Do you feel letdown?
By andrew1412
@andrew1412 (60)
India
November 22, 2008 2:43am CST
I have a close friend that I like alot and I even go out of my way to do things for him. I do anything without saying no to him.I go where ever he calls me. Help him a lot in his studies,etc. But the problem is that he is very close to another guy and tries to ignore me infront of him. I have no hard feelings against this other guy and he is one of my close friends too but time and again my friend shows a biased attitude towards this guy. Even today we planned to go out and everything was perfect but just at the last moment this guy said that he wasn't interested in comin so my friend made all of us call off the outing. This is not the first time that this is happening. I wonder if I should go upto my friend and speak to him about it. But my fear is what would happen if I cause a rift between any of us.What should I do?
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3 responses
@shefalis (81)
• India
24 Nov 08
In such a situation if you go and speak with him the chances are there might be rift between the two of you.So either you be prepared for it and incase you are not willing to do it. Just start making yourself unavailable to the person sometimes. Incase he is really a close friend of yours,he might feel the indifference and talk to you. Incase he does not then there is no point in pursuing a friendship wherein you are only needed when he wants you. As per the other guy it seems he is more impressed and wants to follow the other friend. Sometimes people get impressed with few people and try to please them. The case can be similar to yours where you are always there for him. You might never know the other guy treats your friend in a similar fashion as well.So back off and njoy. If it true friendship things would fall in place. There is no need to get hurt. You need to put your priorities straight.
@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
22 Nov 08
sounds like he isnt that good of a friend to begin with! a real friend wouldnt ignore you based upon other people being around.. i would talk to him and tell him you feel he is treating you weird when the other person is around and ask him if there is a reason and if that ends the friendship then you will know you really didnt have one..
i know its horrible losing friends but its worse having bad friends treating you bad all the time
