How do you feel about sperm donners, being one, using one?
By moondancer
@moondancer (7433)
United States
December 8, 2008 5:19pm CST
I saw something on tv talking about sperm donners and I got to thinking. Many people can not have children. I had beautiful children that I love dearly and they are an important part of my life.
Some people don't have children for various reasons. The husband can't have children or other reasons. They will adopt or have a sperm donner or use injection of sperm to have a baby.
I myself didn't have a child for years after marriage and was looking into adoption when I found out I was pregnant. It never crossed my mind to have a sperm donation of any kind. I don't even know who I'd want as a donner if I went that way. I know I'd want someone that has a bright mind, high IQ and has a successful life. With as little health issues in the family as possible.
The looks would be important as I have light hair and blue eyes, so does my husband.
Therefore, although I love dark hair and eyes having a child that looked more like my husband and myself would be important.
How would you feel about this? Would you do it? What would be your wants if you did?
I'm just curious, as some people are. Thank you in advance for all replies.
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4 responses
@reinydawn (11643)
• United States
9 Dec 08
I think it's a good thing for people who can't have their own. From what I understand you can be pretty selective. The only thing I worry about is the family medical "history" that happens after the donation is made. I would think that many donors are young and haven't had medical things happen too often in their immediate family. If there was a way to keep the recipeint updated on that it would be awesome.
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@reinydawn (11643)
• United States
9 Dec 08
It is a wonderful thing that people are able to do. But with birth children, at least you know what things to expect or look for. I think it would be so easy to set up a database that the donors could update for the sake of the child... But you are right, it's usually just for the money in their pockets...
@moondancer (7433)
• United States
9 Dec 08
Most if not all donors wish to have nothing to do with the recipiant. They just wish to do their part and leave you to it. making your dreams come true and their pockets lined somewhat more than before. It's a true and disturbing fact. However it's mostly true.
You have to hope they were honest about everything on the form they filled out. They do have to put the medical history I would thing, as far as they know it that it.
However you never really get any promises even in real birth children.
It's a wonderful concept and I'm glad it's available for those that wish to partake of it.
Many men do not want the responsibility involved if later the woman wants to have child support, which some have done. So it's a toss up.
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@Thumper11 (662)
• United States
8 Dec 08
I see nothing wrong with being a sperm donor or using one if you are a woman, who wants a child and has no other means of obtaining one, or has tried and failed at other methods. I want children, but if I can't have them I will adopt.... But I am not against using a sperm donor. I just think that some people use this route to pick exactly what their child will look and be like and I think that is wrong..... Who are we to play god? We should not have the right to do this..... I admit though..... who wouldn't want to have a Johnny Depp look alike father their child....?
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@moondancer (7433)
• United States
8 Dec 08
I think if you can not have a child there is nothing wrong with trying to find the best person you can to be the donor. I'd want my child to be a close resemblance to my husband and me if I could and to be smart as they need to be to get through life successfully. If you find the need to have a dono then there is nothing wrong with making sure or trying to have a child that will do well when he/she is older.
I opted for adoption too, but then got pregnant before any paper work was filed. It's just a thought and I wa wondering.
@goldeneagle (6745)
• United States
9 Dec 08
I would be a sperm donor if I qualified for the program. I could surely use the extra money...LOL
I definitely would NOT want to know if someone was actually fertilized using my donation, though.
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@moondancer (7433)
• United States
9 Dec 08
I totally understand, if a child came as the result then you would want to know more about him/her. Being your child no matter what a good parent would want to know about the child. Peoples conscience, good people would want to know.
I myself, althought I'm a waoman would want to know the people that would raise the child as it is a part of me and my child. It would be very hard for me to do this as I love children and would worry myself sick over the child.
Thank you for your response.
@tron20 (28)
• Canada
8 Dec 08
I don't see anything wrong with sperm donors or women who want to use them. There are situations where the husband medically can not do his part, and adoption can be a long process.
I still believe adoption is a better alternative (being adopted myself)
@moondancer (7433)
• United States
8 Dec 08
Adoption is wonderful. It's a means to an end. I also don't think there is anything wrong with a donor for having a child too.
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