What does a woman want?
By ronaldinu
@ronaldinu (12422)
Malta
December 13, 2008 4:51am CST
"The great question... which I have not been able to answer... is, "What does a woman want? " - Sigmund Freud" If Sigmund Freud have not found, let alone myself, being a man of average intelligence. Have you figured out what does a woman really wants?
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57 responses
@moondancer (7431)
• United States
13 Dec 08
Hi ronald, since every woman is different induvidually they have different needs and wants, that includes making making love and what it takes to satisfy each one as an induvidual.
The best thing to do is be open and have great communacive skills and just ask the woman you are with, "What is it that you want? What could you have that would let you be happy?? What can I do that would have you be happy? Is there anything I can that that would make you happy?
Just asking and then showing your woman that you actually listened to what she said and do what she wants would allow her to be hapy and content.
If she won't say or tells you everything you do makes me happy. Don't stop there. Tell her that you really want to know, and you know that she has desires, wants and needs in every aspect of her life and you want her to be happy and the only way you can do what she wants, or needs is for her to let you knaow what that is. Remind her gently that you love her but you can't read her mind.
You see most women want a guy to noctice her and what she does, listen to what she says (not just to you) and then in turn know what she wants without her saying.
As this is almost imposible the thing to do is just simply ask her.
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@SViswan (12051)
• India
14 Dec 08
The discussion got me thinking...and I figured there were so many times that I've done a flip-flop (especially when my defences weren't up) that I wouldn't be surprised if the person at the recieving end was confused. Thinking of all this got ME more confused...and so I stopped thinking and responded...lol
There's diplomacy for you, Deepak!
@aisaellis22 (6445)
• United States
13 Dec 08
Hello ronaldinu! I am a woman so maybe I could contribute a little bit in your question. In my case, I want to be love by someone who is willing to sacrifice just for me. Sometimes, woman wants to be spoil and receive gifts from the one she loves. Not fancy gifts but gifts which she knows that really comes from the man's heart.
@mtdewgurl74 (18151)
• United States
16 Jan 09
We want love,peace,security,a stable home and respect of our community,friends and loved ones.We want to be able to provide for ourselves and our loved ones. We want loyalty and less worries. That is what we want. It will bring peace of mind and happiness.
@yuna15 (2706)
• Philippines
17 Dec 08
Your discussion reminded me of Mel Gibson's movie "What Women Wants." I like that movie. Women has different wants and needs individually in the same way as men has different wants and needs. Most of the time though it can very much unpredictable. We change our minds a lot for different reasons. It could be hormonal, by choice or even seasonal.
@jdyrj777 (6528)
• United States
31 Dec 08
You cant find the answer because the answer is as numberous as there are women. What you and Sigmund need to do is ask the woman in your life "what do you want?" I mean think about it. What does a man want? Sigmund and you have two different answer. because you are two differnt men. Dont lump everything into one big catagory (women). Not all women are the same not all women want the same thing.
@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
31 Dec 08
I do agree tha every woman has different needs therefore one cannot generalise. Thanks for your feedback.
@meow1978 (190)
• Malaysia
13 Dec 08
I was about to start this discussion earlier but you have started it first. Anyway, I do wanna know what women really think. What actually women wants. Sometimes they are very simple minded but is hard for us guys to understand them. We think they are very complicated. Man are from Mars & Women are from Venus. Is hard for man to know what women really wanted. I have ask a few friend of mine regarding this question.
The answer i got from them is : Security, Responsible, Care, Tender, Loving and more. So, do you think women are simple or complicated? I still do not know what women want.
@rajeshank (253)
• India
18 Dec 08
Women always expect true affection and love in all aspect...thats what every women want from her childhood she need this from her parents, teachers, brothers, husband etc it goes on...so if you provide true love to her she will be satisfied in all aspect....:)
@nansheeca (215)
• Philippines
8 Feb 09
from the woman's point of view, what we want is the never ending love of a man. because from that love results care, responsibilty and most of all, respect. i guess it's what men also want.
@brucekaushik (891)
• India
16 Dec 08
it's a difficult question to answer. Not only about the woman's needs but I don't think anybody is sure about the man's needs. In short I think that nobody can be sure about other human beings needs. We know what we really want but we can never guess what the other person wants. At least not fully.
@walijo2008 (4644)
• United States
15 Dec 08
Well I'm a woman and I don't even know what I want..lol. There was this little story I was reading, there was this man, that was talking to God, God told him that he would grant him the desire of his heart, whatever he wanted, well the man told him that he wanted God to build a road between the United States and Hawaii, so that it would be easier to get there, God told him he couldn't do that because it was a worldly thing he asked, and it would interfere with the way things are now, that it wasn't possible. So the man then asked God to give him the understanding of his wife, why she cries, what she really wants, what she really means when she says nothing's wrong, and what he can do to make her happy. God then asked him, well how many lanes do you want? Two lanes or Four lanes?...lol. I thought that was so funny, my husband was telling me that story.
@mercuryman3a (2477)
• India
15 Dec 08
A woman wants a man to tell her that she is right all the time, she is beautiful, she is sexy, she is good, she is smart, she is punctual, she is disciplined, in fact she is all the good things in life. If a man can assure her of all these things then that man can have her for life. Which man wants a woman for life? any takers?
@NikkiLuvsAlex (319)
• United States
15 Dec 08
I don't know what all women want. I know I just want to live well, have a few extra dollars in my pocket at all times, and own a few nice things.
@woolyshamblers (67)
• United States
16 Dec 08
As a woman, I don't necessarily want anything materialistic. I mean, yeah I could go for a new wardrobe or whatever... but that can always wait. From a man, I generally just want affection... Genuine interest in my day-to-day conversation... I just feel like too many guys are so busy in their own lives!
I sit at home with our 3 month old baby. I tend to lack in human interaction (outside of myspace and mylot!) and all I want is my boyfriend to come home and snuggle with me while I talk his ear off. Usually, it's exactly that. I'll talk and talk and talk... and he hardly responds. He's a great man and a terrific father to his little girl. He's a provider (working 10+ hour days so I can stay home) and he's supportive... He just shuts off when he gets home because he is too tired!
I understand him, though. I know him better than anyone and know this is just a hard time because we're still making the transition into parenthood.
But yes... what women (like me, anyway) really want is to gab gab gab! (Obviously!) Haha!