Giving A wife Money ... Would You?

I'm married and my philosophy on money is that in a marriage, everything is 50-50...it's not MY money or HIS money, it is OUR money. We put our money together and share equally. We discuss what to use it for and that's what we do.

I am a working wife and so does my hubby. But just the same my hubby give me most of his income and my income from my job is shared with this to form a common fund which we use for our family expenses. My money is his and his money is mine. It does not make any difference. When we were married we believe we have become one flesh and anything that is his is mine and vice versa.

Being the wife, I hated to ask money from my husband, and I was not working outside the home. He was also brought up with the idea that if a wife asked for money you demanded what she wanted the money for, and of course, even if it was necessary, eventually she would stop asking. I stopped asking. He did give me money on my birthday and Christmas, but I decided that it was better to keep silent. I now have a pension, and I use part of my money for gifts, household stuff, but you see what I am getting at. If a wife is made to feel guilty, she will not ask and pretty soon the husband will ask why she did not go to the doctor soon enough or why did she not ask for money to buy a new dress. So now you can see, how a husband's attitude would influence a wife. Now if I were a man, I would give her some extra and tell her to get something nice for herself, but then being a woman, I was on the other side.

[i]Hi maxilimian, I am a wife and my hubby gives me money for shopping and saving! I quit my job so, he is the one responsible for all the bills and expenses! We do discuss our budget and savings every now and then.... When I was young until this time, it is my Mother who keeps my Father's salary! I guess this scenario depends on the couple![/i]

I keep a budget, and even though we both work, when it's needed a specal expense, we consult each other. Usually I'm the one that does everything in the house, shopping for everything,but when it comes to something special, that's not in the budget, we always consult first. You did not say what does she need the money for...

I dont really like how you worded this..... all im gonna say is when your in a relationship there is no his or hers and there is no mine it is OURS

This is the problem with marriage today. People think when you get married you still have separate lives and it's no big deal to just get a divorce if their life interferes with your life. Marriage is supposed to make two lives into one. Everything they own belongs to both of them, including the money.

I am married and my huband work and I work to but dont actually have a job. I clean, wash, cook. I get money from social security and my money and his money go in the same acount because it is our money.

LOL Ok, I'm not a man - but what is this, the middle ages? I'm not a child who needs money doled out to me as an allowance. In my household I'm the one who manages the money and pays the bills. And I'm certainly not going to be begging any man for money if I need it.

I'll give only when it come to buying groceries because i can't let her buy foods and other stuff with her money only, i also must contribute to that. Also women are good at buying family things especially groceries, so giving them the money so that they can go and buy can always save you stress of what to buy. I remember one day when my girl was away on workshop i went to grocery store to buy things which aren't there at home and guess what i only bought maize and meat, went home and came back with my 9 year daughter and i was then able to buy lot of things because she knew what the mommy used to buy. But if the women just want the money for other things then i may consider a "no" as way to go unless if what she's going to do with that money is important.

Of course, i would surely give my money to my wife. As a husband it would be my duty. Any husband should know that it is his duty to fulfill the need of his wife. And if the wife needs money he should give it to her without making any kinda silly excuse.

Im not married yet but i think i would still give my wife money coz im working to support my family.

I'm not a man but, in my opinion, I guess it should depend on what she's asking for money for. If it's for such things as bills, Christmas presents for the family, household necessities, etc. I think it's perfectly understandable that you should both be contributing towards these things. Also, as rude as it may sound, you should also take into consideration how much money she is making, if she's making plenty of money herself then things such as just going shopping, out with friends, etc. should be things she can take care of herself as well as helping out with bills and household expenses. Personally me and my man combine our incomes, my money is our money and his money is also our money. This seems to work well for both of us.

I am a working husband with stable job and fixed salary every month and my wife is doing part timer job. Every month, I budget all neccesary expenses for the family (groceries, house, school, bills, etc) and whatever balance of my salary after these expenses, I divided by two (half for my own saving and half for my wife). I am not sure if what i am doing is still relevant as my wife is earning salary as well and she keep it for herself.

i'm not married yet but my boy friend give me all his salary every month. So, i think is wise to give a wife money.

In my opinion, giving money or not to the wife depends on the family's financial situation, and this differs from family to family. To some extent, it may also depend on societal/cultural practices in certain countries. Also nowadays in modern society, there are many households where both husband and wife may go out to work, and where the age-old practice of husbands being the sole bread winner and wives staying home and minding the house have largely been banished by the newer generation in many countries. Having said the above, if only the husband works and earns the bacon, then he should support the family and household, and give the wife some allowance for household as well as personal spending. After all, the wife who doesn't go out to work actually still 'works', but no one's paying her salary for all the responsibilities she carry out. If both the husband and wife work, then I think it depends on their relative salaries and abilities to support the home. In some cases, where the wife is more educated/talented and has a higher earning ability than the husband, perhaps even the wife should contribute more to the home, and probably the husband don't even have to give the wife any pocket money. It can work both ways, depending on each other's earning capability. When I was working, my wife and I both earned reasonably well, around the same salary level. We don't actually have to give any pocket money to each other, because we both can afford our own spending, and we have individual savings as well. What we decided from day 1 in setting up our home was to open a joint account, and contribute to this account relative to each of our earning power. We draw down from this account to pay for household bills, groceries and generally any expenses for the home. For personal things like buying clothes, jewelery, treating friends, etc. each of us spend our own money. It is a very workable and amicable system for us, and we've never had any quarrels over money, except to make joint decisions as to whether to spend on certain things like buying a new TV or washer, etc.

Hi dear Well at the moment my wife is housewife and sure i gave her money as we earn to support family in case if my wife is working woman and she still momey, sure i will give her as its her right Take care

I'm a man. I will give my wife money even she is work. This is a way i appreciate her sacrifice to the family. This money could be use to buy fresh vegetables for daily meals. If my wife ask money from me i will give her. Of course, if i'm not enough money after deduct all the payment inclusive bank loan, i think i;m not manage to give her.

I am not married yet but I am involved in a realtionship and my partner doesn't have any idea about saving s or budgeting. Ever since we have been involved, I have been giving him advice on how the mi=oney should be saved and bidgeted. We once had a talk about how life would be after marriage and said that he always wondered why he would be giving his hard earned money to his partner and he said that after he met me, he knows that he will be giving me all his money so sort out both our finances as I am much better at it.

ths unwritten money policy has always suprised me we been married 9 years and sometimes he was only working i was looking after kids ither times i was only working he was long term ill and at times we were both working we have always had a joint account were tha salaries went and bills are paid from when ever we need anything it comes from the account we have till date never had a discussion which says my money or yours or my career its always our future and our money...