What do you remember about your mother?

@rosdimy (3926)
Malaysia
December 17, 2008 12:27am CST
Generally our mothers play a big part our mental and physical development. A mother carries a child for nine months in her womb. She spends relatively more time with the child compared to the father. So it is only natural children remember more about their mothers. There are a few things which I remember more when it comes to my mother. Tough, obedient, hardworking, perseverance, supportive, patient, and always ready to listen are among the characteristics or behavioural traits found in my mother. Most, if not all, of these traits were passed down to my siblings and I. She faced a difficult life but she never complained. She did not go to school to help her mother sell Malay cakes and sweets so that her siblings could go to school. She learned the alphabets from my elder brothers. She taught herself how to write. She passed away a month before I was supposed to fly to the UK at the age of 45. Up to now I have not been able to repay the sacrifices she made for the family. What do you remember most about your mother?
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@4mymak (1793)
• Malaysia
17 Dec 08
my mom is 67 years old, and thank god.. is still quite healthy. i will not say that she's had a hard life.. but, we're not really 'super rich', either.. we've had our hard times, especially since my dad doesnt earn a fix income, but my mom was resourceful and hardworking.. there are just many traits that i luv about mom - for someone from her generation (and our culture) - she is innovative, independent, creative, resourceful.. she's got all the qualities of a typical 'malay lady', but at the same - a bit of a 'tomboyish', not afraid to do things that 'ladies dont normally do'.. sometimes i think she was born in the wrong 'decade' - she'll probably be someone great if she was born somewhere in our times - where women are more 'liberated'.. my mom never depends too much on my dad or her children - does whatever she could herself, even repair works in the house - even now!.. she's very straightforward - she'll say what's on her mind and on her chest.. and she'll say them right to the person - no bad-mouthing, no gossiping.. she'd even confront whomever that she hears talks about her and ask for 'confirmation' of any gossip about her... but she doesnt do it harshly, or invite any ill feelings.. she keeps herself 'updated'.. sometimes i feel so embarassed because i read less, or listen to the news less than she does.. even my husband says he is impressed with my mom, because normally people her age would just pass their time without bothering about the news around them.. too many wonderful traits that i treasure about my mom.. hopefully i will learn to take after some of them.. and make my children proud of me, love me, appreciate me as much as i do my mom...
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@rosdimy (3926)
• Malaysia
17 Dec 08
You gave quite a detailed response. I wanted to describe more about my mother but tears were already flowing, so I stopped. My mother is one of the topics that can cause me to break down. She passed away when I was still in Kuala Lumpur, in connection with my flight arrangements. She was not there to see me off at the airport. Thank you for your response. all the best, rosdimy
@Monki883 (54)
• United States
17 Dec 08
My mother played a big part in my childhood as she still does today. my parents divorced when I was 10 years old. so she was a single mother. she worked to keep a roof over heads and food in our mouth.My bad only had to pay child support in the amount of $45.00 a week. Even back in 1975 that didnot go far.But I also am very lucky to say that I had a womdeful stepmother who always treated us as her own. She has 5 kids and we were raised together. Still today we consider each other to be brother and sister.
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@rosdimy (3926)
• Malaysia
17 Dec 08
I guess you are lucky to have a resourceful mother. What other sacrifices did she make? Were you the only child? When did you start living with your stepmother, since you mentioned you were raised together with her kids? Sorry for the questions which you are not obliged to answer but if you had given more details I might not have asked these questions. Thank you for your response. all the best, rosdimy
• United States
18 Dec 08
I never went to live full time with my stepmother but went to visit every othr weekend and then spent the summers with her and my dad. I was not an only child I also had a little brother and a little sister.. sorry for my answer being so short yesterday,but here it was the middle of the night when I wrote that7 i was getting tired.
@rakleen (565)
• India
18 Dec 08
The one whom we adore as the Mother is the divine Conscious Force that dominates all existence, one and yet so many-sided that to follow her movement is impossible even for the quickest mind and for the freest and most vast intelligence.
@rosdimy (3926)
• Malaysia
18 Dec 08
Hmm...you are getting philosophical with a strong religious influence. Even though I can, I do not wish to diverge into this aspect. It may lead to confusion. Thank you for your response. all the best, rosdimy
@titansaha (188)
• India
17 Dec 08
hi! sorry you've lost the most precious gift of life.....your mother. truly the very word 'mother' fills our hearts with glory and pride. i can never forget the uncountable nights she lay awake healing my wounds, caring and soothing my distorted mind so that i can raise my head and once more confidently unearth the mysteries of life. she is my hope, my faith, my strength , my confidence and she is the reason for my existence. all that is creative, nice and beautiful in me, is a boon from her.
@rosdimy (3926)
• Malaysia
17 Dec 08
I presume your mother is still alive, meaning that you still have the opportunity to repay her sacrifices she made for you. I never had the chance to even thank my mother. I know some people may tell me to get over it but they may not have experienced the loss. The sacrifice she made for her siblings was not even appreciated by them. Thank you for your response, all the best, rosdimy
@1megiam (25)
• United States
18 Dec 08
My mummy (my childhood name for her) is 87 years old. She has always sacrificed whatever was necessary for her children's well being. The thing I will remember most about my mum is that she enjoyed being a mother and my brother and I grew up with that knowledge. Every one who knew her knew this, not because she said so, but because she did so. Two and a half years ago she made the greatest sacrifice she could without giving up her life. She chose to go to a Nursing Home. She knew it would be impossible for her children to care for her and maintain their life styles, work, home and family responsibilites. She also knew that because of her physical problems it would be painful for her to get out to the her doctor's visits and such. She only asked one thing, that I would find a NH close to me. She is 3 miles away. I visit her 3-4 times aweek and call her every day. Today we made out Christmas cards. Her eyesight is very poor so I make labels for her. She is also confined to a wheel chair and her bed. She is my best friend.
@rosdimy (3926)
• Malaysia
18 Dec 08
Your mother is one tough lady. I have noticed that women who enjoy being a mother raise their children better than women who look at children as a burden. This is only a general observation. There are also mothers who think that their children must look after them when they are old. My mother did not expect this. All she wanted to see was her children being able to survive in this world and the hereafter. Thank you for your response. all the best, rosdmy
@oXAquaXo (607)
• United States
18 Dec 08
My mother is very hard-working and patient. She married my father when she was 22. My father then went to America to get his doctor's degree, but she had to stay in China because she was pregnant with me. Once I was 1 year old, she left me with my grandparents so that I could learn more about the Chinese culture. She went to America to join my father. She now has a good-paying job at Nestle Purina. I am very proud of my mom, because when she was little, her family didn't have a ton of money. Because of her hard work and determination, my sister and I are here today.
@rosdimy (3926)
• Malaysia
18 Dec 08
Thank you for your response. A mother is precious. Like a diamond she does not lose her shine nor value even when thrown into the mud. All of us should remember this even when we have reached success in this world. In my religion to forget a mother even if she is of a different faith is a sin. all the best, rosdimy
@TessWhite (3146)
• United States
17 Dec 08
Wow, I don't think obedient is a term I'd use in describing my mom. I don't get where that comes into it. Makes me wonder who she had to be obedient to as a full grown adult? Anyway, my mom was funny, loving, smart and caring. She loved to make people smile and laugh. And she was always coming up with something to do to make people happy. She wasn't the best cook, although we never told her that because she enjoyed it. But she was great at craft projects and was always coming up with something fun to do. I lost my mom last year to cancer. Its like a piece of me is gone and I'll never get it back.
@rosdimy (3926)
• Malaysia
18 Dec 08
Obedient to her husband. My father did not treat her as well as should be but she rarely complained. I saw quarrelling only once. I was only five or six at that time. My father was a short tempered person and hit her with a lamp shade, causing her to bleed on the left temple. I guess patience is a virtue I earned from her. Thank you for your response. all the best, rosdimy
• New Zealand
17 Dec 08
Well, since my childhood my mother have been supportive in everything that I do in my life and also she is the first person to take care of me. The way she had showed love and affection on me all these days is what I remember the most about my mother. My mother understands me well all the time and she is one of the only few persons that give me the best advice for the life and so far she as shown me the right direction in life. These are the certain things that I remember the most about my mother.
@rosdimy (3926)
• Malaysia
18 Dec 08
Thank you for your response. Your mother seems to have a great influence on you, as most mothers do. Mothers may not know best, but it cannot be denied that they want the best to happen to their children. I think remembering them is one way of appreciating what they had done. I do not think that science will ever be successful in replacing mothers. all the best, rosdimy
@mariposaman (2959)
• Canada
17 Dec 08
It has not been quite a year since my mother passed away. She was such a kind, caring and unselfish person. Some people took advantage of her generosity. I looked after her as her health deteriorated and wish I could have done more. I miss her as much today as when she passed away as we had become best friends over the while I was in her house looking after her.
@rosdimy (3926)
• Malaysia
18 Dec 08
Sometimes we wonder what else we could have done for the ones we care for or love when it is already too late. At least you had the chance to repay back some of the debts owed to your mother. Many of us out here were to busy even to think about it. Regretting for something which cannot be undone. Thank you for the response. all the best, rosdimy
• United States
17 Dec 08
We all have i guessed the same characteristics that mother have. I remember her also when we get sick and make sure that we take the medicines. She always there taking care. During midnight she woke up to make sure to cover our body with blankets and cooksbreakfast,lunch and dinner too.
@rosdimy (3926)
• Malaysia
17 Dec 08
Thank you for your response. I believe that even though mothers share similar characteristics there are also differences which make them unique in our eyes. That is why mothers are remembered more than fathers. all the best, rosdimy
@krfanlim (232)
• Malaysia
17 Dec 08
My mom is very caring and loving. Need i say more than that? Love emcompasses everything, and although sometimes i do get a bit nutty with my mom, but i always seem to regret my actions.
@rosdimy (3926)
• Malaysia
18 Dec 08
You are not the only one who had some disagreement with a person who plays an important part in life development. When yo regretted your actions did you apologise to your mother? Someone I knew used to have arguments with his mother. He had one big disagreement and left his mother's home without touching the food that had been prepared. He regretted his action and wanted to make amends a week after. It was too late as his mother passed away three days later. It was a pitiful sight at the graveyard. Thank you for your response. all the best, rosdimy
• India
17 Dec 08
hi, friend.sorry about your mother. mother is a gods gift to us. we have an option to select our friends or any bady but not our parents.i think that mother is the sweetest word in the world.she give us and tought us everything.i learn from my mother that how to face all the problems and always how to maintain smile on my face and hardworking,confidence, patient,obedience,supporting nature and each and everything from my mother. my mother is a role model to me. i am also trying how to inspire my childeren.we are very graceful to our moms.
@rosdimy (3926)
• Malaysia
18 Dec 08
Thank you for your response. Generally children can bear living without fathers because fathers are not usually at home, and when they get home they are too busy to rest to play with the children. Of course fathers have their own excuses or reasons for this behavioural pattern and this is only a general observation. all the best, rosdimy
• Philippines
17 Dec 08
I always remember my mom preparing my breakfast before i go to school! I miss her a lot!
@rosdimy (3926)
• Malaysia
17 Dec 08
Surely you remember more than that? Is she still alive? I am sorry but your response is too brief thus inviting more questions. Thank you for your response. all the best, rosdimy
• United States
17 Dec 08
My mother and I have been through hell and back, and I am only twenty years old.. As everyone who is older knows, your teenage years are probably the most confusing years of your life, trying to find out who you are .. your true identity, and other things like that. My mother, although I shut her out most of those years, played a huge role. I'll always remember her trying to keep me focused and on track. No matter how much i cursed her out, verbally abused her, ignored her, disobeyed and disrespected her, she was always there for me. She always made sure I had what I needed to get though the day, no matter how many times she threatned to give up on me. She always was willing to give a helping hand, when most mothers of my friends would just blow them off. Whenever I needed something, she would always sacrifice something she wanted to do, to keep me happy. I really love my mother, I think she did an excellent job as a parent.
@rosdimy (3926)
• Malaysia
18 Dec 08
Thank you for your response. Most mothers want the best for their children, The approach used may rankle us but deep inside they care for us. The patience that mothers show to their children has been interpreted with various meanings by their children. Most of us realise the true sacrifices made only after we have become parents. all the best, rosdimy