If you have your own biological children, would you still adopt children?

I have often thought of adopting a child even though I am able to have my own. I really don't want a baby and would rather have a toddler or child that would sleep at night. My dad was adopted a 6 years old and I have always wondered what it would be like to give a child a good home that hasn't had one.

I have children, but would love to adopt a child. I have medical problems and have been advised not to get pregnant again, but that doesn't stop me from wanting to have more children. I would love to be able to adopt a child and give that child a real family and all of the love in the world.

It depends. I mean if I have only one child then I might go for adoption because personnally i feel that if there are two children in house they grow up nice. I mean there will be competition among them. but if I will have two then ... I think I won't!!

Zandi458, How could it be wrong, at any level, to give a child, who otherwise has nothing or very little, a stable home and the love of a mother and the love shared within a family. You are an amazing person. I have learned just by reading your opinions and your views on a variety of subjects. You have a unique insight and the ability to express yourself in a manner that is refreshingly rare. These two young girls are more fortunate than anyone could possibly imagine. How lucky they are that the choices made by you has resulted in an exposure to an attitude and knowledge they would other wise never know. The stupidity in this case lays with your so called 'friends', who are displaying selfishness and narrow mindedness that people who make bad decisions often display. Anyone who has raised children know the difficulties and sacrifices that must be made to do just an average job. To do a good job of the task at hand takes that much more effort. I am sure your sons have gained by having two sisters. We males, maybe because of the way we are made, are not as caring as women, and definitely not as caring as young ladies raised by such a giving mother. I would bet that your daughters are going to be very close friends with you as the years go by. Congratulations, once again you have shown the world how a smart woman deals with the difficulties confronted and how to make wise choices, as she marches through this life. It is my privilege to share space with you on these MyLot spaces.

Yeah. I actually have one of my own right now and have already been considering adopting later in the future. It just grew on me one day. I don't know for sure if i will but hope to.

There are so many unwanted children in the world. People like you, who have a big heart full of love and compassion make it possible for these children to have a loving home. I commend you for providing this for your two daughters.

You have made the right choice ever. Your friends from my view they are totally selfish and probably stone heart. Adoption, to give a child who could not get what normal children get from normal family, I could say it probably is the greatest thing ever happen in their life. Should people imagine and stand on their side, if that was me, I can't imagine how much desire of being loved I would ever wish and other aspect of live, pressure, mentality could be totally different. Sure, I totally agree for adoption even though I have my own children. It is just amazing to give people what they could not have, isn't?

I know two families in our apartment complex who had a biological child and adopted another child. The first family had a girl and adopted another girl (legally making them only guardians of the child because the Indian adoptation law states that a family can adopt a child of the opposite gender if they already have a child) while the second family had a son and adopted a little baby girl. I don't see anything wrong in that. I've always wanted to adopt a girl (I have two boys) but our financial condition at the moment doesn't permit us to have more children. My only concern about adopting is if my adopted child grows up and falls in love with a biological sibling unknowingly.

We have 3 children and yes we are also foster/adoptive parents. I have had a few children that I wanted to adopt, but the mothers didn't give up their rights. It's a shame really because the children were neglected and abused in different ways in their homes. If people are not going to treat children the way they should, in a loving, caring, and unhurtful way then they should not have them. Let someone take them that will do these things. I have been a 2nd mother to many children and I love them all very much.

I absolutely commend you for adopting regardless if you had children already or not. For one to open up their home for others has to have a huge heart and YOU my dear have that and then some. For those who've told you that you were stupid in doing so are heartless and are not someone to call your friend(s). How cold can one be? How can anyone say anything like that to you or anybody else? I'd have to tell them so too because if they have the nerve to say that to you, you should have the nerve to put them in their place.

No one is ever wrong when it comes to adopting children in my opinion. (by the way whoever is trying to make you feel bad for adopting more children when you have your own is just wrong and nasty!) I was only able to have one child and had him later in life. I wanted to adopt many more, but finances intervened and I have not been able to. I still think about it. I agree, I love children and it just hurts my soul when I see children (and the hundreds) who need love and family and don't/can't have one. Adopting makes sense for everyone who loves and wants to raise and family (and can afford it of course)!! Good for You!!!

if my life circumstances were different i would definitely consider adoption. i have one son and because i had him late in life and it was a hard pregnancy with complications it was not recommended that i have anymore. with that said i would have liked at least one more. it would be nice for my son not to be all alone in this world and have a sibling for when his dad and i are no longer here. my husband would not want to adopt so that puts a big damper on things and we cannot afford it. so if i had more money and a more supportive spouse it could change things.

I would. If and only if I have money to support them all. There's so many kids out there who needs someone to take care of them. If only I could.

I have no problem with this, Babies are Babies as far as I'm concerned, Older children might be another situation. I am not very good with problem children, it's my way or the hwy. I'm strict and loving, but not real flexible with kids. it's my feeling that older children would be better off with someone more laid back then me.

I know many people who have adopted after having biological children You are not alone. I know one couple that had 10 children and then adopted several more. they had the means to do it, and the desire to, so why not? I also know of a couple where the wife had 4 children by a previous marriage but couldn't keep a pregnancy with her second husband. They adopted three. there are many reasons for adopting. I adopted two and then had one, backwards from the norm, I guess. My only criticism would be that people who have lots of kids already (not you) should leave some children for the barren couples to adopt. Adoption is financially difficult and also, babies are hard to come by. For this reason I would say, if you have plenty of kids already, leave some for the childless. this does not apply to older kids, though, becuase they are not a high priority for childless couples. They usually go wanting and desperately need homes. We tried to adopt when our last child was about 10, but there were no suitable children for us. One that was offered was known to kill animals- a bad sign. another was not sure of his gender identity. You are lucky you got your wonderful girls and I commmend you for adopting them. Adoption is a good thing.Don't listen to your friends.

had 5 of my own and all thier friends didnt need more1

I would say - what a superlative gesture on your part. Indeed you did a great thing by adopting two daughters. It clearly shows that you are 'different' from others and may be in the category of ' ' persons. I agree with you that every child needs love and when great human beings like you are around, then children will get their due. I hope you enjoy compnay of all your grown up children and feel great to see them around you. I think you have showered love on your children and they will rightlyfully repay you in the due course. I have two biological children and am happy with them.

You have such a very good heart. Inn the future, I will surely do the same thing...

I think this question will be limited by native concept and family finance. Firstly, if you decide to adopt a child you shoud give him/her a better life which needs a good family finance not only a love heart. Secondly,native bias will be harmful to the child. So we have to move from one place to another avoiding the child know his life origin. In one word, when we decide to adopt a child we need to think about not only ourselves but also the child. I don't like to see a bad result from a good deed.

Hmmmmm.. I think, adopting children isn't bad at all if you're financially abundant. As for me, I don't think I would adopt kids that are not on my own because I don't want that my attention would be divided to any of them. I want to focus my attention on my own biological child. :)