Witchcraft, black magic or coincidence?
By android
@android (895)
December 18, 2008 6:35am CST
Work this one out then folks, because it's really got me baffled!
I was with my partner (who I am with now) for one year and then we split up. I started seeing somebody else for about three months and towards the end of our relationship she claimed to be a part of a covern of witches. Anwyway, I left her and went back to my previous partner, who I am still with.
When I got back with her the girl who I was with for three months phoned me up and said she had put a curse on me so that my current partner would not be able to love me for seven years. Of course, I didn't believe any of it and just carried on with my life.
Seven years into our relationship I came to the conclusion that my current partner may be a narcissist and is possibly incapable of loving me, as she is in love with herself. A few close family members also suggested this to me after I described the state of our relationship and the arguments we have.
Recently we split up (but are now back together) and we basically split after exactly seven years. The fact is that she was narcissistic, she never referred to us as a couple, it was also me and mine and seemed obsessed with herself. I actually went into post traumatic stress because of everything we were going through and there were even rumours going around about me being a narcissist. She basically manipulated me, did want she want, and got everyone around us to believe that I was mentally ill (which I am not and my doctor has confirmed that).
However, seven years on, we have put our troubles behind us and are getting on better than ever. Don't you think this is a remarkable coincidence? My ex-partner said she had cursed me so that my current partner could not love me for seven years and yet for seven years she was narcissistic and didn't really love me, but now after the seven years she does!
12 responses
@silvercoin (2101)
• Lithuania
18 Dec 08
The problem is that you believed her words, you took them deep into your mind and you programmed yourself for not being loved till that special time.I was told by one angry person:"You'll never have friends, you'll be alone all the time".I started thinking:"What if I really won't have any friends?".It took about two months to realise that I started avoiding friendship, parties and dates.And then I concentrated and send that "curse" back to that person.I said NO to myself.Do I have friends?Yes.Are they good?Yes.Am I lonely?NO! ;D Never let anyone control your mind.
@jwfarrimond (4473)
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18 Dec 08
Positive thinking is a powerfull thing, as is negative thinking of course. Congratulations on being strong willed enough to reject the negative thoughts that this malicious person gave you.
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@android (895)
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18 Dec 08
You could very well be right, if you look at my response to the above comment, you will see it's possible that the ex-partner was a narcissist herself and was just using psychological manipulation by embedding some suggestions into my subconscious or something, which then could have, in turn, rubbed off on my new partner, or something to that effect. I generally understand how all this stuff works because I have a massive interest in psychology and especially hypnosis and effective unconscious communication. I didn't know anything about it at the time that all this was going on though, so you could well be spot on!
@silvercoin (2101)
• Lithuania
18 Dec 08
You know, it's like virus attack in your pc.We have to learn to block these attacks.
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@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
18 Dec 08
Okay I have a couple of things to say..there is no such thing as "black magic"..magic has no colour to it..secondly IF she were a Witch (and I am just so you know) and IF she cursed you or your partner she WOULDNT tell you about it..it defeats the whole purpose of hexing someone actually...and thirdly GENERALLY cursing someone isnt acceptable behaviour HOWEVER thats not to say that some dont do it but usually its just not considered to be appropriate....Finally..I would have to say that its just a coincidence..
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@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
18 Dec 08
it defeats the whole purpose of hexing someone actually
sorry let me correct that...she wouldnt tell you specifics
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@android (895)
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18 Dec 08
So you're a witch but you don't believe that there is such a thing as black magic? I agree with what you say though, it probably is just a coincidence, I don't generally believe in magic or voodoo or all that stuff. Many times I have seen Voodoo to have been proven as just being psychological trickery.
@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
18 Dec 08
So you're a witch but you don't believe that there is such a thing as black magic?
Exactly....like I said, magic has no colour, magic just is....and truth be told its really not so different to a Catholic praying for something ya know..
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@donsky14 (5947)
• Philippines
18 Dec 08
Whoa...what a coincidence that is. 
I'm pretty open-minded, I believe in ghosts, black magic etc. So...maybe it was because of her curse, cause its exactly 7 yrs right? Imagine..what a freaking coincidence!
Just be glad that your not "cursed" anymore. 
I'm pretty open-minded, I believe in ghosts, black magic etc. So...maybe it was because of her curse, cause its exactly 7 yrs right? Imagine..what a freaking coincidence!
Just be glad that your not "cursed" anymore. 1 person likes this
@Remembering1996 (2219)
• United States
18 Dec 08
I have a friend that had this done and this kind of thing happend to her to where she split with her ex-boyfrind and he got with someone else and she had a curse put on him that he would come back to her in the time stated. She said she had to put the exact names of every one involved first middle and last and put it in his house where they had the split up. She managed to get over there and she left the paper in the room where they broke up in and she hid it in a secret spot where he couldn't find it and while he was distracted. She said within 8 months he was back at her door begging her to take him back that he had left the other girl. They lasted about shy of a year and they split again. She fineally gave up with trying that curse stuff and is now by herself and he is off with some other girl. I never tried it so I don't know I have heard about it though it's some weird stuff I hear.
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@rosdimy (3926)
• Malaysia
18 Dec 08
It is not easy to say whether it was black magic or coincidence. It could have been as someone else has said due to the power of negative thinking.
If you were behaving normally then it may not be a coincidence.
If you did not spend time thinking about what she said then it may not be due to negative thinking.
Many people believe black magic is all in the mind. Two doctors (husband and wife) did not believe in ghosts and black magic until they were attacked by a female who wanted the male doctor to fall in love with him.
So was it black magic? In my opinion most probably it was.
all the best,
rosdimy
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@ladynetz (968)
• Canada
18 Dec 08
You can necer know the truth.
I do believ that it might have been something, but also, when you know that a certain thing it's coming to you, you usually behave as you're suppose to.
When you were told that you were "cursed" for seven years, you took it as is.
After the 7 ears, you split, and now you're back together.
Why did it take 7 years to split, to face her defaults? Because you tought that's the curse.
Maybe if you 've had acted sooner, she would stop to behave like she did, curse, or not....
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@android (895)
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18 Dec 08
Well, I didn't conscsciously believe it, at the time I thought it was just a load of rubbish. But, as you will see in one of my above posts, at one point I did think to myself that I'll just wait 7 years then, so it probably did affect my beliefs in some way. I did behave normally though and tried to have a normal relationship with her. not long after this she washed my driving license in the washing machine, which is actually a regularly pulled stunt by narcissist, who then claim that it was an accident. She would also go out drinking and babysit for people all the time and when I questioned her she would say that never happened, I imagined it all!
@jwfarrimond (4473)
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18 Dec 08
Of course telling you about it is likely to make it self fulfilling..However, I'd go with coincidence in this case.
@android (895)
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18 Dec 08
Yep, I'm not dwelling on it though, it just makes me a little curious and I find it an amazing coincidence. It's all over now though and my partner and myself are getting on with our lives regardless of what anyone thinks about what happened. We are both happy now and that's all that really matters. I am interested in what other people (who are not involved) think about the situation though.
@android (895)
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18 Dec 08
maybe is was just a coincidence, though a very remarkable one! Maybe it was because she embedded the suggestion in my subconscious with her narcissistic tendencies, as suggested above. Or perhaps there is some kind of strange force out there that she has the power to utilize. Who will ever know?
@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
18 Dec 08
it's not from the curse, it will only work if you belive in it. i had some dude claim to put one on me i just laugh at him..
@android (895)
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18 Dec 08
Well, I didn't believe it at the time, I generally don't believe in curses and magic and all that stuff. Like you said though, it could just be because I believed it. I didn't believe it consciously though, so I may have believed it subconsciously which may have caused all our problems, in which case it would like it was my fault to everybody else, as she would have made me like it by playing with my beliefs. At one point, I do remember thinking when she said it, alright, I'll just wait seven years for her love then, so in a way I guess I kind of must have believed it!
@android (895)
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18 Dec 08
I do find it strange though, how my current partner always used to tell me that everything was all in my head, whenever she wanted to get away with someone. That is typical narcissistic behaviour in itself. I was also warned by one or two members of her family that she may be a narcissist and over the course of the years, this would happen and that would happen. I didn't believe them at the time but they were actually spot on, exactly what they predicted did happen! Or could this just be down to the fact that I've had the misfortune to have to deal and communicate with several narcissistic people?
@josephjota (109)
• China
19 Dec 08
you should really believe that black magic .it is very normal in thailand and china.
@tina24486 (5)
• United States
19 Dec 08
I don't think it was a curse. I believe it was just coincidence. My sister was married to her first husband for 8 years then they divorced. She married her second husband and that ended after 8 years also.
@jacobert (24)
• Philippines
4 Jan 09
wow! that's totally sluggish. maybe it depends on your belief, opinion, and culture. for me, i believe in dark magic because of the law of the opposites. of course if there is good magic there should also be dark magic. but no matter how strong that dark magic is, just don't forget that dark never conquers the good. so, gather strength. how? it is how you see it, the good magic!
