Life without wife is nothing. Do you agree?
By ganga472007
@ganga472007 (624)
India
December 7, 2008 9:57am CST
One of my elderly friend use to say taht "Life without wife is nothing". He is widower.We practice monogamy.The importance of life partner is being realised at old age. Many people use to stress the importance of a life partner at a latter stage only. What makes them to share their feeling like this? Please share your views.
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15 responses
@khatrokhat (58)
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7 Dec 08
Hello
if we choose a person who we really love and think they are the one who we were looking for we never will survive without them, once we found them
but lack of knowledge about who we are looking for? in relationship may be end up with divorce or maybe really big argument with the partner.
so i agree that "life without wife is nothing" but i am going to change this sentence to 'Life without wife is nothing,if you choose the right wife, other wise nothing is life without wife'
@ganga472007 (624)
• India
9 Dec 08
You have pointed out a reality in life. Thanks for participation.
@underdogtoo (9579)
• Philippines
7 Dec 08
There are people who think that life without wife is everything. They are the ones who have very quarrelsome, domineering wives who will not let them be. I suppose it all depends on the wife. Cheers!!
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@trinale (1479)
• United States
7 Dec 08
Hmm, I wonder if I will feel the same way when I'm older? Right now, I don't feel a life without a wife in nothing. Maybe people who think like that, should develop more self-love and confidence or something.
I just don't understand the complete concept of must having a spouse or even people who feel they can't survive without friends for that matter.
Cheers,
Stan
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@ganga472007 (624)
• India
9 Dec 08
Every one has to develope more self-love and confidence. Being affectionate with one who responses in equal manner, we feel happy. Thanks for participation
@royal52gens (5488)
• United States
7 Dec 08
I am at the mid-life area of my life. I have been married twice. I have been single. I have been divorced and am going through a second divorce. I find that I am happier when I am single. I enjoy my friends and activities so much more. I am not always wondering what my mate is thinking or what he will think. I come and go as I please. I answer to no one but me. Life without a mate is freedom for me.
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@ganga472007 (624)
• India
9 Dec 08
I hope you have developed your life such a way. It is all depend upon our style of living. You like fredom which give you a satisfaction. Okay. I wish you a happy life. Thanks for participation.
@lloydbelleza (1227)
• Philippines
7 Dec 08
I do not believe that life without a wife is nothing. We are called to different vocations. It is either we choose to be single, married or live a consecrated life. God has different plans for us. Being not married does not mean we are doomed to a life of nothingness etc. We just have to accept the purpose of our existence.
@ganga472007 (624)
• India
9 Dec 08
I admit your philosophy that God has different plans and to accept that purpose. Thanks for participation.
@syfarisk (378)
• Malaysia
7 Dec 08
Yes, I think so. It's natural for every human being to want to have a partner to share their life with.
Of course, we have our friends, or our groups of people that we hang out with, and spend time with, and whom we talk about our common interests with. That's important to fulfill our social requirements also.
But at the same time, all human beings want that accompaniment with that one person they truly love. Meaning they want that time to be with that one person, and one person only.
Just like how people need their privacy, meaning they need that time alone with themselves, people also need that time alone with one partner that he or she can share his or her life with.
Humans needs all those types of social conditions, which are, being with a group of people, being with one other close person, and being with him or herself. They need all that, and that's natural among all people.
@ganga472007 (624)
• India
9 Dec 08
A life partner with a good understanding is an virtue. Thanks for participation.
@oldboy46 (2129)
• Australia
8 Dec 08
I cannot entirely agree with that statement. I had a wife for a number of years but then she was not happy and due to what she did we ended up divorced. I now accept that had my now ex-wife and I stayed together, it would not have been the life that I wanted to live. Yes that is experience talking because now I know better.
In all respects the partner I have now is the one I want to spend the rest of my life with. My partner and I have been together for a number of years but at this time are not "legally" married so she is what is generally called my common law wife. However we are hoping to get married next year sometime, subject to how our finances are that is. Do I want to grow old with my partner? Yes and I cannot imagine my life without her as part of it.
We share so much together and actually enjoy spending time together. No we do not have children together but between us we have 5 (all adults now) from our first marriages plus the grandchildren. Maybe the difference this time around is that we want to be together, we are not young, we have both learnt from previous experience, we talk about everything that concerns us and most of all we were friends before we became life partners.
We make sure we have enough time just for ourselves as a couple. That is a big factor in any relationship as often the "couple" part can get lost in every day life when children are young and it is hard to get it back again.
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@mjmlagat (3170)
• Philippines
8 Dec 08
Hi there! I guess it all depends on the person's priorities in life. If treasures personal relationships rather than the "other" relationships, then it would be very difficult for him to survive happily in a life without a wife especially if he's not getting any younger anymore.
@ushaqwer (95)
• India
8 Dec 08
life widout wife is nothing is true.there must be a person to care.a wife takes care of everythin.frnds,relatives are different,they dnt sacrifice their lives for us.only a wife can look after her husband.she can do anything for her husband.there must be a person who loves us so much,who takes care who shares who is ready to do anything.to a lady husband is too important.
@VinceMcMahon (1073)
• New Zealand
8 Dec 08
I agree with it. Particularly when a wife is very nice, kind, and true to one. I have a friend who recently got married and living an happy life. Its a love marriage and he is very happy with his wife. I think both husband and wife should understand each other to live a happy life. And marriage is something important in life and I think wife is the one with whom you share anything and everything about you and yes I personally believe that wife is important and without whom the life will only be half filled.
@ronnyb (6113)
• Jamaica
15 Dec 08
Before I answer that question I would have to qualify that statement by saying it depends on our needs ,maturity and perhaps status in life.
If a wife is what we have always wanted then living without one would be a pretty unsatisfied life.
If you are young and impulsive and not ready for settling down then not having a wife wouldnt be a problem and if you are forced into marriage then the chances of it doing well are very high.
Some persons who subscribe to societal norms might have a problem not having a wife after reaching a certain age and social status .For these persons not having a wife would be like having nothing at all.
So in summary not having a wife is nothing if its something you want and you are unable to achieve.In the case of the elderly gentleman his need for a wife arises from hi need for companionship and his status in life .He is at a stage in hi slife when it is imperative to have someone around to talk to especially when he get lonely.In addition ,his status also dictates that he should have a wife ,it would be rather weird if he was looking to start a new relationship at his age.
@chevill (316)
• Philippines
8 Dec 08
yes I think so, wife is the heart and soul is the hubby. It's really a waste life if someone will live all alone. Unlike the wives out there, if they lost their hubbies I think the women can still continue her life with head high and strong. that's what you called girl power but the other man who lost their wives, can't live without looking for another to replace their wife because they need someone for their lifetime. correct me if i am wrong, if the mom was not there, the father can't do all his resposibilities alone but the women can be both mom and dad for her children without replacing her lost partner. that's how importsnt is the wife!
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@sunny0806 (248)
• China
8 Dec 08
Because they are so lonely.
They maybe have children or even have grandchildren.
But their children spend much time on work and his family and their grandchildren spend much time on study.
In fact wife is not all of life, when he shares everything with his children or grandchildren he would not say so.
Let's pay more attention to the elder.
@wheel416 (1019)
• Canada
8 Dec 08
"Life without wife is nothing." Nope, I can't say that I agree with that one. At the risk of perhaps my being "ageist", I just can't swallow that one. Admittedly, I am 30 years old. That fact alone, means there are many more people and out there who have much more wisdom than I.
What I do however take issue with, is the assumption that 1 may only be happy as part of at a "couple". This is for me is simply not true. I believe that people should be whole as an individual before trying to be part of a couple.
I also think, that every individual needs a purpose in their life. They need to feel that they are wanted and needed. As people, we want to few useful and feel that we have contributed some help to the lives of others. I believe that having a significant other is just one avenue that could give someone fulfillment. In my opinion however, there are many other ways a person may achieve happiness and make their contribution to society.
What if those that choose the path of dedication to religion and or God. They seem to find fulfillment and happiness and outside of conventional relationships.
What if the women who cannot or perhaps, even choose not to have children? Do they not contribute to society? I contend, that they contribute in many other ways. If one chooses to without children, give their time to something else, such as their careers, that is viewed in our society as less valuable. I say don't put a value on it. Neither, is any better or worse then the other, instead let them be equal.
What of famous people in history who were considered "mad" by others because they did not fit conventional roles? Albert Einstein, Michelangelo and many other artistic folks has made contributions to society.
I think that diversity is what makes life great if one or all the same I can think of only one word: BORING!!
So let us not judge others on their choices, but look instead to find what we may be able to learn from them. That is one of my basic philosophies of life. I believe that people and events come into our lives as we need them and that in every encounter we have I either have something to learn, or something to teach.
OK, that got pretty deep. However it's where your post to lead me. Many thanks for giving me something to ponder.
@RebsHart (74)
• United States
8 Dec 08
'Life withou wife is nothing' ... can't say that I agree with that... I have been married and divorce and a few relationships since that...I think you have to know how to be happy and satified with just you before two can be truly happy with each other. Too often I think people get together thinking that other person has to make them happy or whole, but that ends up being too much pressure on the partner. I know a girl who had been married and divorced three times and every time she was single she would just spend the whole time stressing, moaning and groaning over being single then when she would get into a relationship again she would make her whole world revolve around him and each time it ended horribly ... personally I think you have to know how to be happy in whatever state you are in at the moment.