Do you know someone like this?
By katsmeow1213
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
United States
December 5, 2008 8:26am CST
A few months ago I got into a discussion with someone over digital cameras. I have a very nice camera. It's an HP. It's rather simple, but it does everything I need. It takes video and zooms, and the picture quality is very good. There aren't a ton of buttons or a ton of features. Just the basics. There are a few things I can do with it that I haven't really tried before, like changing the flash settings and picture quality and things like that, so it's not a cheap camera. It's just simple, and I like simple.
Well the person I was talking to had a really big Nokia camera. It had about a million buttons on it. It looks professional grade, with some gigantic zoom lens.
Well the guy was actually bragging about how much he spent on it, which is basically more than I pay for rent in a month.
I commented that my camera was perfect for me, all I needed, and I got it at a great price. Through hubby's work we got the camera and a photo quality printer for $150. It was such a great price we ended up getting one for my best friend and his dad as well. (His dad asked where the film goes, lmao).
But this guy actually came across as if he was trying to make me feel inadequate for not having a more expensive camera that was as complicated as his.
Does he think he's better than me because he wasted money on a camera that he probably took months to figure out how to work? Is he better than me because his camera has more features than mine? I just don't get it. Mine is all I need, I love it. I take some very great pictures with it.
Do you know someone who thinks they're better than you because they spent a lot of money on some fancy gadget?
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20 responses
@makingpots (11915)
• United States
5 Dec 08
Okay, katsmeow, this is not a response I would usually give.......
setting the scene: a bunch of dudes, hangin' out doing whatever dudes do when they hang out.
When I run across people like you describe in this guy, I imagine one of those dudes nodding to another and saying, "makin' up for inadequatecies elsewhere"!
Little chuckle and I never think of them again.
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@Barb42 (4214)
• United States
6 Dec 08
I hate to see anyone brag about what they have, making you feel like what you have is trash. Your camera meets your needs and that's what matters. My husband and son are both into photography and do good and they both do have expensive cameras. And they know how to use all the buttons, change all the things on it that sound like GREEK to me! Well, I have a problem of staying steady and my pictures mostly come out blurred. Once in awhile I'd have some good ones when I managed not to shake. So my husband hunted for a camera that would help me take good pictures every time (or most every time). So he found the Canon S3 IS (image stabilization). It has been a life saver for me. But, if I could have taken pictures with another cheaper camera, it would have been fine with me. My daughter bought her daughter one that she only paid about $150 for it made wonderful pictures. But something happened to it, got it broke, so that's what she's getting for Christmas. But I think she's found a great deal on one.
Don't let anyone make you feel bad because they have something 'better' than you. I do know some who will buy 'better' things just to say they have something better, but never use it! I have to admit I do know someone that brags every time you get around them, and my husband and I hate to be in the same room when they are talking! We buy things because we either want or need them, not to brag about them in front of someone else! That's so tacky.
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
6 Dec 08
It wasn't even his camera that ticked me off either. I forgot how the conversation came about, but I know he took his camera out, told me what kind it was, told me all the stuff he could do with it, and the way he said it just sounded like he was showing off. It wasn't a "I'm proud of my camera" tone of voice, it was a "This camera is better than everyone else's" tone, you know? I repeated over and over, my camera is all I need, and he kept saying "Oh, but look what mine can do". Ugh! I don't care!
I appreciate that people need cameras like that for whatever reason, because they like being able to do different things and take different type shots. I only take pics of my kids mostly, and events that we attend, like the fair and the zoo and whatever else. That's all I need my camera for. I don't go taking pictures of wild life or landscapes, so I don't need anything fancy. We each get what works for us, and mine works for me.
@Barb42 (4214)
• United States
6 Dec 08
The way it sounds, he may have just been trying to show you what all his camera could do and didn't mean to be pushy or bragging, but he came off that way. It would have been nice had he waited for you to ask questions about his camera, not him push it on you, since you weren't interested. My husband will often talk with other men about their cameras, since he and my son are all into making better pictures all the time. My husband got his camera mostly to make live, moveable shots of our grandchildren playing football, soccer, and basketball. He shoots one frame after the other and can put lots of shots together, making it look like a movie. Me, I just make pictures like you. But we don't go around bragging about how good we are, that's for sure! And, half the time, I have to ask my husband how to do something on my own camera! His memory is better than mine and he understands cameras better than me.
@unuzzz (1273)
• Indonesia
5 Dec 08
hi katsmeow1213
wow, i'm pretty sure that you didn't get distracted from that d*mb words
okay, i hate such people
and sadly, i got such stereotype person among my friends
when i read your discussion, this friend just pop out in my mind
and then another one pop out too after i wrote the words above.. LoL
these guys are pathetic !!
the first one, never stop taking down people's pride
he always teased people by their appearances, by their words, by their stuffs, by everything !!
it's very irritating, especially to remember that i was considering him as a best friend since high school
right now i stop contacting him, i don't mean to be bad, i just want to limit spending time with him
since everytime we had him around, we always felt annoyed
the second one, he never stop complaining about everything !
aaaagh, i always got a headache everytime i heard him speaking
for example, when we went to a restaurant, he always said that the food was bad, and then compared it to the same food he had when he was in melbourne
he was studying there for several years
ok, sounds like i was jealous, but i'm not
for two or three times, it's still ok for listening to him
but for everytime we go out ? the story doesn't sound fun anymore
ah and the worst thing i hate a lot, is that he always being childish
like when he was whining to his mom to get him a NEW plasma tv
oh come on, he was older than me ?
both people have the same common,
they always regard themselves as the smartest
i can define those things from their saying, from their intonation, from everything
huhh,,
anyway.. thanks for letting me share here
:-P
although i wrote bad things about my friends,
i didn't really hate them
it's just so annoying to remember the past things, so i wrote it here
it felt better after i wrote it.. hehee
thanks katsmeow1213 ..
^ ^
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
5 Dec 08
I understand your frustrations. I've also had friends who have given me headaches with their constant complaining and trying to appear better than others. I too have stopped talking to them. Not because they're bad people. But you want to surround yourself with positive people, and people that will make you feel good about yourself.
Who you hang around says something about who you are, so it's okay to be picky about your friends.
@camomom (7535)
• United States
5 Dec 08
I hate people like that. Just because they have money they're God's gift to the world. I buy things for what I need them for and that's it. Nothing extra that I don't need. I also have just a simple HP camera and printer and it takes pictures. That's what I need it for. I don't need it to tell me the time of day or what color the subjects eyes are. I can see having something fancy like that if it's the persons job to take photos but why brag about it? That's just plain rude.
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
5 Dec 08
Sadly this guy doesn't have that much money. They get assistance and everything.
@camomom (7535)
• United States
6 Dec 08
The that's probably why he wass bragging. It was probably the only thing of value that he owned. Then again, if he was that broke he shouldn't have spent that much on a camera. No wonder he needed assistance, if he blew his money like that.
@kedves (728)
•
5 Dec 08
I shouldn't worry too much about it as it sounds as if his camera is in replace of something else missing in him :) i won't go into detail but im sure you can imagine what i mean :))
as for the camera's, i have both.. a small digital one and a larger all singing all dancing one. i enjoy using both and both are great for taking pictures.. i don't care what anyone else likes or thinks for me i am happy what i got :) and luckily most of the people i know or talk to are not arrogant or self absorbed that much to push their opinions on to me :)
have a great day and happy snapping and ignore the guy who uses his camera as a replacement pe$$s :)) ;)
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
5 Dec 08
You're too funny! I'm sure you're right too.
I didn't pay him too much attention. He works with hubby, and hubby can't stand him either. Luckily I don't have to see him or talk to him very often.
@jesssp (2712)
• Canada
5 Dec 08
People like that drive me nuts. I always assume they're compensating for something that is missing in their lives. I am super cheap and I don't need, want or even like big fancy expensive stuff and it doesn't impress me when other people shove their big fancy expensive stuff in my face. And as for cameras I completely agree with you, more buttons just means more messing around and then more missed moments. I want something totally automatic that decides what settings I need for me!
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
5 Dec 08
I'm with you. I don't like fancy or expensive either. I like everything plain and simple, regardless if it's a gadget, clothes, jewelry, whatever. Simple is best for me.
@1grnthmb (2055)
• United States
9 Dec 08
That guy has an ego that is probably bigger then your rent also. Do know, I would love to have a professional grade digital camera. I love photography and used to own a professional grade 35mm camera that was just amazing. But the cost of a digital one is far greater then what I paid for my 35mm. In fact the digital camera I bought last year was more expensive. And it is far from being professional grade. But for someone to set their and brag about the camera that he bought is just wrong. And probably he does not even know how to use it. Now that would put him in place. Most cameras are good for what we want them for. To record memories. Unless you want to make a name for yourself there is little use for it other then that.
@balacancer22 (1148)
• India
6 Dec 08
Some peoe are like that only..they claim that theirs the best if they had bought it for a better price than yours..i think $150 is not a small amount and i reckon HP is better than Nokia in camera's and dont worry about others and live life kingsize as you wish and dont care about others...happy mylotting..
@mimico (3617)
• Philippines
6 Dec 08
I don't anyone like that nor have I been in the exact same situation. I guess there really are some people who just love to brag. I hate those kind of people and will really get annoyed with them to the point that i might just walk away from him or her if he or she keeps talking on and on about the possession. But after some time, you have to realize that sometimes, people have nothing else to brag about-no smarts, no skills, no model children that they turn to these kinds of things.
@redkathy (3374)
• United States
6 Dec 08
I really can't stand boasting people. I'll bet that guy wasn't a professional just a spoiled "about me" person. Why do I say that... My son is a professional photographer and when I asked him about a new camera he told me to buy a point and shoot because that's all I really needed. And when he saw my pictures he said, See I told you it would be good for you. I have some nice equipment from years ago because I used to shoot sports pictures and really enjoyed it but it's 35mm film. Not so good for me now, too expensive to develop and not what I use a camera for anymore.
So you see why I say this guy was a about me person right?
@fordham08 (131)
• Philippines
6 Dec 08
Yes, I know lots of peoplke like that. I really don't mind them, it's just a waste of time to think about what they say, just like waste of money!
@burnek (101)
• Philippines
6 Dec 08
Well, lucky for you yours is branded. Mine's a sonic vision. from Korea. And i'm happy with it. As long as its serves its purpose. Anyways, I have met people like that once in a while and while its true that those top of the line gadgets were really impressive and expensive, I don't think that they are better than somebody else. I actually think people like that is seeking attention and theyre happy bragging about something they posses. As for me, I dont buy expensive gadgets anymore. I actually bought an expensive cellphone and guess what! Its half the price now since i bought it a year ago. You got a good bargain with yours. good decision.
:)
@palonghorn (5479)
• United States
6 Dec 08
people like that are never truly happy, they are too busy trying to impress others, and normally they don't impress anyone. lol i figure it's like anything else, to each their own. i have a nikon d40, but i like having all the options of manually setting it or just point and shoot. my daughter has a point and shoot type and loves it, she wouldn't like mine because of all it can do lol. but i don't brag about it to people. i did kinda show it off at first, it along with high def printer were gifts from my s/o last christmas. lol
@munhozmib (3836)
• Sao Paulo, Brazil
6 Dec 08
Hello, katsmeow1213.
Well, you are not your camera. Your camera is just an object. It belongs to you. He is not his camera either. His camera might be better, which doesn't mean he is. It only means that he is going to have some trouble figuring out all those buttons. While that, you will already be taking shots all over. Perhaps he just said because of the way you approached him. Are you sure you didn't sound like you were bragging about your camera when you started talking to him? Perhaps it was his self-defense way. Or not. Perhaps he is just fool to think that you are worst because you don't have such a great camera.
In my opinion, he is just trying to show that he is better than you at some point. Probably because he is not better than you at the other things.
Respectfully,
Munhozmib.
@violeta_va (4831)
• Australia
6 Dec 08
I do know lots of people like that. Thinking they are better then you just because they spend a fortune on something. My friend has a very expencive mobile and always jokes about mine and I said well if I want a $2000 mobile that I can use as a gps and send e-mails I will go buy a computer and gps and it would cost me less that shut her up. my other friend got vertical blinds for her house and thinks that everyone should have them (I dont like them as I like my privacy at home) and when I said that I was going to change my material blinds she said "big W has them on special 2 for $18" I said money is not an issue I will gave them custom made like everyone else . Mind you they get much less then we do and she acts like she has millions.
@lovelyvelle (639)
•
5 Dec 08
I know a lot of people like that, thinking that they are better than me because of the things they got and have in life especially when it comes to material things. I am not a materialistic person, what I need most is the things that I should get, if I can get it in a cheapest price I would. It's not just about gadgets some people too look down somebody because they are not wearing branded clothes. These kind of people thinks that life is a competition of material things that they got, but that's their own way. I just ignored them.
@gicolet (1702)
• United States
5 Dec 08
I have come across a person like that before. Just ignore him and don't take it personally. People like that wants attention in expense of looking and sounding like a jerk. Your camera might not be as good as his but you're far more smarter person than him just by realizing his personal insecurity. Enjoy your camera.
@ledeenz (25)
• Philippines
6 Dec 08
well people like him_just need attention.maybe that is why he bought an expensive gadget just to catch attention. but importantly no matter how less expensive or simple things you have as long as you are contented on what you get_i guess that is more important. rather than making your life complicated and being so loud of your expensive things oohhhhhh--better for him to shut up...he might only hurt other people of let other feel inferior which is not good.
---now a days--i guess people need to be more practical---maybe unless he is so so rich its okay to buy all the lavish...well well still there are really people like him..just ignore...