Did you ever change for the person you love?

Actually, I am trying to but it is hard. He keeps on telling me that I should be the one to adjust for him.

Its not really changing for me. Its more on compromising. With my boyfriend, I think I became sensitive to his needs as well as my needs. Even if I do want some things, I would never do it if it would affect our relationship.

I did change who I was for someone else for over 10 years out of love and I lost MYSELF. One day I realized that I had sacrificed traditons ,family and friends and my very happiness for him. I left and have had to learn me all over again.

it's not something that of a fiction. maybe it's hard for a girl to think of changing for a guy she loves. coz on my point of view, it's the guys who always adapts for the girl. sometimes it's just a matter of "pride" when you say you can't change. "change" is constant, it is everywhere. why would you restrict yourself into it. if your reason for not changing is because your boy told you so, then i pity you. look into things without thinking of yourself first, it could be really better for your relationship to do so.

good and nice when people they love they change is good but sometimes when there is misunderstanding we again try to do the bad things so love can change our habits but also make worse when either of us cheat and i couldn't say it could ever happen bcos we can make this happen or not, we can do what we want, we can make good use of the situation or become worse it depends on Us

a bit yes ,i quit smokin just for ma girl i knw for sure i cld nt hv done dis witout her........

I dont consider moving or settling down to be "changing" I think its more like adapting or better yet growing/maturing...To me "changing" for someone would be changing your once solid opinions or changing your once solid religion...Changing would be becoming the person THEY wanted you to be....and no I would never and have never...This is me, I'm strong in who I am, proud of who I am and if my hubby or bf dont like it/me then they dont belong with me....

I think that I have changed myself somewhat all for love and it might not have been a good thing. Maybe I should just have remained my old, stupid, stubborn self. Cheers!!

Hi there! Hmmm… Hi there! Well, maybe but I never really thought of it… if I change since we’ve been together. I guess, if there is, that would be for a good thing since we don’t have problems even right now. Maybe my attitude as well like I am not that hard headed because he kinda thought me how to be patient most of the time... hahaha! Thanks for this discussion! Happy Mylotting! And Happy Holidays! Cheers!

It's my opinion that you're being free to change for someone you love,only if you think that will help improving your relationship.However,you know,people's attitude is always in contradiction to their character.When you hope for a big change on someone you love,you're actually not sure about what's happening to your relationship.Don't expect me to believe in "All is well that ends well."Are you really looking forward to it that someone you love isn't who he/she should be anymore but a perfect person?Then why will you have to choose among those who are the same perfect?Don't you love someone because of his/her distinction?If you're in destined relationship to a playboy or a playgirl,you won't definitely accuse him/her of something wrong he/she might do.They're sure that they're not loving the perfect people.But they're not sure about whether they will still be in love with them if they change into perfect people.

Hi Laydee. i did. I changed for the person i love,i really did. but still i think we changed before of him or her,it's nice to do it,but it is no meaning that we already changed,that is not really ourself,now...right? but still i think if a little bit change both of us are happy,why not? if change for someone,but myself not happy....that is too bad. i rather forgive him. what if he would say something like,well if you love me you shall do anything for me.oh? do you think so? cheers

well of course i changed not only my residency but my country as well. For me it's lots of changes, first when i was in the philippines i don't cook, wash dishes, and do the laundry, now i did it all. hehehhehe for the sake of love. Why not? Have a good day.

How I look at your yourself are special you should not have to change yourself for anyone. If you like yourself that is all that matters. Moving to be closer to them yes. But in my case he actually moved in with me. Been happily together for almost 2 years. Have 4 kids only the 4 month twin girls are his. But he is wonderful to my son and daughter they call him daddy. I wouldn't ask to change anything about him. He is wonderful to me as well. When I am sick he makes me something to eat and brings it to the bed for me. He helps me cook, clean, take care of all the kids, laundry, and even draws my bath sometimes. So my answer to you is no I wouldn't change and wouldn't ask him to change either.

Depends on how the change affects you. if you the way you are can be better or changed. give it a try. if you dont like it then stop. but if yu feel yur perfect stay perfect :)

When I married I started changing as per my husband liking but that relationship didnt survive, so from then onwards I have decided to be myself and be comfortable. Changing in life is essential for betterment for example if you have negative trend of thinking then it is good to change towards the positive one but one should change for ones own sake not for others.

Yes i did change for love..he never asked me change but asked me to remain myself however i did change myself..knowingly and unknowingly...my outlook to life was a bit conservative which just changed overtime and certain other small things in life just changed to blend wid his..i guess change is ineveitable and when u love someone so much u just do it to be compatbale.. And i wouldnt say its a romantic fiction...ehhh

yes, I changed location, then country for my love. He changed also a lot for me. For a connection to last, there has to be compromise from both sides. Change of habits it's a must when tou're not on your own. We have to realize that each of us is a whole person, with its own habits, wants and needs. If we really want to have a good relationship, both of us have to come to an understanding and behave in such a manner that both will be pleased. There are still ROMANTICS on this earth. Love is the only thing that can bring us satisfaction and happiness. Good luck - follow your heart!

i did change for someone i love everything that i need to change just to prove how much i love her, like moving my location just to be near, study more just to let her know that there is a future on me, learned everything that a good future husband must do. i did change for good. one question that i have never expected that will the person you love would be able to do the same thing that you do? i did not not expect for everything in-return for every good deeds i made i just have love her.

That was an interesting question. To answer that, I don't have to change my attitude for him because this is what I am ever since I met him and this is my attitude that he knows since we started our relationship. However,I may change my attiude but definitely not because he asked me too.I will change it because I want o change it.

It depends upon the situation. If I will change for the better, definitely, I will but, I will never change for someone to love me. Loving someone for me is accepting one's qualities and faults...