If you can't have your own biological child, are you open with adoption?

In my husbands side, two cousins have adopted a child because they could not have their own children. Filipino culture is not very open to this yet. Especially that my husbands family has this paternal and maternal figures whom we need to seek advise first before we do anything. Of course the whole family was not very open ot it. There were so many issues to tackle. It could have been better if one of the relatives was willing to give a child for adoption so the bloodline wont be too far...but even the poorest of a relative wont give up a child...which is quite understandable. So, one cousin adopted the daughter of a house help. Made everything legal. The other relative adopted somebody whose unwed mother did not want her child. The child from that unwed mother is now 5 years old. She was with them when she was realeased from the hospital. But it is different from the child of a house help. The biological mother came again angain to ask money. Unlike the one from the unwed mother whom the adoptive parents never met...the one fr the house help was too much trouble. My husband was personally against making the child legally adopted. He did not want the child to haveour family name. True enough...the girl from the house help grew up,got pregnant,eloped with an under graduate irresponsible boyfriend, got married and they rely on my husbands cousin's support. So adopting a child really is not a matter of choosing because we will never know whom to choose,I think it is just a matter of putting things right. Adopt maybe a children in a legally appropriate way...never know the parents...if the child will really look for the parents later on, then maybe it can be the child's perrogative.

I don't think there is anything wrong with adopting a child. In fact, you are a blessing to the baby because you are willing to give him/her the love and care that his/her biological parents are unable to give. They say that those who can't have babies then adopts one, eventually get to have their own baby too. I think its something about how the body responds to the thoughts and emotions of the couple as they become adoptive parents. I would be willing to adopt a child if I had enough means to. Maybe in the future, when my kids are already adults and I am no longer able to bear my own. I read of how a mom explained adoption to a boy, it goes something like " Adoption is when a baby grows in the heart of the mom instead of her tummy". Having a child at home is such a joy, don't be afraid and embrace the joy of being a mom, biological or foster.

As for me, I am very open with adoption. In fact, I have an adopted two children last year and my nannies are the one who looked after them in the Philippines, I can't get them here to be with me at the moment it will take a long process. And it is cheaper to raise them there than here, I love kids and want to help them have a better life that they deserve to live. Both of them are one of the least fortunate children in the world they all have disabilities but they are great.

Have you tried the chance for test tube babies?Here in India,there are more couples ,suceeded in getting their own blood child through test tube babies.Science has developed much here in this field.If you are to adopt a child,then question yourself of your generosity,how far you can go.After adopting a child you cant have a second thought.It will ruin all your life and the child's too.So,make a clear decision before adopting one.

there's nothing wrong with adopting a child, i think you're giving the child the chance to live with a complete family. if i were in your shoes i will consider adopting. i my case, i'm having problems with my pregnancy i had 2 miscarriage so adopting also came a cross my mind, and i'm sure i will give it a try if happen that i can no longer bear a a child.

Hi! I have 2 children of my own, one is adopted and the youngest is biological. I think it+s natural for you to question yourself about your decision! We did it all the time but when we got our daugther all hesitations disapeared and we know that we made the right choice :-) Good luck! If you have any questiobs don´t hesitate too ask me :-)

I already have a daughter... but i am still open for adoption... the only thing holding me back from adopting a baby is money reasons... it is not cheap to adopt a child because of all the paper works... and after that... i must be able to provide well for him/her... just like what i am providing my own daughter... So... when i am financially stable... and i have like more than enough... i would sure adopt one or two children...

It is true that our culture is not that open to adoption, and I also agree that should it be done, everything must go through legal channels. This topic is quite close to me because my husband and I are trying to have children and we acknowledge that this will be a challenge for us biologically. We are still hopeful, but when the time comes, we hope we will be as brave and as open to adopting as you are