Daughter having school issues

I can't know what is making her act like this. However, there are some ideas to consider. One is the need for eyeglasses. Being unable to see the symbols might make her afraid of failing and getting things wrong because she didn't see clearly. She might feel sensitive and embarrassed about the issue. See, when you help her you are probably reading the symbols for her. Probably, possibly not, but probably. Another thing to wonder about might be dyslexia, which would case symbols to become flipped. This, however, might have more effect on reading than math. I'm not sure. I don't know her age, of course, but being bullied at school can lead to frustrations. Teasing, pushing, pinching, etc.. when a child is frustrated things requiring attention to detail like math can be extra frustrating. The last thing I hesitate to say, but think i will address, causes me some discomfort. I hope you will not take offense nor do I intend to suggest anything. However, .. there is 'good touch' and 'bad touch' and a child who is being asked to keep a secret about bad touches is essentially being asked to lie. It could result in frustration, lying, and other changes in behavior such as violence demonstrated against any male figure present.. such as her brothers. I don't have any reason to believe such would be the case for your daughter, of course, but it does seem to provide an explanation for some of her sudden changes in personality and behavior. Like I said, I hope that doesn't offend you. One of my friends works in Social Services and he sees this kind of stuff far more often that I'd like to really think about.

Are you sure she doesn't have a "new friend". Kids are just so impressionable. That was one thing I dealt with often. Kids feel the stress of the holidays more that we know. I would talk with her in a matter of fact way first, without asking what's up. Maybe through a conversation you can get an idea of what's going on in her little head. Then address the issues or reaffirm the rules, whichever needs to be said.

Just wondering how old your daughter is? My daughter started this type of behaviour and then one day about 6 or 8 months later, she got her period. She was just 10 when she got hers....so it could simply just be the hormones starting to put that all in place.... girls are soooo tough. Prayers are with you hunny.

There are lots of things that come to mind. When did this start, before or after the birthday party? (Oh, sorry, I see you said a month or so ago) Is she being teased at school about something? Have you sat down with her and asked her if something is bothering her? She seems to be a little young to be undergoing changes to make her change in her actions/attitude. I know it goes with becoming a teenager or even before sometimes.

Kat Have you asked her if she is having issues with any friends or if shes being picked on? Sometimes children stop doing well at things if they are getting picked at- I would ask. (I'm sure you already have) but as a mom too I know how upsetting it can be when an otherwise well behaved child changes attitude overnight. I would start with that and then move forward- my son started disliking Math when the teacher ( and I think this was an accident on her part but....) said in class that everyone should try to be more like Sam (my oldest son) it made him feel less like a child and his friends ribbed him about it a bit. Good luck and please keep me posted.

Maybe she thinks you aren't spending enough time with her, and she is trying to get your attention by misbehaving. If that is the case, try to show her that you care about her, and there is no need to misbehave to get your attention.

Well since you ruled out the attention thing my next question would be is daddy giving enough attention? next would be has anything major changed in her life recently? and lastly I would as her if anything at school is bugging her? Is there kids making fun of her for something? Kids will use anything. My son is a mother hen all the time even at school and because of this other kids started picking on him to the point that he did not want to go to school. He came home one day and said he was hungry all day and when I asked him why I was shocked to hear that 3 of his classmates had thrown his lunch on the ground and stomped on it. Then he proceeded to tell me about all the other things these kids were doing to him. I went into the school and talked them and these boys lost their outdoor privilages for a couple of months because they were in fact bullying my son. It had beed happening for about a month before my son finally talked to me about it and that may very well be what your daughter is experiencing. How old is your daughter? if it is nothing of the obove could she be getting her period soon? My sisters behaviour chaged dramatically about a year before she got her period so that could be something to look into since girls can get it as young as age 8. Well anyhoo Good luck with this hope you figure it out.

Maybe shes depressed. People react differently when unhappy.- I know i did. Maybe shes genuinely struggling with her Maths work / maybe her brothers are annoying her, but at the end of the day, you should talk to her and make sure shes okay...

There might be a bully. I remember when my sister was little, she started being bad and really mean at home. A lady who lived down the street who had a son my sisters age and they were best friends. He told his mom some kids were picking on him at school at recess. Well his mom went to the school during recess and parked her car and watched the play ground. She saw my sister, her son and another little boy basically fighting off a bunch of other boys. (this was 1st grade) The teachers were in la-la land. Of course the mom jumped out, stopped it and alerted the teachers.

How are the social aspects of her class? I ask this because my daughter is struggling emotionally this year too. It turns out that there is a very pushy girl (let's just call her a bully) in her class. She is not violent but just really influencial with the other girls. She likes to split friendships and generally cause all sorts of problems with ALL the other girls. We have been working with the teacher about this and it is improving. But for the longest time, my daughter just had difficulty in expressing why she hated school so much this year. Her frustration level at home was really bad too. I'm wondering if stuff like that could be happening for your daughter too.

Thanks for the best response! Happy New Year!!!

It sounds like she is unhappy about something. Teasing issues at school maybe. Learning problems. Just hormones, could be the cause of it. I would try to talk to her without being angry. Don't question her at first just start a conversation asking about her day. Then move on to "do you want to talk about anything that's going on". Then if it comes down to it, ask directly what's going on and why is she acting like this. Hope something helps.

That happened to my son when he was in his 1st grade, he was always on the top 10 of the class when he was in his pre-school, and during the 1st grading period in his 1st grade, he's also in the top, but his teacher got pregnant and had to have a leave of absence for about 3 months, they had a substitute teacher, from then, his behavior had changed. He did not want to do his assignments and seat works. I was so upset at that time. I knew his teacher is nice, but I think she's very lax with her students. But I had also considered that that time my hubby and I are having marital problems. Maybe my son was affected and he also had teachers who are so strict to the point that my son feels he loses his self esteem. I just thought it was something and not so big deal, so in his 2nd grade, he stayed in that school, but it got worst, though we manage to solve our marital problems, being in that school, my son still doesnt want to do his best. Then we realize, there's something in the school that my son did not want. He did not like some of his classmates, and his learning style did not match with the school's type of teaching... So in his 3rd grade we enrolled him in a different school, and now, he's enjoying his stay there and he now does his best, he's one of the top in the class again... I just shared this, coz I thought your situation with your daughter has something in common with my son's experience.

Hi there..your daughter is aged six and is kinda acting out of the ordinary.Hmm...i dont know much abt child psychology(far from it) all i feel is that she mite have been teased by some kids or she mite have some problem with her friends.Hence the sudden disinterest in studies and violent moodswing.Ask her abt her issues with her friends,some kid mite have teased her and she mite have got a lil bit edgy.I dont know who u r ,but appreciations to share ur concern :).

You do not tell your daughter's age. is she an honor student? Is she a year ahead of her friends in school. On what do you base your facts that she is extremely intelligent? Is she going through puberty? Please add the info that will allow for an informed answer.

Dont know yr daughter's age. Is she in her teens. Any how be patient and try to know the reason of the sudden change in her behaviour. She might require some help in her studies . Make sure she is healthy and having her food on time. Talk to her and ask her about her friends, lessons and whether she need any help from you. Ask her abt her plans during X'mas and all. A mother will be able to understand a daughter better than her father. So be caring and loving and try to find out yr little angel's problem. Dont be angry with her. Be agood friend to her and help her come out of her problems.

There could be hundreds of reason why your daughter may be acting up. But I guess the best thing to do is either talk to her and fish it out of her or let a professional do it. There may be some problems your child is dealing with that has affected her usually pleasant demeanor. I suggest you do it soon. Oent up emotions can really confuse a child. Good luck!

I also experienced almost similar type of problem. Fearing math or any subject for that matter may crop up if the student fails to like her teacher. Failing to get the attention of the teacher inspite of being a good student may frustrate her and may lead her to behaving oddly. In that case ther is nothing to do except to sait for the year to pass. She may also develop fear for math.... in that case u may try giving her math problems which are easier for her standard.Let me know whether it helps you.