In What Way Do You Show Your Anger To Anyone???

India
December 5, 2008 3:32am CST
Hey Everyone. I just have a bad habit of showing my anger with my food. If I am angry I just avoid eating. I wonder if its me or if someone else also have that habit?? Lol. What do you people do when you are angry?? In which way you expose that??? Talking about that will sort out the problems, but instead I keep it for myself and just show it to me itself. Hehe. Anyone else like me??
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@rrdada (95)
• India
14 Dec 08
most of the ladies will show like that.but i behave in different manner.i will shout on that person.after that i won't talk with him for some time.later i will talk with him.
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@Sheepie (3112)
• United States
13 Dec 08
Well, when I'm angry I'm not really that hungry either. It just makes my stomach all tense. I try not to yell or hit anyone first though, because that way, they never see things my way. I think that the best revenge is to reason with someone enough so they finally reason that he or she is wrong, and when people see things my way, there is nothing to fight about.
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• India
11 Dec 08
Anger ... I rarely show that up. Probably, the way I express it is through expressions and eyes. But I did never hurt anyone in anger. I believe its utmost important to control yourself in anger. Its the deadliest emotion of all
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@sid556 (30959)
• United States
10 Dec 08
I was at my extremely thin...underweight and always battled to keep weight on. I swear to you that my ex husband should be bottled and marketed as the best diet product out there. I simply can't eat when I am upset. It is useless to even try as it will just come right back up. When I was married, it seemed my husband turned every meal into a battle....it was always something. I have to be relaxed and at peace in order to eat or it just doesn't settle right with me. I don't avoid food as a means of protest or anything....I just have no appetite if i'm upset.
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@vicky30 (4766)
• India
13 Dec 08
I too have the same habit as you.I don't eat food when i am angry.I also try to avoid people who come and speak to me.I like to be in a quiet atmosphere when i am angry.There are times i will scream when i am angry.
@swtpareek (650)
• United States
10 Dec 08
Hi Vidya! I do the same thing too. Also I stop talking with everyone around me.... And get irritated with every bit of thing.... I don't like to talk about my anger to anyone too because I don't like people sympathizing with me... I just keep it to myself...
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@balasri (26537)
• India
6 Dec 08
I have this habit of raising my voice which I hate myself.I have come to understand that it is of no use and it always brings in the opposite result.I am trying to cut down on it.
@balasri (26537)
• India
11 Dec 08
• India
11 Dec 08
Good that you realized it. Me too realized that just few days back. Lol. Happy to have your response. Happy mylotting.
• Philippines
10 Dec 08
i don't usually show it when i'm angry to somebody, i just think that it wouldn't do any good. as much as possible, i try to control my anger and just keep it to myself, breath in, breath out, a little relaxation and somehow it will go away. i try to be the more understanding one 'cause i'm not fond of trouble. i believe that things will be sorted out through understanding and good communication.
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@jdyrj777 (6528)
• United States
8 Dec 08
I very rarely get angry. When i do i usually let the person or place (company, phone, lites, etc.) know that i am angry and why.
@arunmails (3011)
• India
9 Dec 08
If I am in anger, I just keep quite.... and I don't show any reaction in my face also...
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@catdla1 (6005)
• United States
6 Dec 08
When I am angry, I tend not to talk to anyone. I've always tried to 'cool down' (sometimes unsuccessfully) before addressing whatever the issue is. Sometimes after I've cooled down, the issue seems unimportant, and I laugh and let it go. Other times, it is something I want to address and at least by that time I'm able to deal with it rationally.
@Polly289 (269)
• New Zealand
6 Dec 08
I've always found that once you release it it tends to simmer down by itself. Swearing and cursing is the least violent way to get rid of my anger. I'm not one of those people who can keep quiet about what bothers me. Extremely vocal, don't ya know. It does work.
• India
11 Dec 08
Going out with that person is of course a good idea. I will also do that. If I feel sorry for what I have did, then I would take that person out with me and will try to change their mind. Lol. Being quiet when you are angry will definitely increase your anger. Just talk to that person about it and solve it. Happy to have your response. Happy mylotting.
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@catdla1 (6005)
• United States
6 Dec 08
You do get immediate satisfaction out of hooting, hollering and swearing. I totally agree. Only problem for me, is that I usually say something I regret, and have to end up apologizing. On the other hand, if I can get my hubby to blow his top, later when he feels bad, I usually get adinner out...lol.
• United States
6 Dec 08
I throw little temper tantrums and such, which is totally childish, but I am guilty of it. My boyfriend upset me a few months back and I threw my $165 cellphone and broke it. I had to pay for a new one so that was definately one of the dumber things that I did.
• India
11 Dec 08
Ya the above person is right. Breaking things does not affect anyones feelings except the bank balance. My friend also have a habit of breaking her cell phone when she is angry. I just hate it. She isn't earning and she don't have the rights to break it. Its her dad's money. She might know the value of money only when earning it.
@dozhou (326)
• United States
6 Dec 08
If I am angry, I just keep silent, don't say a word to that guy. In this way, I can have some space of my own and don't hurt others feeling.
• India
17 Dec 08
Being silent will burst out one day. Just take care. Happy to have your response. Happy mylotting.
• India
5 Dec 08
When i get angry with someone... i just shut my mouth up... this does two things first it cools me down slowly and restrains me from speaking foul words and hurting the other person..
• United States
7 Dec 08
yeah i do the same thing. if i wont say anything, i would prevent myself from saying not too nice things to the person i am angry at. and also, i would be able to evaluate myself and whatever happened.
• India
8 Dec 08
Thats cool. This doesn't help all time. Sometime you may feel depressed for yourselves. So better burst out than keeping it for yourselves. Lol. Happy to have your response. Happy mylotting.
@catmint (628)
• Singapore
6 Dec 08
When I am slightly angry people tend to decipher it as me being depressed because I will sulk in silence. But when I am really into being angry, it will not be hard to know because my eyes will flash and my face looks murderous. LOL...comments courtesy of the people who have to handle my anger :p I used to take it out on inanimate objects by smashing them on the floor but these days I want to work at calming myself down and loud noises doesn't help so I have stopped being physical.
• India
11 Dec 08
OMG!! I never wanted to break any things of mine. I will feel much for it later. Lol. Calming yourselves can be done in some other ways than this. Just listen to some good music or better watch some comedy films. Lol. Happy to have your response. Happy mylotting.
@nanajanet (4436)
• United States
6 Dec 08
It really depends on my start up mood at that moment. I may tell the person that I am angry, I may shut up and let it go, I may make myself busy, like clean the house or build something to get it out of my system. If something must be said, I will say it. I try not to be nasty but sometimes it just happens. Well, I do not mean nasty, as I will not insult anyone, but I may say, "I am really ticked off right now. That was uncalled for and makes me very angry," or something to that affect.
• India
17 Dec 08
Thats actually a good way to inform others that we are bit upset and angry. Atleast they may disturb us and make things worse. Lol. Happy to have your response. Happy mylotting.
@patweber (78)
• United States
6 Dec 08
Well it depends who I am with. I display it differently with family versus friends versus people I hardly know at all. I think my husband gets the worst of it: I give him the silent treatment for a while and THEN we have an argument. With other family I usually just erupt - maybe part of my Italian family upbringing? With friends, I get quiet stern in my voice. With people I hardly know, I just don't even bother. I don't do anything with food though. Interesting.
• India
14 Dec 08
Ya you are right. It also depends on the person whom we are angry. Better to talk out the problem rather than being silent. Lol. Happy to have your response. Happy mylotting.
• United States
6 Dec 08
Oh, this is such a great question! When I get into an argument at the dinner table, I have a tendency to stop eating, and start tearing pieces of bread apart onto my plate or mashing pieces with my fork! I experienced this first hand just yesterday when I went out for lunch with my Aunt. She was asking very embarrassing questions about my job and how much money I make- I showed that I was uncomfortable with the questions right away as I stumbled over my words and responding with non-specifics. I was not mad at first and thought I could simply explain what my pay rate was dependent on, however when I did this, she responded by saying that we were family and that I should tell her and asking me again. Oh gosh, and there were more things that she said that I would have a hard time repeating here! I pointed out that it would be like me asking her how much she makes. She said she would have told me. I pointed out that I probably would not ask her because it would be impolite. Note, I was very composed when I said all of this, however it came to my attention a few minutes later that while I may have maintained composure in the way I was speaking and what I was saying, I had obliterated some items on my plate! Thanks for asking this question, it gave me an opportunity to vent!
• India
14 Dec 08
Yup. That isn't a good thing to ask about the salary. Anyway I don't show my anger in this way. I won't torture the food. Lol. Happy to have your response. Happy mylotting.
@Polly289 (269)
• New Zealand
6 Dec 08
Hi there,When I'm angry I swear a lot. Rant, then rave and move on. I feel a little silly but it does help me get everything off my chest. When my husband was alive (God rest his poor tormented soul), I used to get cleaning. I have to say, my house was always spotless. Can't say that anymore, can I?
• India
14 Dec 08
I am so sorry for you. Let his soul rest in peace. Happy to have your response. Happy mylotting.
@ejohn82 (155)
• India
6 Dec 08
Previously when I used to get angry, I would lash out at anybody who would come near, say things and then regret it later. It usually ended by hurting the other person.I had quite a temper. But over the years I have mellowed down. I realised best thing to do when you are angry is to keep quite.After my temper has cool down I go talk to the person am angry with,explain and sort the matter out. Its best to talk it out rather than keeping yourself hungry or eating too much.
• India
14 Dec 08
Ya thats the best thing to do when we are angry. But its not that easy to cool down when we are angry. Lol. I am also trying to do that only. Happy to have your response. Happy mylotting.