did you have a traditional marriage or did you just go to the court house?

Well in our case we actually did both ceremonies. At first we just felt the urgency so we decided to get married civilly and later on decided to be married to the traditional church wedding. So all in all we got married twice. Well I do not recommend you try both, but it's worth a try if you are really curios what the difference between the two.

My husband and I went to the courthouse. I was never one of those girls that dreamed of a big fancy wedding, so it suited me fine. Plus, I think the headache of all the planning involved would have made me change my mind. It is a shame that your parents can't resolve themselves to the fact that the man you want to marry makes you happy and that you love him. Just be sure before you run down there that you wont regret it. Even though going to the courthouse is short and sweet, getting married should still be one of the happiest moments of your life. Do what will make you happy.

We pretty much had a traditional wedding. We had our reception first because we had a very small wedding and we had already made plans for the honeymoon too. It worked out really well.

my marriage will be very traditional. in fact it draws on Pre-Christian traditions, and will take place before Pre-Christian Gods. we will be binding our hands together to symbolise the binding of our two lives into one life, and our two souls together, so that they will be together in this life and all lives to come.

I was married in a traditional way. It was a grand wedding and my hubby spent a lot for that. There were so many guests and we received a lot of gifts but after the wedding we found ourselves in short of cash to start a better life. We regretted having spent do much for the wedding which could have rather done in a simpler way. Wedding in a court house I think is now more practical. Instead of spending money for the traditional wedding, it is better to keep and spend for the necessities in starting a married life. Yours is a different case though, you are not saving money so you are going to the court house for the wedding but rather because your parents disapprove your fiance. That is a difficult situation and I pray you will be able to handle well!

my husband and i had a traditional marriage. i planned the whole thing and made just about everything. it took a year to plan everything and get everything just the way i wanted it. All the work was totally worth it. i made my wedding veil, the centerpieces for the tables at the reception, the wedding cake, the tablecloths, the napkins, the ring bearer pillow, etc .

We had a small wedding. We were married in a friends back yard, by the pond. We also had a small reception in a church hall that we rented for $50. It was very simple. Our children were the only others in the wedding.

Neither. It wasn't in a place of worship, but I still wore a white ballgown and invited guests. Almost no one came, though. And my mother ended up in the hospital 3 days before.

that is sad that your family won't support you... I was married in a church myself.

My husband and I only had a civil wedding at the court house under a judge. We want the wedding simple with only friends and family. So we chose that and we plan to have a church wedding when we reach our 25th wedding anniversary which is still so far because we are only married for 3 years right now.

Hi Chantalgiardina, first I'm sorry about you. my marriage not as big as others, but I'm satisfied with it. With traditional marriage but more simple.

I'm more of a traditionalist myself, although I do believe that you can be traditional and not big and fancy. I'm sorry that your parents hate your fiance. That must be hard not having your parents present for a really important event in your life. Whither it's a courthouse or church, a marriage should be about the union of two people who want to devote their lives to each other. Congrats on getting married!

I have been married twice. My first marriage, although it was very small with just a few family members only, was a traditional one. My second marriage was done at the court house with just my husband, myself and my 4 month old son. Remember, it is not where you get married or the size of your wedding or how the marriage is performed, it is the love you feel on that special day and the commitment that you make to each other that will stay in your heart and forever be a memory.

My husband and I had a very unusual wedding. We were married in a Kiehi Mauii Hawaii in a church. We decided to take 30 people with us. It was our families and a few very close friends. We rented condo for everyone, cars, etc. The only thing they paid for was food and sightseeing. We figured out the cost of having a big wedding and do the Hawaii wedding and the Hawaii wedding was cheaper and the people that meant the most to us were all there. It was beautiful. Dinner after the wedding was at the Four Seasons in our own private room with all our guests that faced the ocean. We took all our pictures walking along the ocean. We are both glad we did it this way because looking back if we had a big wedding here, most of the people we would have invited we do not even see or hear from anymore. It was a dream wedding!!! 15years and still going strong.

congratulations on your wedding :) it's just sad that your parents wont be with you on your special day. hope you guys settle the issue though, but don't forget that your wedding is about you and your husband to be :) hope it will the best day of your lives.

We went to the judges house to get married on a Sunday morning. It was a waste of time anyway, we were only married about 20 months. Then we got a divorce with a 7 month old baby,

I had a traditional one, but I really did not enjoy it because we had to go over to the tables, now dance, not smile for photos.Like, all the time I did something for others, I could not enjoy not even a proper meal. If you ask me now, I would have one short in the court and then take 10 days of, only two of us and really enjoy, have fun and have good memories.

Hi friends We have traditional marriage.and we do follow it.It has got so much meaning to it.And in our country,marriage is an intregal part and it is the union of two souls and union of the two families.Its not just mere a relationship .Its bonding of two hearts.In our tradition,a sacred thread is worn by the bride around her neck by the bridegroom and our ceremony is really grand,full lights,colours and flowers.it is the most memorable experience in one's life. Bye!!!!!!!!!

I had both the traditional marriage and a civil or at the court house. My husband and I decided to have a secret marriage but won't be living together yet just to be prepared financially and little by little purchase the things or appliances we will be needing after our church wedding . Before it happened my parents came to know about it, they don't favor our plan but suggest to have a simple church wedding, instead. Since it was scheduled already, we went ahead with our civil wedding and after two months our church wedding occurred.