do you consider marrying your best friend?
By bellebads
@bellebads (740)
Philippines
November 26, 2008 1:16am CST
after a traumatic experience with my ex-boyfriend my best friend was the only person i can rely on. he was there to listen and comfort me. and then a while we finally realize that what we feel for each other is not just friendship it grows into something special and it becomes LOve. after 7 months into a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship we decided to get married. we're married for almost 3 years now. we're happy with how the marriage is going and how we manage to stay inlove . you, do you consider marrying your best friend?
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@rsa101 (38166)
• Philippines
26 Nov 08
Well, well, well I guess you've been looking all over for love and just realized that love is just besides you. Well I guess that is very possible that you would fall in love with your best friend. I guess that would be easy already since you and him already knows each other inside out and there is nothing to hide from them since you know each other very well already.
I wish you the best of everything that a marriage can offer. I think many best friends that end in marriage are successful in their partnership.
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@bellebads (740)
• Philippines
26 Nov 08
thanks so much , cheers to those people who end up with their best friends too.
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• United States
27 Nov 08
are u crazy wait till they figure u will be in trouble
@zshornick (113)
• United States
26 Nov 08
All the time. I always worry about ending up alone in life and I've loved my best friend who's a girl since grade school. I think about ending up with her a lot if I never find someone else.
I don't think she knows it, though...
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@bellebads (740)
• Philippines
26 Nov 08
you have to tell your best friend about your feeling what ever it takes. because you never know she also has feelings for you,or mabe she's just waiting for you to do the first move. let go of your feelings before its to late.
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@zshornick (113)
• United States
26 Nov 08
I've told her that I loved her, but not the marriage thing. I'm happily in a relationship now. It's nothing to worry about.
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@bellebads (740)
• Philippines
26 Nov 08
that's good to hear zshornick. good luck with your relationship.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
12 Dec 08
Congrads! I am so happy for you.You are another example where love and marriage can mix well. For me I never thought love could last if you mix it with marriage so I never wanted to try to mix them. I am not the marrying kind but I can see have more than a friendship with a best friend.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
12 Dec 08
Thanks. it is just me. If I did find the right guy. I would rather not marry him. I would be afraid that after marriage the love die.
@bellebads (740)
• Philippines
12 Dec 08
i respect your decision on the marriage thing. maybe you haven't met the right one for you yet. good luck. and thanks for responding.
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@mentalward (14690)
• United States
27 Nov 08
I believe your spouse SHOULD be your best friend. Who better to count on than your own spouse? Who better to trust than your best friend?
I honestly can't see how marriages last if the two people AREN'T best friends or, at least, very good friends. I think all relationships should start out as friendship and grow from there. I mean, if you can't be a friend to your spouse, there really isn't much more to marriage than a piece of paper (marriage license).
When I met my husband, we were immediately best friends. We were inseparable! It didn't take long before we were married. We're still very happy today after over four years together and I honestly believe it's because we're best friends.
@mentalward (14690)
• United States
27 Nov 08
Wow! I hadn't even considered THAT side of it! Thanks for bringing it up, muscles!
What I said only pertains to people who WANT to get married! I should have been more specific, huh?
Of course, if you LIKE being single or simply don't want to get married for whatever reason, you wouldn't even have to consider this.
@bellebads (740)
• Philippines
29 Nov 08
hi mentalward what you said is true. friendship should always be present in a relationship with it be marriage or even parent and child relationship. i wish you and your husband a happy life always. good luck and god bless you. thanks for responding.
@anne12d (676)
• Philippines
26 Nov 08
Wow! That's good... I'm happy for you that you found your true love. If that would happen to me, that's fine. And good thing we know each other that well. Well, love is really playful at times that the one a person will spend the rest of their lives is just around the corner and cupid is playing also to hit both of you on perfect timing. Nice love story!
@bellebads (740)
• Philippines
26 Nov 08
thank you anne. i'm very thankful to god that he gave me my best friend to be my partner for life.
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@BriMarie (25)
• United States
27 Nov 08
I am marrying my best friend this coming June. We've been together for almost 3 years now and engaged for 1 year. It all started about 4 years ago when we met. He was dating someone at the time but we were still good friends. I could hang out at his apartment, pick a text book off of the floor and read and he would be reading something different and we would just lay there and be completely comfortable in our silence. It continued on. Around this time 3 years ago, I was dating someone long distance and I lost someone in my family, my best friend was there. When I told him the news he just held me as I cried. When we just started dating, it just happened, literally. We've been together ever since that faithful night. We are going to be getting married 7 months from tomorrow. I'm so excited, he's the one I look to and I think it is great to first be friends and then be lovers; and that's what we are!
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@bellebads (740)
• Philippines
27 Nov 08
that's a great story to share. congrats to both of you, and best wishes. thanks for responding. have a happy life ahead of you.
@robert19ph (4577)
• Philippines
4 Dec 08
[i]Hello bellebads,
Love usually start from friendship and yes, I will consider marrying my best friend if possible. We started as friend with my partner but not the best of friends. Eventually it develop into love and we are now 17 years marriage. I think it's good to start as friend before being a lover because you can be both friend and lover at the same time. Congratulations by the way of being happily marriage to your best friend. I think your marriage will last long with some siblings.
Regards.[/i]
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@bellebads (740)
• Philippines
4 Dec 08
thanks for sharing your thoughts with me. i think i should be the one congratulating you because of the 17 years of being together as husband and wife. now a days a lot of marriages just end so soon because of incompatibility, misunderstandings, etc. but if you have built friendship the marriage is more stable and surely would last for a life time. good luck. keep posting.
@quinnkl (1667)
• United States
28 Nov 08
I think this would be the best possible scenerio. To be able to fall in love with your best friend. I have always thought that a great friendship should precede a great marriage. Because if you are committed and plan to be married for 50 years or so, you are going to need to be with someone you really like. Someone whose company you really enjoy and are comfortable in. Congratulations to you!
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@bellebads (740)
• Philippines
29 Nov 08
that's really true. thanks for sharing your thoughts. happy mylotting.
@lyzabelle (1668)
• Philippines
27 Nov 08
Hmmm...aw that's so sweet!
Well, marrying your friend or best friend is something
that is very nice. I wouldn't hesitate to marry my best
freind if i will fall in love with him.
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@savypat (20216)
• United States
28 Nov 08
I think that marrying your best friend is one of the best things you can do. Many become best friends after marriage. A marriage is a way that people can face life
together and it's always better to have a friend who you trust at your side.
@bellebads (740)
• Philippines
28 Nov 08
as long as friendship is present in your relationship surely you'll have a very harmonious relationship because you understand each other. thanks for responding.
@smiley83 (1534)
• Malaysia
27 Nov 08
hey,
marrying a person you truly know is much better than marrying someone you don't really know or you only happened to know in a short period of time...
so, i really congrats you heartily.. hopping my guy would be a great husband like yours ;)
smiley,
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@bellebads (740)
• Philippines
27 Nov 08
thanks so much. i'm sure in time you'll gonna meet the right one for you. good luck.
@maroseqf (3657)
• Philippines
27 Nov 08
Knowing someone is a requirement before getting married to that person. I think you know your best friend very well and there is nothing wrong with marrying him. I am happy for you because you found love in your bestfriend. I believe that friendship is really the foundation of love.
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@ankur_sen (193)
• India
1 Dec 08
Hi my friend.Its really a very nice love story.But in my case things are not like that.My best girl friend is commited for 7 years.Even i also dnt have any kind of plan to marry her.
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@bellebads (740)
• Philippines
2 Dec 08
it's a good feeling that someone appreciate my story, thank you. god has plans for each and everyone of us, the story of one my not be the story of others. in your case to marry your best friend would not be applicable to you maybe because there is someone that who is really meant for you. thanks for responding.
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@susan19820716 (50)
• China
27 Nov 08
I think that marrying the best friend is a good thing.Because they know each other, such as the strong and weak points,the interest...So i believe marrying the best friend is a good choice.
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@bellebads (740)
• Philippines
27 Nov 08
thanks for sharing your thoughts with me. have a great life ahead of you.
@celestial052506 (2914)
• Philippines
26 Nov 08
Wow that is cute love story!!! You are really meant for each other. Your ex boy friend is not really the one for you. He was just an instrument so that you and your best friend will become more close because of the incident. Wow!! I like that story. Sure!! it is alwasy advisable to mary your best friend.
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@bellebads (740)
• Philippines
26 Nov 08
thank you so much for that wonderful words. thanks for responding.
@ishralene09 (2260)
• Philippines
26 Nov 08
First of all, congratulations on a very healthy relationship you got with your best friend.
So on with the discussion, I've courted my best friend. As it turned out, I got dumped in a very not-so-good way. Anyways after that incident we haven't talked for a while. After 2 relationships my best friend found a new one, and I think they're going strong. For me though, after that I found the one who I will love for the rest of my life. Heehee. Anyways end of the story, I considered. I even dreamed of the day we're going to be married. But that was high school, today is a different era. And as much as I wanted to, I know it just wouldn't work out, and it's a good thing I found it out early on in my life. Now I have a healthy relationship with my girlfriend and I hope it lasts until eternity. Have a nice day.
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@bellebads (740)
• Philippines
26 Nov 08
i wish you well with your present relationship. good luck to both of you. thanks for responding.
@qiqiwonder (122)
• China
27 Nov 08
in chinese there is an old sayings:up and down the main street,i must have run-a thousand times or more in quest of one,who i have concluded,can't be found.for,everywhere,no trace of her can be seen,when, all of a sudden,i turned about,that is her,where lanterns are few and far between.
it is well if the two are in love.
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@bellebads (740)
• Philippines
27 Nov 08
yes you're correct it takes two to tango. thanks for sharing your chinese saying. thanks for responding.
@jlamela (4897)
• Philippines
27 Nov 08
Yes, eversince, I always think that it would be nice to end up with a friend. I don't like to take a husband who is a total stranger. Lately, I felt something special for my bestfriend, which is a nice feeling. From then on, my thoughts always confined in the idea that we could be something more than friendship but it seems that he is not interested with me. But my idea or romance did not change I am still hoping that I will get married in the future and I want to marry to somebody I know and not to strangers.
Well, to some people, they don't buy the idea of marrying their close friends, but in my part, I think it is possible. I don't have any guy close friends and when I am particularly close to a certain man that means he is very special. I always believed that friendship should be the beginning of whatever should be more. It should always be the springboard of all relationships, sometimes the ugliest character of a person won't show up when you jump into romantic involvement right away, but if you start with being good friends, this hidden character sometimes show up unconsciously, so yo have a clear picture of his personality.
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@bellebads (740)
• Philippines
27 Nov 08
very well said jlamela. everything you shared were true. good luck to you hope you find the right person for you at the right time. thanks for posting.
@fashion4u (3)
• Pakistan
26 Nov 08
I dont think there is anything wrong in marrying ur best friend. I think there is better understanding between one another.
Im very happy for you and wish u all the best in ur marriage. ;0)
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@bellebads (740)
• Philippines
26 Nov 08
thanks so much fashion. thanks for responding. have a nice day.
@jenleo910 (1)
• Colombia
26 Nov 08
Marrying your best friend is to me the best decision to make if you want a durable, stable and happy relationship. In my case, I married a person who is not only my husband, but my best friend, and we have built a relationship based in love, trust, communication, because when someone is your best friend it means that you have shared so may experiences, that you have learned a lot of things together and that you have been together in hapiness and sadness as well. And this last thing I mentioned is the base of a good and healthy marriage "be together in happiness and sadness"
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@bellebads (740)
• Philippines
26 Nov 08
i very much agree with youjenleo that's why i marked you as the best response. thanks for responding, hope to see more response from you. have a nice day.