What to do?

in that case it would be depend on your characteristic. if your friend and you think he/she need to try to solve it by her/him self why not be frank and tell him/her. If your friend does really need someone to talked too dont leave him even you just listen and not giving him solution i know she/he will appreciate you just for being there. you dont have to be someone, just be the friend that your friend knows you from the start. friend does not hide what he/she feel. you just continue of being a good friend. someday when you need him/her, she/he will value there friendship you've started and a good relation will never end. friends :-)

You know what I've noticed? I've noticed that people absolutely crave attention and affection. This person probably feels that you care for them and feels noticed with you, so they keep coming back, and coming back, and coming back- EVERY DAY! LOL. I had a person do the same thing to me, and it was very annoying. The most annoying part of it was that the things we discussed NEVER got better. It was the same thing every week, every month, until finally I had to talk with them and let them know where I was coming from. It is one thing to get help to GET BETTER, but just sucking off one's compassion is physically, mentally, spiritually, and emotionally draining! It sound like you have the same case here- you keep listening, but no improvement. If that's the case, you should let them know where you are coming from and try to salvage your friendship (if it is an actual friendship). Bottom line, us listeners are sometimes too nice; We don't want to hurt other peoples feelings, but sometimes people need to understand what's going on regardless of what feelings get hurt! Hope this helps.

hi marzfu! well, i can listen and i can offers words of advice. but you know, i kind of do not do it anymore because i have one friend who distorts whatever i tell her. she gets emotional etc and in the end, she would make me as the bad guy. i think that our friendship over the years is just wasted. she never appreciated me even during those times when i stopped to work in order to just listen to her. anyway, we are no longer friends so i am relieved. take care and God bless you dear!

Hi frnds, I always a good listener and good speaker.I will solve my own problems. i will understand to my listen after that i will solve my self. Be happy and have a nice day.

it is a good habit to listen to others sorrow or problems. even if we can't help with the problem if you were able or patient enough to listen it will take some burden off the person with problem. a good listening quality make one think lot more. so keep up the good quality and you will have lesser problems as you will get more experience with lot of things by listening to others.

yeah well no matter what ialwasy lisen to my friends i mean after all we are aonly wht we got nif we dont look out for each other then who will?

Hi marzfu.. Sometimes people tell their problems but that doesnt mean they need your advice. Sometimes we just want to have someone who will listen with our life's sad stories and burden. After we let our heart out, one feel so light hearted and in the process sometimes we realize that such problem isnt as big as it seemed. A good side of you as a good listener helps your friends one way or another, so keep it up. There are just few good friends who are good listener and your friends are thankful for that.

Throughout my life i have been a listener and have learnt to keep my mouth shut and my ears open. Lots of things have been poured into my ears, sometimes good, sometimes bad, and most of the times drivel.If it is good i absorb it,if it is bad then i forget about it and if it is rubbish i let it escape from the other ear.Yes, a lot of times people do come and pour their woes into my ear. I listen to them sympathetically and if i have a solution to their problem i give it to them,if not i just keep quiet.But i find that many people just come to talk because they like to hear the sound of their voices. Such persons are pompous and cannot stand anybody interfering when they are in full flow.In such cases it gives me great pleasure to interrupt them and voice my own opinion just to irritate them and make them realise that they have crossed the limits of decency.

It gets difficult listening to problems constantly. I try to remember that these problems my friends come to me with are not my problems. It's good to remember that you do not have to get involved with every little problem. Just dispence the wisdom requested and let your friend run with that.

yes, a lot of problems,maybe we can not face it now ,but u should think about it :how long in ur lifetime, in fact ,one of the day ,we have to leave this beautiful world, nothing is inprotant to it ,when i am thinking about it ,i will make myself calmed down, i am just a visitor in the world.

They do say a friend in need is a a flipping pain if the problem never gets any bettar sometimes you can help someone to much and they rely on you too much.If someone comes to me with a problem I listen and try to help with suggestions about how they handle to problem.and I don't mind at all especailly when they have helped my out in the past.Maybe they just want to talk but if you get fed up with it pretend to be out or say you have a bad headache caused by stress and if they are friends they will let you off the problems for the day,just remember one thing you never know when you are going to need them.

i know how you feel. i am that way, too. i want to help others and i feel like sometimes that hinders me because some take advantage of it. just let your friend know that it is wearing on you, i'm sure they will understand!! let them know you are their for them when they NEED you, but coming to you with every little thing is weighing you down emotionally and mentally. be kind but firm and just tell them that you want to be there for them when you can, but it can't be ALL.THE.TIME.

I think that we should help when our friends have trouble.Sometimes they just wanna a listener.Perhaps we can't help solve the problem when they tell us their trouble.Ok,just listen.When you are in trouble,you will and can ask your friends for help.It is the friendship,I think.