Increasing number of gay people.

Maybe it's just that more and more people are becoming comfortable enough with themselves that they're coming out publicly. Since I'm an English teacher, I read several research papers every year about homosexuality, and it's become quite clear that people don't choose to be gay; they're born gay. Why would anyone choose to be picked on and depressed and in danger of gay bashing? A friend told me the other day that she's quite sure her eldest grandson is gay, and he's just 3. She said his mannerisms are clearly going in that direction. Fortunately, she doesn't have a problem with it. Neither do his parents. And he gets so much attention from both parents, it's ridiculous. They decided to work oppositee shifts so they could be home with the kids all the time, and they're really excellent parents. A lot of wonderful people are gay. So what? I don't share my most personal times with others, and gay people shouldn't, either. A lot of people have a lot of misinformation about homosexuality.

your father and you are very wrong. First of all gay people do not have a choice in being gay. They are born that way...it has been proven. Why would one "choose" to be gay in order to get out of responsibility and suffer all the stigma society places on them? That just does not make a bit of sense at all. They could just be a pot-smoking, tree-hugging little hippie and be cooler at least in ducking responsibility and still get the girl! The reason you are noticing more gay people is because they are all fed up with being treated less that human and coming out from their little hiding spots and standing up for their rights and it is about time! I have gay friends also and many of them are very valuable and contributing members of the community. Some are not...but that can be said of hetrosexuals as well. I don't think you or your dad are very deep thinkers.

Gay people don't become gay. Gays are ten percent of the population, as they were 50 years ago. The only difference is that gay people feel that they won't be physically harmed, nowadays, if they come out. Most studies today, show that sexuality is biological. Studies show that gay men react to male pheromones the same way that straight females do. Studies show that the brain waves of gay people are different from their heterosexual conterparts. Sexuality does not alter. If some straight guy decides to start screwing other guys, he is not necessarily gay. So what is your defination of gay? I think that a person is gay if they are naturally attracted to members of their own gender, whether they act upon it or not. What do you think? I'll await your answer before engaging in further debate.

I think its the society at large that really is a major factor why many men turn into gays. We are entering in an era where we tolerate them and accept them who they are that is why many men who before would just choose to be a closet gay can now openly declare who he really is. Before Gays are being ostracized by society but now it has been tolerated already with the liberalized way of thinking that we have right now. I kind of think that we should try to understand them that each should be given the freedom to choose who he wants to be and what would make him/her happy in life.

Wow. I can't believe you haven't had responses from people tearing you a new one with that statement. I don't think it is alarming that there are more gay people. I don't know if there are more gay people or not. I think that it is just a good sign that they can feel more comfortable being themselves in public. I also believe that they are born gay. To suggest that anyone would choose being gay to get out of hard work and parent expectations is very insulting. Which is why I'm surprised that no one has yelled at you.

If you really didn't want to insult anyone, perhaps it might have been better not to use the phrase "alarmingly increasing number of gay people". What is alarming about it I have to ask myself? That aside, you clearly have little understanding of homosexuality if you think that being gay is a rational choice. Especially for someone who uses that old favourite"In fact I have lots of gay friends". Your little example you give, in which you say "I quickly laughed at myself because it wasn't actually a man courting a girl, it was two good friends". Do you make that statement from knowledge of these two people, like they were friends or acquaintances? Or did you just make this up too? Lash

All you have to do is to substitute the word homosexual for the word 'gay' and there will be some who will decide that they are not homosexual, they just love to be friends with the same gender. Go farther and substitute the word 'sodomite' for the word homosexual and see how many will actually admit that they have anal s*x with a man. So I doubt that all those who admit that they are 'gay' are 'gay'. More than likely they are that way because of the privileges given the homosexual movement and want to be in the so called winning side. After all those homosexuals with money who are getting the government to pass laws such as gay parades, same gender marriages, no marriages allowed for straight people unless the marriage commissioner marries same gender couples, homosexuals winning court cases against Christians, etc. I do think it is something to do with how a man is raised, as to whether he becomes homosexual or not, and your father may be part right.

I assume that you're not insulting gay ppl on purpose, but you are indirectly when you use expressions like "alarmingly increasing number"...as if gay ppl were a plague or something like that. Why is it an alarm? do we heterosexual people have to feel menaced by gays? I don't think so. Other than that, i think you don't know what being gay implies. People don't choose to be gay, they simply are. So it's not that they become gay for a reason such as expectations. And lastly, homosexuality is not only a masculine thing. Remember that lesbians are gay people too. So they should all be included, even though it's true that feminine homosexuality is still more hidden than masculine, even though it exists as well. If nowadays you see more gay people, it is simply because more and more people gather the courage to admit it publicly, and because more and more heterosexuals accept it, and I hope it continues this way in the future.

There isn't really an influx of gay people so much as there is an influx of gay people willing to be open about themselves. Just go back 50 or so years ago, and gay people were still being brutally murdered for being what they were even in America. The presence of Judeo-Christian values in the west had made it hard for gay people to be open because discrimination was such a high risk. It was looked upon as a leper of sorts. It's not as bad as it used to be, though it's still a problem today. The increasing tolerance of society towards homosexuality has made it a lot easier to be open about being gay. Less and less people have to worry about being beaten and ostracized from their friends and families if they're found out. You'd be more inclined to be open about yourself too if society was finally lifting its taboos towards people like you.

It isn't that there are more gay people these days, just more people coming out of the closet now. There have been gays since the beginning of time and there will always be gays. Any father that doesn't give much responsibility or obligation to their child will just create a lazy one, not a gay one. Since the father is able to tell that the child is gay from a young age is proof that you just can't become gay. I doubt a young child decides to act "gay" to get out of responsibilities.

Well, you're not a dude either, are you? I know I'm not, but remember one thing. Guys don't seem to really think things through that much. So even if a guy somehow noticed that someone was not given high expectations, he would never actually think to connect it to the guy being gay. Even then, I don't think a guy would actually think about that. Guys just aren't deep like that. I don't even think a guy has as deep a subconscious as a woman. They're just made differently. I think we're just seeing more gay people because they're being accepted into society so much more now.

I've heard or read somewhere, that a lot of it could be from the foods we eat. There are hormones in meat etc. Of course that is just hearsay so I don't really know. But I know what you are talking about. There does seem to be more nowadays.

I've noticed that too there are lots of population now of gay people and to know why still question mark into my mind. In my interview jobs those people in that company I came from recently ar all gay from the interviewer to the boss. I can't imagine all the people now walking in the present industry was run by gay people. Almost all of the people at night walking in the streets are gay too. Most of my friends too. One day I m not amazed if my son will be like them...

I don't think men become gay, I think that's just a part of who they are, much like having brown hair or blue eyes. I think it APPEARS as if there are more gay people because it is becoming more socially acceptable and fewer homosexuals feel the need to hide in the closet and live "straight" lives, as is expected of the majority of people. The times are changing and people are being more true to who they are, regardless of society's stand.

I think we don't chose our sexuality. We get born that way. I don't think that gays or lesbians have chosen to become so but they were born that way.

So...where do us bis fit in, in your theory Laydee? ...anyway, "increasing numbers" is probably mostly your perception, you may recall that being gay, bi, or lesbian used to be taboo. Most people who were tried to live lives like straight people, many of them getting married. ESPECIALLY the bisexuals. Scientists STILL have a hard time calculating how much of our population is LGBT, because...well, alot of animosity is still out there, and there is still a bit of cultural stigma, many are hiding or not honest with themselves...so it's next to impossible to get an accurate estimation. They insist that they believe it is only a very small percentage, nowhere near half our population...mostly based on studies of nature. For example, out here in rural Ohio I have no way of knowing how many bisexuals like myself are about, or lesbians who don't despise bi's, or anything like that. Alot of our areas are VERY christian as well, which also makes it a bit harder. THANKFULLY, romance and relationships are not on my list of priorities. And before you say anything, I don't really do trists. I mean I'll take love when I get it and I will give every ounce of my heart to that person then...but I will not search for that, like I said to another member on mylot...I'm not indifferent, but it's a level above it surely. I dunno. I'm a hyper-responsible person...I've been told I have a hero complex. In fact, my parents put more and more responsibility on my shoulders toward the end of my childhood due to the fact that circumstances had made us poor at the time among other things. So I'm not sure how I fit into your theory. It's the whole nature-versus-nurture thing.

i think now it,s more of a trend thats going on wanting to try new and different things.this is fore told in the bible that women would be sleeping with one another and mens sleeping with one another.this is mention of as pains of destress god foretold this as being a sign of the last days.