs there full attention.Don't continue with theis relationship because you feel it is the right thing todo or you will find your self with kids and marrage and you will be trapped for ever.It seems to me you have fallen in love with this other girl for goodness sake be honest or you stand to hurt a lot of people including yourself.I hope this helps.xxx

I just remembered reading a phrase from an e-mail in my local language (let me translate this in English), "If you are in-love with two people, leave the first one. Because you won't be looking for a second one if you love the first one." Or something like that. Do not lie to your current partner and tell her the whole truth, the reason why your experiencing this kind of challenge in your life. With this you won't be lying to yourself as well. You could live your life withour hesitation, withour lies. That, I guess, is a very important thing. So to you, I wish good luck with your face to face confession with your current partner.

watch tyler perry why did i get married.... 80/20 rule in marriage you only get 80 percent of your needs met....the other 20 you can get from someone else, but then you leave the 80 for the 20 i think if you find that you dont love someone anymore then yes you should say so and move on, but i dont think you should leave the one you are with just because you saw another woman that you think could possibly be better.

Dont cheat on your current relationship partner. From my past experience, you will probably be hated a lot and have a pit in your stomach.

Well, your emotions have given you the answer already, haven't they. It's better to be honest directly than to live in a lie and hurt the other one by lying. I've been on the opposite side and I know for a fact that it's better to be told the truth directly than to find it out later that the loved one has been cheating. Be cruel now and spare the girl from future suffering. It's a hard thing to do, but at the end, it's the best. Always be honest. :)

you have to follow your heart, and do what you think is best for you. but at least be honest with the one you're with. sometime opsite attrack. my wife and i are totally different in many ways. good luck

me i will stay loyal even if she's perfect i don't care what i care is how much i love my partner hitting two birds in one stone is like you're hurting two people at the same time, you better fall in love to the ones whose already beside you, don't get tempted

My dear friend, i dont know if you are been thrue that situation but if you are let me tell you something. Follow your hearth, if you feel so good about that new girl dont let her go. YOU WILL BE SORRY. If its just a example, anyway, i think the same, people should he happy with their partner. I know its not easy, sure not, to leave a person that you love and you shared a lot with that person, but its very IMPORTANT TO BE CAREFULL, TO THINK WELL BECAUSE YOU CAN REALISE THAT YOU LOVE YOUR PARTNER, BUT WHAT IF YOU ALWREADY LEFT PARTNER? There is one movey about that subject its called IF ONLY actor realised when he left his girlfriend he realised that he loves her not the girl he thought, butit was late or not ;o) , the movey gave chance, or not? WATCH THE MOVEY *if only*

this happened to me. i left the first one for the second one and it's awesome!