how do you deal with an extremely rude boss?
By mazdakid
@mazdakid (347)
Philippines
December 18, 2008 8:12am CST
hi all!
most of us have jobs. therefore we have co-workers, subordinates (for some), and of course, a superior (or supervisor).
fortunately for most, their supervisors or bosses are civilised, professional and some are even very friendly. sadly, for some, their supervisors could be extremely obnoxious, or even bordering on demonic!
unfortunately, i had the latter experience. i had a Senior Operations Manager who is the personification of the word "uncouth". he was too much of a jerk that he keeps yelling at people and bragging "You don't know who you're messing with" even if the poor employee is not answering back. he likes summoning people to his office and yell at them for hours. he likes inflating his ego so much. we complained to our Human Resources Department, but their actions were ineffective. that jerk was severely reprimanded by the Regional HR Director, but after three weeks, he was back to his demonic self.
his behaviour was so intolerable that i decided to quit. many people tried to stop me from resigning, but i said that i can't take his behaviour anymore. he might be good at operations (since people work hard out of extreme fear), but he's lousy as a boss.
and when i resigned, it was funny coz, suddenly, 15 people with the rank of client managers resigned after me. they said that if such a patient person such as myself surrendered to that guy's behaviour, then the situation is hopeless even for them.
i just hope that "karma" would teach that bad boss a lesson.
i had to quit coz i already have hypertension and heart problem. because of him, it would've worsened if i stayed.
how about you guys? do you tolerate such an ill-mannered boss?
5 responses
@coolseeds (3919)
• United States
18 Dec 08
No one would talk to me like that. No one. It doesn't matter if it were a police officer, the president or my boss. No one would talk to me that way. I would have put an end to it the 1st time it happened. Then they might talk to others that way but they would never talk to me like that. I've changed people in my life. They always respected me after they made that one mistake.
@mazdakid (347)
• Philippines
18 Dec 08
hi there coolseeds! that's very cool. i wish people in my office would have the courage to stand up against that evil boss of ours. unfortunately, he's too much of a cruel authoritarian. he rules the office like an iron fist, as if he owns that company. oh well. most of us just wish that the saying "what goes around, comes around" would happen to him...
@coolseeds (3919)
• United States
18 Dec 08
I am certain that he will run into someone that will cut him down to size one of these days. It is only a matter of time. I worked for a company that had an owner who would say anything anywhere. He was always nice to us but he had a mouth on him. Maybe he knew we didn't make enough money to take his crap. I don't know. But one day he was at the mall and there was a guy on the pay phone who had 2 children with him. The owner was cursing and using foul language. The guy asked him to stop because of his kids. The business owner said I will say what the Fu... & about that time the guy on the phone punched him and knocked him out with that one punch. LOL
It didn't change him but if you are mean to people you are going to get what is coming to you.
@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
18 Dec 08
that sounds like my hubbys boss. he is bipolar and doesnt take his meds, so he is very difficult to get along with. fortunately, my hubby will be getting a new job probably by the end of january!
my boss, on the other hand is 71 and much too old to be working. he forgets things all the time (its his own company and he doesnt want to quit! but i think the board will force him out by the end of 2009).
@mazdakid (347)
• Philippines
18 Dec 08
hi there cher913! i think my evil boss (yep... for everyone in the office, he's evil) is bipolar as well. for example, at 9am, he's in a good mood and very happy, then at 9:30am, he starts yelling at people even for the slightest mistake, then after 20 minutes, he becomes nice again, then after half an hour, he becomes aggressive again. i don't know if either he has a psychiatric disorder or if he was just brought up that way, as an arrogant brat-like jerk. he even keeps saying "I don't care. I want it my way! NOW!" when we offer suggestions for some projects. oh well... =)
as for your own boss, it's sad to see that the board can be ungrateful sometimes that they eject the very owner of the company. the least they could do is make your boss the Chairman Emeritus. in one of the companies here in my country, the Yuchengco Group of Companies (a Chinese conglomerate), the son of the patriarch is approaching retirement age, and instead of being ejected by the board, he was named as Chairman Emeritus. at least he is still part of the company, even if, reportedly, he doesn't get paid anymore. =)
anyways, thanks and more power to you! =)
@catdla1 (6005)
• United States
20 Dec 08
Same way as you. I did my job as best I could under the circumstances, and quietly looked for another job. If I'd had a job with a supervisor like yours, as soon as I found something I'd wait until the next time he yelled, "You don't know who you're messing with". Then I'd quietly say, "Not you!!", and leave.
@ladynetz (968)
• Canada
20 Dec 08
Too bad it take lots of employers to quit and the boss is still kept in his job.
I had lots of bosses, rude ones too.
One of them did not give a raise as everyone else received, just because I'm in admin.He was rude, selfish and unconcerned about the well being of all workers.
I wanted to quit, but with a baby at home, was harf to find another job, so I just ahd to put up with him.
Very unpleasant and bad for my health.My family had to endure my mood when at home, because I just could not stop thinking about that person.
Now, I'm a little bit older, more experience, and I don;tshut up.
Want to fire me? Do it. But my family does not have to endure it anymore.
@stejhas (209)
• United States
20 Dec 08
I'm so glad to hear you quit! Good for yoU!!!!
I stayed in a job for 7 years with a boss like that... the only reason I didn't quit was because I was a single parent at the time and didn't have the time, energy or confidence to find a new job... unfortunately, by the time I finally got out of there, my self-esteem was so beaten down that I don't think I will ever be able to have a career in that industry ever again... (this also means that I will never be able to utilize the bachelor's degree that I worked so hard at getting).
It's really sad that people can get away acting like your boss does... Are they so happy in their personal lives that they get a kick out of battering people all day long at work? (this is my only conclusion about the boss I had - maybe you can agree in your situation?)
