love but not inlove? how do you keep it burning?
By missparanoia
@missparanoia (85)
Philippines
December 6, 2008 7:44am CST
most of us feels immensely in love specially if the relationship is fresh, but for some they just can't keep it that way. I love my hubby, I don't wanna lose him but the spark just ain't there anymore. I guess first impressions don't last eh. We use to date and stuff, he use to bring me to the beach for no reason but since we moved in and have kids, things just weren't the same anymore. We only go to places if we get invited, we wouldn't go out if I don't ask him. I guess we kinda rushed things.Imagine those who fell in love at first sight.
I guess I'm pretty much amazed to people who are still in love to their partners after 20_50_70 years, hail to you! Could you give me some advice here? anyone out there who felt the same way I do?
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2 responses
@kerriannc (4279)
• Jamaica
6 Dec 08
Hi miss paranoia welcome to MYLOT. Now persons who love each other after a couple of years together have three ingredients (1) God (2) Friendship (3) Love. You see with God as the head of the relationship you can survive the disappointment and move on. When two persons takes time out to build a friendship inside the relationship then you can be happy. In this friendship you will get to know each other better. The things that your partner likes, dislikes. Although I am not married I build a friendship with my former boyfriend and because of this friendship we were able to weather the storms. We broke up because he has not accept his illness and his self esteem is down. I still be a friend. Now Love is what makes you conqueror everthing. Yes the little mistakes that one makes because you will forgive he/she.
Take time out to know your husband. You don't have to go out to enjoyed yourselves. Take the theatre and the party at home. When the kids are sleeping put in a music or a show and just relaxed together. I love music from the old days singers like Kenny rogers etc and I will always be playing and enjoying myself because I don't have the money to sport.
All the best.
Kerri
@missparanoia (85)
• Philippines
6 Dec 08
hi Kerri, thanks for the advice. He works at night, but I guess we can do that during his day off. I guess I should do more for him rather than thinking of what he can do for me.
@missparanoia (85)
• Philippines
8 Dec 08
yah, it is hard to miss the spark in the relationship, you're hoping for him to somehow surprise you but just keep on waiting and it's getting too long and you'll wonder if he'll ever do, anyway I just keep on being sweet to him and I guess it is better to just stop waiting and maybe someday things will heal its self and love will rekindle. For now I just do my own thing. For as long as he's not cheating I guess we'll be okay.
