no ring
@chantalgiardina (2523)
United States
December 13, 2008 9:17am CST
so im sitting here thinking and i just realized this si the second time i have been engaged without a ring.. what the heck is wrong with me? why is it that nobody wants to give me a ring? kinda makes me wonder if something is wrong with me,..
has this ever happened to you?
have you done it to someone?
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8 responses
@Shar19 (8231)
• United States
14 Dec 08
I think you need to be a little more careful about the people you choose to be engaged to. If the person was really serious about getting engaged then they'd buy you a ring and also set a wedding date with you. I know of some people who get engaged and then 5 years later they're still not married. What's up with that? Why bother even getting engaged. They're obviously afraid of the commitment.
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@cassandralynn (1084)
• United States
13 Dec 08
I've been there dear. It's not you, it's the man your with. And you get tired of it. Mine was too lazy about buying me a ring and took me for granted. Then I realized I have to get mean about it. If he doesn't give you a ring even if you insist a lot, you then have to find another guy then dump the guy that didn't give you the ring. If he really loves you he will beg for you to come back and will give you the ring then, if he don't then he wasn't the one for you.I got my ring btw..
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@chantalgiardina (2523)
• United States
15 Dec 08
there is no way i would be engaged 9 years with no ring.. its been about 6 months for me and it is already getting to me.
@LadyMarissa (12148)
• United States
14 Dec 08
Your love for your fiance & his love for you should be what is the MOST IMPORTANT!!! Have you checked out the price of a diamond now days??? I was married without a ring!!! Neither a diamond nor a wedding band as we really didn't have the finances for it. There were a lot more things that were MORE IMPORTANT than a ring. WE knew we were married & the love that we shared was GREATER than any ring!!! Why would you assume that there was anything wrong with you just because of a ring???
@messageme (2821)
• United States
13 Dec 08
I think she was very clear with her question, but I guess according to the second response he didn't know what she was talking about either. Have you reread to make sure you understood it righ the first time.
@messageme (2821)
• United States
13 Dec 08
Hate to say it, but to me if there is no ring then he isn't that serious about it. If it's money issues and he can't afford a ring then he should wait to ask until he has the money. Because if you don't have the money for an engagement ring then how are you to get a wedding ring? how are you suppose to pay for any of the other things in the wedding? Ask him why he has not gotten you a ring. Tell him you really don't feel like you are engaged because you have nothing that shows you are.
@chantalgiardina (2523)
• United States
13 Dec 08
already done and still no ring lol.. guess it is time i call engagement off for 2nd time lol
@messageme (2821)
• United States
13 Dec 08
Hate to say it, but judging by your other discussion about your friend I don't think I would have much faith in him anyways. I wouldn't rush into any decisions, clearly think them through before taking actions you wouldn't want to make any mistakes. But if you are second guessing him already, it don't sound like you two were ment to be. Remembe one door will close and another will always open. :) Never give up hope. Good luck!
@underdogtoo (9579)
• Philippines
14 Dec 08
Rings seem to be very important not just in a wedding but in an engagement itself. It would be good to have a ring to showcase the occasion. Cheers!!
@savak03 (6684)
• United States
14 Dec 08
I've been married twice and neither time did I get a ring. The first time I used my grandmothers wedding ring. And the second time I used a ring that I bought in a second hand shop. So I know how you feel. However in defense of the men I married we were very poor so expensive jewelry was out of the question.
