Am I Being Unreasonable?

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I really need some help and advice. I am feeling really low right now and need some advice from people who don't know me. For the past month my husband and I have been friends with a married couple who moved to our Church. During this time these friends have come into our lives and tried to change things. When they first came round to our house they told us that this needed moving and that needed moving there. Basically they were telling us how they would have the house arranged if they were us. They would say things to us totally out of the blue without really thinking about them. Really offensive things like after we tidied up all day we had them over for dinner and when we asked if the place was tidy they said it looked lived in. One day they came over and the wife who I will name Sarah thats not her name, but I don't want to say her name. The man I will name Mark. So Sarah said to us do you think Mark is attractive because I think he is above attractive looks. I didn't know what to say so I just agreed. I sing in the choir at Church and I have insecurities about singing that Sarah knows. So she turned round to me one time and said that I sung too quietly and always relied on her to sing louder. I stopped doing that so last week I sung the wrong part by accident and she's there waving her hands at me. Then she said to my husband that she was only trying to help me and just waved one hand at me which is a lie. Knowing my daughter's 3rd birthday is coming up Sarah invited herself around to make all the food and said that Mark and my husband would move all the furniture and then I could invite everyone round from Church. She decided this and then pushed it onto me without asking if that was what I wanted. Then one time my husband asked her what you needed to open a bank account it was just a question. So she turns round and says that her and her husband will come round one day and sort all our finances out. We only asked her what we needed to open a bank account. I think you may get the picture by now? The thing is we don't know if we are making a fuss or not but, we feel very pressured by them and they keep inviting themselves round. Now fast forward to tonight and why I am feeling so depressed. My so called friends told us we were going out with them to take my daughter out. I took my Avon book so I could have a look at it whilst we were there. Sarah snatched it off me as soon as I got it out of my handbag without even asking if she could have a look at it. Mark was sat at the same table and started firing questions at me about why I got up in the mornings and things like that. He came to the conclusion that I gave more attention to the fact I love acting rather than my family which is not true. I then got up and went to see what my daughter and husband were doing as I had, had enough of Mark firing questions at me and trying to do his so called psychology on me. When I went to sit back at the table Mark had gone over to my husband and Sarah was sat there reading my Avon brochure which she has not given me back. So I started talking to her and she moved seats to exactly the same chair. Oh she's pregnant by the way. When I asked her why she had moved she said it was more comfortable which was also a lie because the chair was exactly the same. So I asked her if I was talking too much and she said no. So I asked her if I talked too much in general. Which she replied, "To be honest, yes you do." she said. Then she threw this Bible verse at me knowing I was a Christian, "You must understand this, my dear brothers. Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry." So am I the one being unreasonable or is these people? Also is there a name psychologically to define people like this? Or is it just me being unreasoable?