how much time you need to move on?

I think it all depends on how much you love the person to move on. It's not easy to adjust being used to having a relationship. Especially when you expected that everything will be fine, then suddenly it's like a broken pieces of glass. That hurt you and the pains will be there even you accepted the fact that person is not there anymore. It's easy to accept yes but the memories will be hard to forget. So for me it doesn't take easily what was left behind. Picking pieces of your life wont be easy to. So it takes me time to forget everything and go on! Have a nice day!

If I broke with someone,I take long time to recover,maybe around a year except there is someone fill in the emptiness of my heart.

I don't think you can recover from a broken relationship within 30 minutes. I think that it is possible to move on from a broken relationship, but even that, probably not within 30 minutes if it were a serious relationship. You can certainly move on with life but that doesn't necessarily mean you have recovered from said relationship. That can take some time, weeks, months, years, but it doesn't mean that you need to put your life on hold. Life continues, no matter what, and only a fool does fully engage in that life. It may take a person a while to start dating again, but they may go out with a group of friends, etc. There are many ways to engage in life. Part of if depends on how old you are and what other responsibilities you have.

I think it depends on how long a person wants to linger in that pain. Some people move on fast because they could accept the reality easily or they don't want to prolong their suffering. Others take long because they want to make sure that the pain they feel is real. Others when hurt too much tend to shut down emotions and the only thing they feel is pain and it fills all the other lost emotions. I think it also depends on the gravity of the problem on how long a person could move on.

I think it depends on the situation. If its something small then 30 minutes seems about right. Relationship wise...depends on the circumstances of the break up. If it was mutual then it will be easy to get over, if it was complicated then it would of course take longer. When you have some sort of life crisis then 30 minutes will never cut it. For example, if you have been married for 10 years and you find out your husband has found someone else and has filed for divorce then do you really think that 30 minutes of crying is going to make everything ok? After 30 minutes you should be able to clear your head enough to realise that he has moved on with his life and now you should do the same? Ofcourse not. So it depends on the situation and it depends on the person.

i take a long time to move on from any broken relationship. reason being that this was the person you loved. and in my opinion, i don't think you can really stop loving the person just because things didn't work out.

Wow, I have to say it takes me longer than 30 minutes to move on for sure. I was crying for like a month the last time I got broken up with. And my girlfriend wasn't even all that great really, she was kind of an a-hole.

There's actually no specific or fix length of time to move on or mend a broken heart. The length of time depends on how the broken hearted accept and realize that he/she has to move on and continue life. With my past heartbreaks, there was a time that I easily moved on and there was also a time that it took me months and even a year to realize that it was really over. One factor that helps one to mend his/her broken heart is acceptance. But before you reach that point or stage is have time to wallow. Give yourself some time to sink in the fact that it is over and when the heart finally speaks to the mind that this is not right then comes acceptance. Truly, when you finally accept the situation, then here comes the realization to move on. I agree with you that after the break up had sinked in, yet you can't cope with it is self-inflicted. Our heart and mind are in a real battle.

Wow you have a strong sense of self. I think you are right about that the longer your pain is it's self inflicted already but I do not think that 30 minutes is too short for everyone to really have it all away. I guess I would consider a week or so would be enough for me. But I do believe that moving on is a necessary thing to do in our lives when faced with this situation. Life does not evolve on past hurts and pain.

How i wish all people and even me has the same rule like you. "30 minutes"? I respect about your rule but i dont think some could be the same like you. Moving on dont have difinite time. How can you move on within 30 minutes after losing someone you love so much? From my own experienced, after i separated with my xhusband, it takes me almost 4 years to move on. Because for me, moving on is having life without any pain that caused from your past. Living a new life with a new heart and new mind focus. You might laugh at me or even dont believe what im saying but thats what happened to me. And that is how i know what is truly moving on.

Wow I don't think I get over burning my toast in 30 minutes let alone a long term relationship. LOL I guess you are right that it is better for you to accept the pain and learn from the experience and move on to have better relations. However I have been one of those people that hurt for a long time after difficult break ups. But I did try to learn from those relationships. I have been lucky though that I haven't had to go through that for a long time. I have been with the same man for 12 years. However I think if we were to break up it would be difficult for myself and the the children. I think it would take some time to learn a new way of being after so long together. But I think I would be able to handle it though better now than when I was younger.

Personally, amongst them, we had one that we loved the most. Part of it, he was the one that takes the longest time to be forgotten. Yes, the more we go through with those phases, we're maturing ourselves and compounding the capability to be strong again.

I too move on pretty quickly. It doesn't mean that you don't feel some after effect of the break-up. But for the most part, usually by the time that you break up you already know that you are headed that way and I start weening myself away from it. Basically by the time its official I have almost completely settled it in my heart and head.

I'm pretty much the same way. I don't think that you should let that one person cause your heartache. There are billions of people out there and there's bound to be more than one match for you.

I am not so lucky as you are. I can't get over a broken relationship that easy. I left my ex boyfriend almost 4 years ago and I just recently got over him. I'm not sure I can even say I am completely over him cause I always say I am but then I catch those feelings again and it puts me in a depression. I accept that it's over, that's not the problem. It's the forgetting and moving on that I am having a problem with. I guess I moved on cause I'm married now but everyday is hard for me.

I don't know of broken relationships as in love as I am married to the only person I ever loved but I can tell y if that happened to me it will take me a long time to get over the hurt and I may ot cry for the person that long but I certainly wont allow him back in my life ever again. I am not an easily forgiving person and I have realised that now. I can hold grudges for long and if I do not go plotting a revenge against that person but I also never allow that person to coe near me ever again enough to hurt me twice. I know that much about me. Once bitten twice shy.

Hi Petiksmode! You have the right attitude. I also believe that in the end it's better to move on and not dwell on something that has ended. While we may have our memories both the happy and the sad memories and while we will not find it easy to forget the pain, it should not be a reason for us to ruin our life just thinking what could have been. I agree that we should move on and live life the best we can.

LIfe is too short to waste on feeling bad! I move on after 5 years or more! lol!

Although I do believe that everyone is different, someone once told me that you need approximately 3 months for every year that you were together.

@petiksmode...well no hard feelings but i ges you have never felt real pain... its not that easy to get over it in 30mins.... OR may be u r very very strong.. which is very good...