Define: PERFECT MAN
By leateagee
@leateagee (3667)
China
November 30, 2008 10:40am CST
For my long time friends now here at mylot, they know that I am single. I am a very choosy lady. Maybe that is one reason I am not married yet and not even in a relationship because I have set a lot of standards soon as I meet a possible partner in life. Second reason is that I am to busy that I don't have time also to screen the man. Another reason would be is that I am confused if it is okay to be tied up when I have heard bad stories and experiences from my friends and relatives.
Can you guys reach out a helping hand ... just a simple opinion ... on defining a PERFECT MAN ,,, to be a partner in life?
Thank you ... happy every day!!! 
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26 responses
@mgmagana (3618)
• United States
30 Nov 08
there is no perfect man, i think u r setting ur expectations too high, and ur setting urself up for disappointment. I have "my" perfect man, although we argue once in a while he still is perfect for me, He works hard, takes care of us, he's a great father! Thats my perfect man.
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@leateagee (3667)
• China
1 Dec 08
My expectations are really high. And you're right, disappointment is the fruit of that expectations. Bad experiences and stories had a big influence why I am like this. Thanks for responding. Take care =)
@zlatil2 (18)
• Romania
30 Nov 08
well "perfect man" doesn't truly exist...and know what perfect man differs to many different people.. to some it may mean a man having the looks, money, and attitude...to some it may simply mean being a good father, a good brither, a good friend
desert girl... this is what i believe however... the man that a girl loves is the perfect man for the girl... we all know that perfectness in this world does not exist but love has the power to change it all.. i recall my friend saying one time about his boyfriend these lines i'll never forget
" i know in my heart that he's not perfect,
but my love for him makes him perfect for me"
@ClassyCat (1214)
• United States
30 Nov 08
I think you meant 'ideal man' and not
perfect - but anyway. The perfect man DOES exist!
I should know - he's been my husband for 50 years!
Don't lower your standards, but perhaps a rearrangement
of them may be necessary somewhere.
You don't say how old you are, so that factors in to
this conversation as well.
If you do find someone and he senses that you're setting
a 'standard' for him, that might scare him off.
I always told my daughter to watch how he treats his
mom, and sisters (if he has any). Listen to what he says
about previous ladies that he's broken up with. Is
it always 'their fault' that it broke off? Can he
admit to a part in things going wrong? If not - he'll
not be willing to admit it if and when he hurts you,
but will turn the situation around to focus on you.
Not good.
Does he EXPECT you to go to bed with him? That's where it
gets tough - after you sleep with someone, you won't
think clearly, because your emotions will get in the
way. Is he polite, and kind? Does he have a mean temper?
Is he selfish? Does he bragg on himself? Does he only
take you on cheap dates? Does he drink in excess?
These are just some things to watch for if you start a
relationship. And last but certainly not least - if
you are a person who enjoys church, and social things,
and he's a non-believer, or would rather do things
'with the guys' - - that is something to consider as well.
Take your time. There is someone suited for you. Just don't
be in a hurry.
Hope I've helped in some small way.
C.C.
@tamarafireheart (15384)
•
30 Nov 08
Hi leateagee,
There is no such thing as a PERFECT MAN beccause there are not, but to have your ideal man only you would know, as long as they are kind fun loving helpful and caring that is all you need. Hugs.
Tamara
@leateagee (3667)
• China
1 Dec 08
Hi Tamara,
Thanks for sharing your opinion. Well, I guess I haven't met that ideal man. If I could feel it .. I'm so unlucky that I haven't felt it. Take care =)
@VinceMcMahon (1073)
• New Zealand
30 Nov 08
I think a man cannot be perfect. But can try to be perfect up to certain extent. And I believe he should have quality like hard working, looking after the family well, etc. I think a man should first do his duty well. Also he should be patient enough in every situation of the life. He should be capable of facing problems and should not get discourage with troubles in life. In fact, he should able to advice others with when the others are in trouble and should have helping tendency towards the fellow human being.
@leateagee (3667)
• China
1 Dec 08
Thank you so much for the certain qualities that you have given. I do agree that a man can be perfect if he wishes too in a certain extent. Indeed a man should be able to face problems and have a soft heart. Thank you again. Take care =)
@arunmails (3011)
• India
30 Nov 08
What is this..... according to me a PERFECT MAN should be a MAN thats it...... I meant the quality...... not the physical appearance...... but the mental thoughts should be like a MAN...... thats it.....
@leateagee (3667)
• China
1 Dec 08
But nowadays ... appearance matter. You need to look presentable not just anyhow. Or else people or a girl's parents will think or mistaken you for not a good bred person. Thanks for responding. Take care =)
@meow1978 (190)
• Malaysia
30 Nov 08
Do not be so choosy lady. Do you know the world population? Do you know the ratio of men & women? Men = 1 and Women=4. So do you think is easy to get marry or to be choosy. Unless you are Miss Pageant or Super model. Beside, a perfect men does not exist in this world. Even they exist, is near to extension. Is up to you how perfect you wanted to be. Don't set your target too high. You might just ended up disappointed.
@leateagee (3667)
• China
1 Dec 08
LOL. Well, I am not a supermodel nor a winner of a beauty pageant. But I cannot just anyhow accept a man who will notice me and at the end will be a burden to my life. I need to know certain qulaities so that when I am tied to him I will be living in hell. I guess its better to be alone than to live in war almost everyday. Thanks for sharing your opinion. Take care =)
@Mitraa (3184)
• India
1 Dec 08
Hello Leate! I may say one thing that no man or woman is perfect. We seek perfection in many ways, till it is not achieved well! 
Anyway, may you find your real perfect man as your partner! So also make yourself well perfect to receive your perfect man. Thanks!
@lightningMD (5931)
• United States
30 Nov 08
My daughter had a shirt that decsribed the perfect man. It was Mr. Potato head. Tall,dark,handsome and when he makes you mad you can rearrange his face. I think that idea works for me.lol
@leateagee (3667)
• China
1 Dec 08
LOL. Very nice shirt. I hope we could rearrange evry man's face whenever we have to. Thanks for responding. Take care =)
@kenchiprincess (5296)
• Philippines
1 Dec 08
in my own opinion i don't think there is a perfect man in this world. all of us have our own set of flaws and weaknesses and it it just a matter of accepting the person as he is. i think you just have to look on the heart of tis person and check if he has the following qualities: loving, caring, honest, respectful, responsible and God fearing. this would make a good mate. hope this helps.
@despompa (472)
• Philippines
1 Dec 08
i don't believe in having a perfect man. i think it's only you who can decide on how to find the perfect man for you and it is only who can decide and think about how to make the relationship perfect. don't be so choosy and set aside your standards. you're just giving yourself a hard time. even the most beautiful celebrities in hollywood is not choosy. in fact, they always end up having with them the most opposite man. the one that you can truly say that they are really extremes.
@Margarit (3676)
• Philippines
1 Dec 08
hi leateagee,
Well i think perfect man for me is the one that can keep their promises forever. What he promise before he should still keep it for the rest of his life. Keeping a promise is so hard to do but easy to say, so if ever a man can keep his own words then he will be a perfect man for me.
@ladynetz (968)
• Canada
1 Dec 08
No one is perfect! Only G-d!
But you always can find someone that can be also your friend.Someone that you feel good around him, that will feel hen you'r happy or upset, that will be there for you eveytime when you need him.
Someone that's making you "whole", giving you what you need.
And of course, that's the compromise thing.You should be able to do the same for him. "Give and receive" in the same measure.
Do house chores together, do grocery shopping together, you understand what I mean?
me, I thought I found the perfect one for me.When the first kid was born, I started to fight with him cause he won't help.And it was a bad period, that I was willing to leave him.
But I did not, and now, after lots of years, we understand each other just from a glance, we help each other, and even though it's still not perfect, it's much , much better.
And being with someone (of course that you love and respect), it's the best!
@LetterWriter (58)
• Philippines
1 Dec 08
I don't believe that the PERFECT MAN really exists, thus it would be hard to define him. But I think you can just contend yourself into finding a good-enough man who youknow will stay with you for the rest of your life [or his life] no matter what happens. He doesn't need to be perfect [whatever perfect means]. Same as, you don't need to be perfect to deserve someone in your life who will truly and forever love you. Good luck on your search.. But then again, you don't need to search for anyone, because he will come at the right time. Just hang on there...
@didi13 (2926)
• Romania
22 Sep 11
What is the perfect man?
It is man that you can talk anything, you understand the man with eyes, the man you are compatible with 99.99%, the man with whom you never get bored, the man with whom you can discuss any subject, the man who makes you laugh, the man who adjust your breathing to inspire and expire at the same time, the man who you can call "the one" for you and give you 3 times over the head, etc.
I think I could continue describing long and hard, as much to say, that perfection is more.
@alyssa_c (440)
• Philippines
1 Dec 08
The PERFECT MAN has never been born yet, and at this rate, I don't think there will ever be one. 
Choosing the RIGHT MAN, I think, would be the better term, but, like the 'perfect man' it would be easier said than done.
It would all depend on how you react towards each other, and make sure your close friends and family members get a chance to meet him so they could size him up for you. You'd need their opinion on whether he's good for you or not since they know you a lot. Still, you get to have the final say. YOur heart and instinct should be the major players in that area.
Hope you find your happily ever after soon!
Choosing the RIGHT MAN, I think, would be the better term, but, like the 'perfect man' it would be easier said than done.
It would all depend on how you react towards each other, and make sure your close friends and family members get a chance to meet him so they could size him up for you. You'd need their opinion on whether he's good for you or not since they know you a lot. Still, you get to have the final say. YOur heart and instinct should be the major players in that area.
Hope you find your happily ever after soon!
@kunal0099 (233)
• India
1 Dec 08
I think that a man who has temper in him love others and having good heart too.He should be patient with the reponse to all and deliver the best ever he could do for others.
Thanks for you to post this kind of article in the section. Love to see this kind of maturity in you.
@querwai (23)
• China
1 Dec 08
Perfect man is just in our mind. If you still persist to meet one, maybe you only ebd up with nothing. Just remenmber the perfect man only means a man who just fit to you. That is you have something in common, you are umderstand each other and so on. As for as I concered, my perfect man is generious, implite, endvour, enterpring,and take over me all the time. And I like man has his own business and personal world. We are all people, donot think very well of the man. So next time get a choice to date, please live you a smooth mood, maybe you will meet your own perfect man. Waiting for your good news!
@burnek (101)
• Philippines
1 Dec 08
Wow! hi leateagee! Is there such a thing? Lemme see, I think a perfect man could be someone who can accept his own flaws and learn from his own mistakes and strives to be a good example to others. That's how I define a perfect man. And yes, he must also know how to cook like me. :)
@scraperfly (66)
• China
1 Dec 08
I think there in no perfect man in the world. If you want to find a life parter, i think the feeling is the most important. Secondly, you two should unserstand each other, trust each, and become good friends.
