You are engaged, then someone comes along. What would u do?

Well for me for as long as there is no wedding bells that rang then anything is possible. I know this may sound to gurt someone but just make sure that you make the right decision for yourself. Remember that for every choice you make you have both benefits and a price to pay for that decision. so choose wisely for yourself and for everybody.

Well, if I am a girl in the situation I will still choose my fiance.. I'm still going to marry him even though I had met so many guys during the engagement stage.. I'm going to marry him its not because I don't want to hurt him but because I love him.. When I decided to marry him I am already sure that its him whom I want to spend the rest of my life. And besides even we are not engage yet there's plenty of men that I had met and a possibility that I might fall in love with them or I might like them but it didn't happen since I have a strong faith in my self that I love him so much.. So,same thing will happen during our engagement stages no matter how many guys will I met and there's a big possibility that I might like and love them still I will not go for it because I know that the one whom I am engage with is the right one for me and the one I truly love...

I think it's terrible to toss away an engagment simply because you meet someone new. Meeting someone new is like a novelty to me. It's new, you want to see what it's like. Eventually, the novelty would wear off. There isn't anyway I'd want to break off an engagement simply because I saw someone new that I could be interested in.

I was in a situation where I was engaged to this one man but found my heart and mind was always going to this other person. I felt so bad that I promised my boyfriend that I would stay with him but always wished I could be with the other man. He even knew of the other man because it was so hard to hide our feelings. Though I denied it at the time, I did break up with him, because I didn't want to spend the rest of my life with someone I was not happy with. I have been with the other man now for 12 years. My ex eventually found another woman to marry last year and is very happy. IT was only fair to end it if you are having feelings for someone else. Because eventually you will find staying with the man too hard and if you wait too long, it could be divorce or worse children involved. I am glad that I didn't make that horrible mistake of marrying the other man and I am still madly in love with my partner. We have gone through some difficult times, we just can't seem to live without each other.

based on a woman's point of view, if i met a man then im already engaged, i have to make it a point that i can do every possible way that i could to avoid him, while i still don't fall for him. but if the situation is inevitable and i found out that i have already fallen for him and he feels the same way too, then i'll be brave enough to call the engagement off, and face my fiance and tell him the truth that i can't marry him because i'm inlove with somebody else.

I was engaged and broke off the engagement with him because he was too abusive. I was sick and tired of it. I ended up going out with a close friend of mine as just friends on a date. A year and a half later we were engaged. Then married the next summer. I am still married to my husband. My ex fiance ended up with my husbands ex girlfriend and they hare got married the year before we did!! We were just with the wrong people I guess.LOL I am so glad we figured it all out before it was too late!!

Well I did what I could to figure out who envoked more of an emotion from me. With my situation was that the other guy was better than the fiance. I am actually glads I didn't get married because I am now in a relationship with someone wonderful that I probably wouldn't have met and got to know if I was married.

I think that if this happens to you, you should rethink the engagement. You are clearly not ready to commit to one person for the rest of your life. Better that you discover this BEFORE you marry.

If I am the bf, I will go what my girl makes her happy. If I am the new guy, I will control and suppress my feelings for the girl. I would rather avoid her than letting the feeling grow deeply.

COME WHAT MAY....I will try to balance the situation. Life is too short. Get to know the other guy better. If his love for me won't surpass the love that my fiance gives me, then I have to remain with my fiance. Relationships is like a business, you will invest on it. You may think you will be happy with the new guy, but did you think that would be forever? You'll start anew. Just enjoy everyday of your life and make wise decisions.

I'm talking for a normal condition, means current partner had no black-mark, like get caught cheating or else. Personally, I won't take the risk. Canceling an engagement and made another relationship with the new guy, resembling we start from zero again. Thus, we had been spending some times with our current partner. It's not an easy path until we both had entered in the gate of marriage. If a new guy slips in, supposed we're dealing with him about the marriage. Supposed again that he agreed, that will procreate millions of question inside me, even though I'm happy, but still, why did he accept it so easily and quickly? He even doesn't know who I am, and neither do I? And many more likely questions. Briefly, why would I waste my time by restarting everything again? Along with, "It's not easy to get -A Man- in a marriage." Basically, if we follow our emotion part, to choose the new one. Not only we're hurting our current partner (in case our current partner didn't do anything wrong). If we did, we're not only lying to him and everyone, but especially to ourselves. We're running in a fake relationship with current partner. We're easily being swirled by emotional winds, and if we cannot stand for it from now, what will be happened to us when we're in marriage? Love in a relationship, is not a brief chemical stroke, but a foundation that had to be built and consumes plenty of time for a mutual comprehension and understanding. These both play the biggest role in order to attain a reliable relationship, rather than a chemical type that produces more pains in the end. This is me. Thanks, maean. It's very interesting topic to be discussed with. Have a nice day. GBU.

I think even if you're married your future isn't written in stone. Nobody can be sure who or what will they love in 2, 5 or 10 years! What I am trying to say is that even if you are engaged, or even married, and you are not happy (or you believe you can be happier with someone else), you have the right to change your life around. Sure it will probably hurt the other person a lot, but its preferable that you hurt him/her when being honest than to stay with him/her when you actually love someone else! That will hurt much more, trust me! The important thing is: never ever lie, never ever cheat, and always be respectful and considerate! As long as you do that, you have every right to fight for your own happiness!

My rule for life: Keep things simple. stick to that and you will not go far wrong. Messy situations cause heartache and pain.

I think that too often people get nervous; the proverbial cold feet. With that being said we turn to other people who we hope can make us feel better and all of it is due to fear. However, in this situation it's best to be honest always and go with your heart I suppose. If you're going to go for the other person at least break it off with your significant other. Don't turn the good memories into terrible memories by going after the other person while still in a relationship.

Hello,I am engaged right now . I dont know what i would do . I am a true romantic and know anything is possible. If you feel things with the new man you just met that you never felt with your fiance then there is a prob . I think then maybe if you think it is the risk you could explore those feelings . If you are unhappy now get out , but remember sometimes there is no going back . I cant think of my life with out my fiance but things happen for a reason and this might be a test.

In my most practical way if I am not yet married I better to have him for I was sure that he really I love most than my present boyfriend. We have the right to choose our partner in life with the right decision to make. So if I feel he really I love i will prefer to select him but I will make sure first before I decide. There is a possibility to change my feelings again what if I decide to choose the new one and at the end I realize that i don;t love him, oh it was terrible. Better to think first many times before to decide.

i would surely go for which my heart says.. u dont have a second life... u may discard an engagement. main things is people talks about it for a while and they will forget. u dont have to consider those. better make ur life the ones ur heart says

I guess if you contemplate on breaking an engagement just because "it is possible to like someone" that you just met, you shouldn't contemplate on engagement altogether! A commitment should be more than just saying you would be together-until someone else comes along! This should be a non-issue, you should be with the one you really love and cannot be without. Life is too short to spend with the wrong person.

I personally would accept my girlfriend's decision because I would not want to be in one of the marriages where we have a falling out 2 years in because she doesn't think I am the one for her or worse, she cheats on me. I am a reasonable person so I really wouldn't have too much of a problem with it. If I was in the shoes of the other guy I would probably respect man-law unless the other guy was as chill as me haha.

In this situation, I will NOT ask myself "To whom am I in love more"? because you might feel more intensely in love with the new guy because it's new. But instead, I will ask myself "which of them can I let go?" It might be easier to decide.