Having a baby makes you fertile!
By liquorice
@liquorice (3887)
November 21, 2008 6:16pm CST
I know so many people who conceived their second baby the first month that they tried; far too many for it to be a coincidence! It makes me think that since you've had one child, your body knows what it's doing now; it has learnt exactly what it's supposed to do with that sperm and that egg! No need for it to mess around this time!
For most of the women I'm talking about, conceiving their first babies took longer, much longer in some cases (for some it took a few years), but the second one was a piece of cake!
Obviously this doesn't happen to everybody, and I know that some people find it more difficult to get pregnant the 2nd time, just seems to be this way in this neck of the woods!
Did this happen to you? Why do you think it happens?
10 responses
@balasri (26537)
• India
30 Nov 08
You got a point there.It seems that these organs and systems remain so dumb to react to a fresh situation until they are trained by an first experience and practice.
My aunt remained childless for ten years after marriage.Do you believe that she gave birth to seven children in succession after her first issue?
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@liquorice (3887)
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30 Nov 08
Yes, that's happened to a few people I know (although none of them had as many as 7 kids, yikes!!) But yes, someone who thinks themselves infertile after many years of trying can become the most fertile person in the world after just one pregnancy! And you're right about the organs being a bit dumb, lol!
@chantalgiardina (2523)
• United States
22 Nov 08
it is true that once you have yoru first child it is easier to get pregnant.. asked my doctor about it lol..
lets just say that im on mirena now cause i dont want to have another one. my daughter is 3 weeks and i just dont think i could love someone else the way i love her.
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@liquorice (3887)
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26 Nov 08
That's interesting, thanks for the information. You're sensible to be careful, it would be so hard to have another one when your daughter's so young.
It's none of my business, but do you think you'll want another one when your daughter's older? I ask this because my daughter's nearly three and I still feel the same way about maybe not being able to love another child as much! But I assumed that everybody felt like that, until they had the next one.. Will have to give that some thought!
@liquorice (3887)
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26 Nov 08
I'm sorry to hear about the miscarriages, must have been so horrible for you both. I don't blame you for giving up after the last two, it's understandable.
I'm glad that you got a wriggler, who, if I remember rightly, is bit older than a wriggler now..
Thanks for your view.
@kezabelle (2974)
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22 Nov 08
Straight after having a baby or a misscarriage you are a lot more fertile hence why they give you such big lectures on birth control before allowing you to leave hospital!
For us though our first daughter pregnant first month second daughter took 4 months of trying however i think we were very very lucky it can take some people years and 6 -18 months of trying for someone of my age (24) is actually quite normal so we were very lucky I think.
@liquorice (3887)
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26 Nov 08
Yes, they do give you lots of lectures. I thought it was funny that I got so many, but I know that there's a good reason for it! I suppose that you conceived so quickly the first time around that it was impossible that the second time would be quicker. You're right, four months is still pretty quick. A few of the people I know took several years the first time, but the second time around fell pregnant within one month of trying. As they waited a couple of years in between trying, it seems that this increased fertility must last a while. Very interesting stuff!
@scorpio19 (1363)
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22 Nov 08
Hi,
well I was one of those women it did happen to, I got pregnant more or less straight after having my first, well they were born 12 months apart, both in the month of December so as you can tell there was no planning on our part because we would of picked a less expensive month for out kids to be born. It is very true that women are more fertile after just having had a child I was told this before I left the maternity ward and obviously I did not listen.
@liquorice (3887)
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22 Nov 08
Wow, yes, they are close together. And I hear what you're saying about wanting to pick a different month! It's nice though that they can grow up together and be good friends for oneanother. Actually, the women I know who got pregnant the first month of trying mostly waited around two years before actually "trying", but it happened for them first time.
Maybe it's not just after having a child that you're more fertile. Maybe your body just stays more fertile for a while? That's what I'm starting to think after having more and more mums tell me this!
@herumana (52)
• Guinea
22 Nov 08
My sons were born 15 months apart.
Don't get me wrong...I'm the father...:)
Well....I think.....it may be true that having her first baby makes a mother fertile...more fertile...
But it is also because that period is a father's first period not having...you know what...for at least 30-40 days....so no wonder...when he finally can "attack" his wife...he will "attack" again...again...and again...lol with all amunition he got.
so....the wife was fertile...and the father was a sharpshooter....bingo....they got their second jackpot.....:)
@liquorice (3887)
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26 Nov 08
Lol, you're right, I hadn't considered the father's part in all this. The sperm becomes so concentrated through inactivity that it turns into super-sperm! 
Thanks for this insightful answer..
Thanks for this insightful answer..
@cyberfluf (4996)
• Netherlands
26 Dec 08
I haven't got any children yet, but because I work in child daycare I do see this happening a lot with parents who allready have a child at our daycare and get pregnant not long after they have given birth to their first or second child.
Why this is, I am not sure. Perhaps certain hormones are created and get into your bloodstream after a first pregnancy? This is however a wild guess...
@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
1 Jan 09
Yes, your observations are right, when we planned our second baby, we succeeded in the first go. May be you are correct, the body of a woman knows what is required to be done. I think, for the second or third time it does not take much time for conceiving.
Happy New Year to you!
@se7enthbird (8307)
• Philippines
22 Nov 08
i have a two year old son his picture appears at my avatar. my wife got a lot of miscarriages before we hit the jackpot. from that she decided that one is enough. i can not blame her.... it was really depressing specially for her. but what am i doing here? i like to respond in your discussion logically. i am a guy and does not know much about they reproductive system of a woman. but what i have in mind is this. the uterus of a woman is very clean. the doctors clean it very well after the baby comes out. so it is easier for women to get pregnant because she has a clean uterus. that is what i think.
@liquorice (3887)
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22 Nov 08
Aw, he looks sweet! I'm sorry to hear about the miscarriages you and your wife suffered. That must be such a horrible thing to go through, even once. I can definitely understand her decision. Thanks for taking the time to reply and give me your theory!
