Good intentions gone bad! Ever had a positive idea or act blow up in your face?

I have been there jmaes, for many times and all in my gesture to do good. As a child, I remember, spoling a huge quantity of cake making ingredients many times before actually I could master the art. Whenever, my mom used to go out, my only passion was to do some sneaky things which I was not allowed to do otherwise. I remember, messing about half dozen times with those expensive cocoa, choco chips, dry strawberries, raisins, butter….But my mom never scolded me for that. She had always encouraged me. But I am sure she must have felt bad for the wastage. I remember another instance when in my endeavour to do good, had done something which I regret even to this day. It’s again with my mom. She was on her visit to country home and she had repeatedly told me not to mess around. I, in all good intention, tried to wash her clothes, which she had dumped wash after she would comeback. Now, I dipped all the clothes together in the machine. And guess what, all the colored and white stuffs were messed miserably for I did not know that those were for dry washing! When she came back, she was very upset for some were her favourite clothes! I cannot forgive me for that even now.

About a year ago , on a spree of cleaning the house and rearranging some of the furniture, artifacts and so on , iwas trying to move a delicate china vase belonging to my sister in-law to a different more visible place. And before i knew it , the damn thing slipped from my hand and broke inot multiple pieces. The reaction from her: - Was a stiff , miffed reaction, probably one of wanting to clout my head i suppose. I'm sure my brother got the brunt of it though. I was sincerely apologetic and offered to replace it, but was not allowed to. I've been at the othere end of it too, when my brother while trying to move and park my car, as there weas some road work going on , rammed the back of it into the gate leaving a dent at the back. The instant reaction was that of anger, and the words which followed it were, "why the hell did you try to do it. You could have just told me." Compare the two, it think i got away with it lightly. But the guilt always remains. We should try to get that feeling of rage and disbelief and try to comprehend the situation before reacting.

It depends on your financial situation. If spending a $1000 for a bottle is not an issue I would not complain. I would be flattered but if I am finding it hard to make my ends meet than I would not be so pleased. © ronaldinu 2008

I made my mum and dad breakfast in bed when I was small. I had been told never to touch the knofe drawer or the hot kettle. I spread butter and marmalade on bread with my fingers and made tea with cold water. I then carried the things, one at a time into my parents bedroom, smearing butter and marmalade all the way. They were very good. They did not show me that they did not like it. But I did notice that they moved everything in the kitchen up to higher shelves so that I could not reach anything!!!

Yes, one Christmas I wanted to give my good friend a lot choice so I bought her many gift cards to a variety of different stores. I spend over $500 BUT the whole thing blew up in my face. She did not think I put enough effort into it and got upset.

Yeah I can't tell you how many times that has happened to me personally. On the flip side, earlier today I was very angry at my fiance for accidently breaking our son's toy box when he stepped back without looking and crushed it. He fell over and hurt his wrist pretty bad, but I was so angry with him that I didn't care. He was actually trying to fix our internet connection right before he stepped back from the modem so he was doing me a good deed and all I could see was RED when he broke our son's favorite toy box. I've since calmed down and realized it was an accident and I didn't have to be so mean and cold towards him about it. But during that time, nothing could have made me feel any different. I can't explain WHY we react that way to people when they're trying to do a good deed but for some reason that seems to be the very first emotion...anger.

lol....happens all the time to my husband....he's trying to do something for me and ends up making me mad (well, I have a short fuse too...and that doesn't help one bit!)There are so many instances and just can't come up with one at the moment.

I feel sorry for the wife.. I would understand if the husband would be angry. It's okey for the husband to reprimand his wife but i hope he will also give credit to his wife for the efforts and the supposed pleasing act. I had been in the situation before but not this worse.

Repeat after me: "thank you honey for the beautiful dinner and I promise to work harder at communicating"...

It is a known fact that good ideas always spread slowly but bad ideas always spread fastly so positive ideas need time to be understood by the people around you

many times ;_;

Hi, James! I think it was just a spontaneous reaction that some people would show. This kind of things do happen every day in our lives and sometimes we do realize it, but still we react or treat the same way when it happens to us even though we know what it feels to be unappreciated. It's quite similar in a situation where we know that it is wrong, but we still do it or when someone is trying to surprise or impress us, but do not meet our expectations that we become grumpy or could be we are being egoistic even though deep in our hearts we do not mean it and we know that we can fix it later. That's what I think...