I need help from my friends to talk me down from the ceiling.
@teapotmommommerced (10359)
United States
December 18, 2008 1:40am CST
I am afraid for my grand babies health. The mother of my grand baby said there may be something wrong with the baby. He is growing to big, and she has too much fluid. She is not diabetic so that is not the cause, and ya Okay we are big people I am 5'8" and my hubby is 6'1 and we are the shorties in the family on both sides. That is not all, one side of his brain is bigger than the other. The doctors are keeping a good eye on mom and baby, it they are saying it could be a cyst, it could resolve itself, or the baby could need surgery after its born.
The are so concerned they are having her go see a Perinatologist every week to do weekly labs and sonograms.
I am afraid for the baby. I know it is probably nothing, but I get scared when I think of it. I do not want anything to be wrong with my grand baby. I know if some thing is the parents can handle it but I do not want to go there.
On mom's side they do not know her family history on her dad's side because she does not know her dad nor does her mom know who the is her father. On our side we do not have anything like that. My son's girlfriend just told me a few days ago and I have been so worried I have not been able to talk about it my friends. I just told them today. I have been on the verge of tears on and off since then when every I think of it. I have to get a grip before next Tuesday when the mom and dad get here I do not want them to see me so distraught. I do not want them to keep secrets from me for fear of my reactions.
Has anyone had to go through this? Was the baby Okay?
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
18 Dec 08
Sweetie please try not to think that way right now because if you do you will make yourself Ill, you will have your Son and his Girlfriend worrying about you which will then reflect on the Baby
So please stay calm and support the Parents the best way you can until you all know what the case is
You know I am here and you know that I will keep you all in my Heart and thoughts and you know I will be here for you if there is anything wrong, but please please try not to think that way right now
I know how much this Baby means to you all
I can not say to you everything is fine, as I do not know that I just hope it is, but I can say wait and see what happens, if you need me shout, I will be straight on the Phone to you and you know I will
I will try to keep you strong for them and go through this with you
I love you Sweetie
Big Hugs
@teapotmommommerced (10359)
• United States
19 Dec 08
I have a feeling the baby will be fine. If he is not we will deal with it. Our son and his girlfriend are strong adults and can deal with everything that is handed to them.
I am trying to be positive. I knew about the news a few days before I even told my friends because I did not want to even think about it.
One of my close friends lost her son yesterday. He is in his 30's and had been ill but still a mom losing her son is terrible.
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@teapotmommommerced (10359)
• United States
18 Dec 08
I do keep prying and do know it is in HIS hands. I cannot seem to give up the worrying. I will get myself together in a few days. I tend to worry needlessly so I have to stop the worrying.
I think that sometimes with all the new technology we know things we did not know years ago. How many of us had this problem and it resolved its self before the invention of sonograms?
Thanks for your kind words.
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@someonesmom (5761)
• Canada
18 Dec 08
I've just finished typing a comment to you, in one of 'my discussions.' In this discussion, you've answered my question, and told me all about your wonderful family.
I'm very sorry to hear about your grand baby's mom, and the possible risks to the baby. The good thing is, that with all of the medical advances nowadays, they can keep a close watch on these things, and be prepared once the baby is born. There is also a good chance that there's nothing wrong. Sometimes these tests show things, and it turns out to be 'a false alarm.' I'll be praying that this will be the case here.
In the second trimester of my pregnancy with my daughter, I was contacted by my doctor after a routine test. The test results indicated that 'she' had Downs Syndrome. As it turned out, the doctor had read the results wrong. However, further testing showed a problem with her heart, and other organs. After seeing two specialists, they told me there was nothing wrong. She was born totally healthy. She is now seventeen years old. I am very thankful, every time I think of this.
Love and Hugs to you.
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@teapotmommommerced (10359)
• United States
19 Dec 08
Thank you for your kind words. I am praying that our little boy will be fine. I have a gut feeling he will be. I sure hope so.
I got some bad news yesterday. Two of my friends lost their son's. One lost her son in July but I did not know about it because I had lost contact with her. And the other one lost her son yesterday. I cried and cried.
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@someonesmom (5761)
• Canada
20 Dec 08
I'm praying he'll be fine too. I'm so sorry to hear about your friends losses. How old were their sons? Hugs.
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@someonesmom (5761)
• Canada
21 Dec 08
Thanks for letting me know this. It's so very sad. Hugs.
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
19 Dec 08
I have never gone through anything like this and don't know of anyone who has. I do know that it is time to let go of the fear and start to pray. This is what will help you to calm down and know that everything will be alright, no matter what. I am of the type that hits the ceiling also. My family keeps things from me until it is absolutely necessary to tell me or after the problem is resolved.
I have no problem trusting God for me, but when it comes to my family, I can get pretty up there. They are just so precious to me. I know how you said that you feel, but I personally don't feel that she should have up worrying about something that has not been confirmed. We should always pray for the health of a child, so they do not have to give you bad news in order for you to pray.
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@teapotmommommerced (10359)
• United States
19 Dec 08
Thanks for your prayer they do mean a lot to me. I will be seeing the kids Tuesday and I will get the full story then. I cannot wait to talk to the baby through mom's belly I have done that every time I have see them.
I do love them so much. Mom is going to be such a great mom, she seems to be so responsible and already loves this baby so much. I am sure no matter what happens they will be ready to handle it. I pray my son will handle it as much as she will.
@aseretdd (13730)
• Philippines
19 Dec 08
Oh my... that is so scary... nothing of this kind have ever happened to me or my close relatives and friends... so i really cannot imagine the fear and worry that your family is going through...
Time like this... we can only hope that God will help us... especially the unborn child... just keep praying... never lose hope and faith... and you daughte-in-law and unborn grandchild will be in my prayers...
@teapotmommommerced (10359)
• United States
21 Dec 08
I sure hope that the baby will be fine. I keep praying. Thanks for your prays.
@Little_Stormy (6883)
• United States
19 Dec 08
I'm so sorry that you are upset. I would be too if it were my child or grandchild (though I don't have any grands) I will keep all of you in my prayers.
It could be just a bad sonogram (that happens sometimes if the baby isn't turned the right way for the picture) or it could be someone reading the test wrong... so stay calm, and know that my prayers are with you.
Oh! Congratulations!
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@teapotmommommerced (10359)
• United States
19 Dec 08
I really cannot wait to become a Granny not matter how he turns out. I will love him and do what ever I can for him.
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@teapotmommommerced (10359)
• United States
21 Dec 08
I sure how so. I do have loads of love to give.
@Little_Stormy (6883)
• United States
19 Dec 08
awww, I bet you are going to be an awesome granny :)
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@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
19 Dec 08
I guess I can give you my side, as a mother of a child that has special needs. It is as heart wrenching for them as it is for you. They need you. Sometimes the doctors give you the worse scenarios, that way when it turns out better, you are more relieved. Don't let them see how hard it is on you. They need all the support they can get. Talk with us, tell us your thoughts and fears, but be strong for them. I have never heard of anything like this. The only thing I have heard of is hydrocephalus, which is fluid on the brain. Just remember they are doing what they can and the doctors seem to have been sending her where she can get the help. Just be strong for them. Let us know how it turns out. There is nothing like the wait of finding out. It makes everyone a mess. Do alot of praying and we will pray also.
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@teapotmommommerced (10359)
• United States
19 Dec 08
I am wondering if it is hydrocephalus and would need a shut placement if that is they surgery they are talking about when he is born. If that is it then he will do fine. The will teach the kids how to pump the shunt and then he will have to have the shunt changed periodically. I have taken care of adults with shunts and they are totally fine.
My biggest fear is my son ditching this baby, they are not married and I know my son did not want this child. I know as a mother I should not even be saying things like this. I do love my son but I know he can be a flake sometimes. I have not told anyone of my feelings except one of my sisters and she will not tell anyone. She understands it is my fear. I do not dare tell my friends who tend not to like my son anyway. I have one friend who use to like my mom when mom lived with us, mom would make up all kinds of lies about my son and the friend believe them. So I do not tell her that.
My friend's two son's are not the best but I do not dare say anything bad about anyone's child to them. I will not do that but she has said things to me that has been hurt full regarding my son. He is not bad, he goes to work everyday, he pays his bills, he is there to help mom where ever I need him. What more can a mom ask except to man up and take care of his child. Now time will tell on that one.
@sun2day (1062)
• Virgin Islands (U.S.)
18 Dec 08
Put your hand in the one who calm the waters,and he is Jesus himself. Pray everyday and ask God to gave you peace of mind. He is a miraculous God. He can do what man think is impossible.
The bible says, "With man all things are impossible, but with God all things are possible. So if you are a church goer, ask your pastor and church congregation to pray for the healing of the baby or for that matter a pastor.
I am a grand mother also, and I emphatized with you.
May God put his healing hands on that baby that he maybe born without any abnormalities in Jesus precious name.
May God bless you dear and commit that baby to his care.
@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
19 Dec 08
Hey tea~You need to calm down as much as you can. The doctors
are keeping an eye on mom and baby first of all. They know
what they are doing. It may be nothing to worry about, but
they are being cautious. They have all kinds of ways to help
new borns with all kinds of problems now so if there is a
problem they will be able to take care of it. You must be
calm for the sake of your son and the mom. You can't show them
that you are overly upset now or they won't want to tell you
anything and you may upset them too. Just pray and let the
doctors take care of everything. Hopefully it will fix itself
and everything will be alright. I will pray for your family
especially for the baby. Please don't worry tea, God is
watching over this little one.
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@teapotmommommerced (10359)
• United States
19 Dec 08
God is truly watching over the innocent. We are all blessed to have God in our lives to protect us.
When I was in nursing school I wrote a paper on a study that was done. They took two test cases of patients. One group was prayed over and one group was not. The patients where almost identical with their illnesses, and both test cases did not know they where being tested. The test case that was prayed over got better faster and had less deaths then the test cases that did not get prayed over. To me that is proof positive that prayer works even if you do not know you are being prayed over.
