Issit wrong to be close with someone who is gender opposite than you?

i think it's good that your bf is jealous because it means he really likes you. however, he could reach a point where he's too over-possessive which i think is why you are feeling restricted to be able to hang out with your guy friends. i think trust in a relationship is really important. apparently, he doesn't trust you well enough you allow you to hang out with them. i think you could try working on the trust element in your relationship with your bf.

If I were your bf, I also would feel afraid and in my opinion, you also need to leave your guyfriends in a littlet far way as maybe you would fall with them in the situation you don't know. I suggest you do this rightly if you love your bf

Hi dear well if u can go with ur B/f it means its acceptable in ur society, then sure he must not xcomplain but trust me his doubt has some grounds too, some times so much closeness and attachment may change nature of relation Take care

see dear you have only two ways get out this matter one you need discuss about this thing with your boy friend and explain him clearly that you are strict about your feelings you are not going to fall for any one except your boy friend another way is to completly avoid your friends because in these world if you get anything you need to loose something equalent to it.

I think your bf and I are on the same boat when I was with my first bf during college. He is very friendly especially with other girls and I was so jealous about it that we ended up our relationship after a year. I was able to move on but then I've fallen again for another guy that has the same activities as my first bf but he's much more close to his same gender friends which is ok for me. As of now that I'm married, I learned to accept my husband (which was my 3rd and last bf)because he is also friendly to almost all people in our street! As I go with the flow I soon then realized that we should accept the one we love no matter what he or she is. And we must give them time to be with their friends. I think you could explain it to your bf that if he loves you he should accept who your friends are if not he must try to avoid them hahaha just joking! he must atleast bond with your friends sometimes so he will know them better. I do get jealous still sometimes about my husband's friends especially the girls for his level up games activities but I try to avoid them if possible! Hope that I've shared something that could help the both of you and your relationship. Godbless!

Well, first of all...there is no right or wrong....and when it comes to calling a spade a spade, I would have to agree with you BF in thinking that you would eventually fall for your close guy friend. But what he needs to understand is that this is what human nature is all about and that he need not worry about it because there is plenty of fish out in the sea. The fact that you enjoy him being jealous about you is walking the tightrope. You view this as a way of 'controlling' him and that's not good because ebery action and thought has an equal and opposite reaction and you might not like that. And he also needs to know that jealousy accurs with a selfish motive. So let's not pretend anything here because we know what everything is about and develop guts and clarity to accept what is.

if you are already engaged, then it is not so right to be close with other person. it may be the case of discomfort for your BF. but I also believe in friendship, you can also be good friend with others,

Love can still change even though it's more than 20 over years.. SO it's naturally right for him to feel that way.. iMagine yourself in his shoes, and that he has got 3 very closed female frenz whom he hang around with.. How will u feel?? Secure and think it's normal?? If so, then i think u dun really love him as much.. Though u might say it's trust, but still, there will be jealousy ^_^ SO, if u want him to understand u, u have to understand him either ^_^ HAve a good talk over it ^_^

First of all, I feel very nice to hear your love story. There are really a very few in this world who love truly and i being one of this lot respect them a lot. I think you should tell your boyffriend all about these guys, I mean you should make sure that they (ur bf n ur friends)are very good friends with each other. According to me, it isn't wrong to be close to someone of the opposite gender UNLESS U R SURE ABOUT THESE GUYS. If your bf has good relationship with these guys, he'll start trusting them (if they are rightful) and if the trust becomes stronger, he'll even feel that you are safe with these guys. Thats the magic of trust.... A very nice discussion, even I'm worried sometimes about my gfs company. But I always try to make friends with all of her friends........... Take care and may your love succeed all hardships of life....

A relationship can not work out when there is no trust

well to be honest its only human nature to be jealous and i asked my bf if i made him jealous and he said yes. I flirt unconciously.i try not to do anything to upset him because i want this relationship to work,since i stink at relationsips .i still hang around my other male friends bc their cool and they treat me like am their sister.he gets me jealous but he explains that he doesn't like those other chicks and he's all mine. i belive him after all if he wants one of them i can always drop his butt.

hmm..well it happens to me too with my man, but i have only 2 bestmale friends. i know that only with them i can get close with, not other guyz. coz my man's tolerance is just with them, he understood that me n those 2 bestfriends r close even closer than me to him sometimes..but me as his woman, understood that i cant pass the limit, he's already great by letting me still be with those 2 bestfriends thats why i wont break his heart.. try to give him some good explanation, but dont lie =) he'll understand..beside, u n him like me n my man havent married yet, still there r lotz of possibilities whether if he will be our future husband or one of those bestfriends we have or maybe some1 else..*wink*

Really your boyfriend is jealous towards the one you are going out.It is human nature, scared of losing some relationship close to their heart.He is correct.In due time,you may start comparing your boyfriend with the one you are moving close.And there are definite chances you may prefer the other.So.in his view,He is more possesive about you and he is expecting you to be loyal enough.You may please abide with it.

maybe he's insecure...you need to check up with him if he feels that way.or else your relationship wouldn't work out..

I think your boyfriend is absolutely right. You are playing with fire. You need to decide who you want to be with and to show the one you choose the utmost respect. This is not about trust and friendship, this is about loyalty and respect and your boyfriend, whoever you choose, should come first...way ahead of anyone else. He is the one you should see the most, he is the one you should turn to and he is the one you should confide in.....certainly not another guy. If the situation was in reverse and your boyfriend was doing what you are doing with other women...how would you feel?...be honest with yourself.

I think it is natural for a man to be jealous to see his girlfriend in the company of the opposite gender. When there is love, jealousy is bound to exist. It would not be normal for any relationship to flourish if there is no feeling of jealousy. But since there is no ties between both of you, you are free to mingle with anyone as an when you wish. He really has no right to stop you as the guy friends you are with are equal to his status, unless if you're both engaged then that would be a different story.Then there is a certain boundary that you've to abide.

Its natural for a person to feel insecure,be jealous. I m sure if he had girls as his close friends and went out with them like you do, you too at one point would feel the same. Its not about losing freedom or changing for someone. Its about making choices. Every relationship goes thru a change when someone new enters your life. Tomorrow if you married to that person, you would realise that the relationship with your friends would change. Priorities in life change. Its not a matter of understanding..it is how you would want him to look at it. Why dont you try taking him out with those friends when you are going with them. Its upto you to make him feel secured and show your love for him. It is also true that one might never know who one falls in love with. Level of understanding with friends is more as there are no strings attached or emotions as in a relationship.Its upto you to make him understand and realise your relationship with him and your friends.

i dont think there is anything we need to hide with our dear most friend only because he or she is of other gender. to be frank they will be knowing about our activities, our method of reacting the various likes, dislikes etc. so we dont need to try hide things from them just because they r not of the same gender. i think a close friend is one whom we can really rely on irrespective of gender..

Yup..i think your bf should be mature and understanding guy...to be an understandng guy is not easy,u should give support to your bf..u should keep telling him the truth between u and the other friends..make he feel better and comfortable to have gf like u...good luck..

I don't think it's wrong, having close male friends, but you have to be careful, I do know lots of people who eventually were faling in love with their close friends of the opposite gender. I you, however, are sure this won't happen, I don't think you have to give up good friendships because of your boyfriend. Something you can try: get your boyfriend to know your friends better, so he can join you lot when you're going out, and if he knows them better, he'll trust them and you with them. As you said, some jealousy is ok, it shows he loves you so much he doesn't want to share, but he also have to trust you, and it shouldn't be the most important thing in your relationship. Good luck with it, it's a difficult situation!