"You Don't Look Too Good"

Personally I think that other people get a subliminal joy from seeing us sick because it allows them to tell us we look like crap and get away with it! And even if we have not expressed that we are unwell, they can STILL use these words and not get any serious backlash from our side. If someone says this to me, my immediate response is usually that I am not feeling 100% even if this is not the case at all!

As I see it if they don't like how I look that is there bad. As long as I like me for who I am and what I look like is all that counts. It don't matter what others think as long as you like yourself. They can just go on for all I care. :)

it would depend on who would say those word!!!if an elderly lady ,would say that,i would take it as word of concern but if it was a male friend,it would naturally hurt my ego.

It would definitely be an insult coming from those who I do not gel with and a natter of concern for my close ones. Having said that, I hardly know people who hate me. I would either be good friends or would not talk at all. I am that kind. So, going by that, it would be more words of concern.

Hi SaintAnne, I may take it as word of concern and check myself in the mirror, lol! But I will be concerned of how I look and think the way you do. Actually if someone say this to me, my immediate answer is, I'm not feeling well at all.

Well, if ever i heard those words, i would say thats your problem for you look at me, for each one of us has unique physical features. even twins differ from each other. Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder, others my say you are beautiful and other my not like your beauty. But i believe that each one of us are beautiful for we are created in the image and likeness of God.

I would take them as words of concern from people i know. No offense taken here. But if i was in one of those quirky moods i would probably say "SO" ? " This is the way i am" . I'm sure a lot of blabber would follow.

Words are very powerful.They can make or break your moods.Some sly people know this very well and use the words innocently to make you depressed.I never give in to those comments.I know that I do look good always.I just shot back 'you too.You have gone down a lot .And what happened to you complexion? God! Have you seen your doctor lately?' That will stop that person from worrying about others.

[i]Hi Anne, For me it's a concern, I might look sick or weak! LOL! I got that a lot from friends when I am sick and still reporting to work in the past! Enjoy![/i]

I tend to think it means "you don't look too well" healthwise.

I may have been guilty of having said that to someone once, probably a sick co-worker that I wanted to go home and take his or her germs with her or him. Hah! But I am thinking hard here, and I don't recall anyone ever having had the effrontery to say that to me. And if they had, it is somewhat unlikely that I would have forgotten. Smirk.

Usually, it's sincere concern. Yesterday, coworker told me I looked so much better. He went on to tell me everyone had been talking aobut how bad I looked all week, and they were concerned that I'd picked up some horrible illness. Frankly, I'd rather they just skipped the looks at all!

I usually am thinking, gee, you think I look bad? I wish you knew how I feel and then you wouldn't say anything!

I usually respond I can't help how I look. God made me this way. That usually shocks them enough they begin to explain from there. In commenting to someone else, I try not to be so rude. I usually say You don't look like you feel very good today. Everything OK??? That way they have NO doubt as to what I'm thinking!!!

Well, personally I would not say to someone "You don't look too good"! If I could not ignore it without seeming indifferent, I would say "You don't look like you feel too good". But I would not say it to someone with whom I only had a casual acquaintance... because in that case it could too easily come across like I was underhandedly insulting them!

Hi anne! I would probably say the same thing! Although, I don't really appreciate it when someone says that to me! It really is more of an insult! Is it concern? I'm not really sure? I think it is just a nice way to get the insult in and maybe slight concern? And of course it makes you want to know what they mean so you ask the question! Friends can be so annoying some times!

I usually take it as being someone who is concerned. But if you are feeling bad it can make you feel worse sometimes. Usually if someone says that to me I usually tell them that I have been a little bit under the weather but I am on the mend now, even if I have not been ill at all.