Elopement vs. Wedding Ceremony. Which marriage lasts longer?
By ashlee832002
@ashlee832002 (424)
United States
November 8, 2006 11:58am CST
Hello everyone, I am doing a paper for my Statistics class for College. I decided to do a paper on Elopement vs. Wedding Ceremonies. I have had different views - some believe if you are eloped your marriage lasts longer. Others feel the other way.
Therefore, what is your opinion, which one lasts longer?
The best data that I can obtain are from those who have actually experienced one or the other. So, tell me, did you have a wedding and if so how long have you been married? Did you get eloped and if so how long have you been married?
The more responses the merrier. Put in family members information if needed! Thanks!
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13 responses
@beckyomg1 (6756)
• United States
8 Nov 06
i had a ceremony and i have been married for 16 yrs, i think eleopment might not last as long because of the rush rush factor.
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@ashlee832002 (424)
• United States
8 Nov 06
That you for your opinion. Congrats on the long marriage!
@ashlee832002 (424)
• United States
8 Nov 06
I'm not sure how to edit something I've already posted. I meant to say "Thank" you for your opinion not "That".
@nancygibson (3736)
• France
8 Nov 06
As pagans we decided that we had entered into a state of marriage by talking our feelings through and making personal commitments to each other. We never had a legal ceremony, nor do we intend to. We revisit our relationship every year and a day. We talk over the past year, sort out any problems, air any hopes and dreams and renew our vows as seems appropriate to the stage of life we are at. I consider myself married, the law disagrees. We've been doing this for nearly fifteen yearns now
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@ashlee832002 (424)
• United States
8 Nov 06
Wow, congratulations. I never wanted to get married by anymeans. I feel marriage only gives you a piece of paper and a new last name. But, I was a sucker and did it anyways :)
@tarheelnancy (1317)
• United States
8 Nov 06
My husband and I eloped almost 10 years ago. We didn't have money for a fancy wedding. We didn't rush into marriage either, we dated for over a year. We are renewing our vows this coming May on our 10th anniversary!
My mother eloped with my step-father and they were married 8 years, they are now divorced.
My younger sister eloped and the marriage lasted only 6 months but was actually over before that.
@ashlee832002 (424)
• United States
8 Nov 06
Wow - thank you I really appreciate your response.
I too eloped. I met my husband on the internet. We met once or twice. He moved in with me and we got married two months later. It was love at first sight. We have been married now for a little over two years.
His grandfather was eloped and they've been married for a billion years (not sure exact number).
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@BellasmamaTiff (2544)
• United States
8 Nov 06
I really don't think how long the marriage lasts has anything to do with the type of ceremony you have. It has to do with the maturity and committment of both parties involved.
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@sacmom (14192)
• United States
26 Feb 07
Here are two sets of stats from my family, just to show you that it varies by the couple.
Hubby and I: Married 12 years. Eloped after being together for 3 years.
One of my cousins: Married 20 years. She and her hubby eloped. I don't know how long they were together, maybe a year. That's just a guess.
My parents: Married for 20 years then divorced. Had a big formal wedding.
My husband's parents: Just celebrated their 43rd wedding anniversary. Had a big formal wedding.
Hope this helps!
@sacmom (14192)
• United States
26 Feb 07
I forgot to add that the list I gave you are all from 1st marriages.
@vipul20044 (5793)
• India
8 Nov 06
well its preffered to go for a ceremony. Eloping is much less costly. Guess it depends on your situation. Talk about it between the both of you and decide what you want to do and dont look back. The fact is, if you are married thats the best thing that can happen regardless of the medium
@vipul20044 (5793)
• India
8 Nov 06
well its preffered to go for a ceremony. Eloping is much less costly. Guess it depends on your situation. Talk about it between the both of you and decide what you want to do and dont look back. The fact is, if you are married thats the best thing that can happen regardless of the medium
@vipul20044 (5793)
• India
8 Nov 06
well its preffered to go for a ceremony. Eloping is much less costly. Guess it depends on your situation. Talk about it between the both of you and decide what you want to do and dont look back. The fact is, if you are married thats the best thing that can happen regardless of the medium
@ElusiveButterfly (45940)
• United States
8 Nov 06
I had an elaborate wedding. The marriage lasted 6 years. The best thing to come out of it was our children.
The second, we had a potluck dinner and had a blast. We are 8 years and holding.
@MrsAdvice (623)
• United States
9 Nov 06
First marriage: Huge, elaborate ceremony - lasted five years
Second marriage: elopement - lasted 11 or 12 years but he did not live with me for a lot of the time because I kicked him out around 7 years but neither of us could afford the divorce so we were still married but living apart.
Third marriage: We planned the wedding, from the time he asked to the time we married, one week, quick, simple, nobody invited, just us and our witnesses, and we just had our third anniversary but I know this one will last forever because it has nothing to do with the ceremony, but the views of the people regarding marriage and I finally found someone who takes marriage as seriously as I do and divorce is just not an option for us, we are totally in love and totally committed.
@2598567 (522)
• India
8 Nov 06
i prefer a ceremonised wedding over a eloped wedding,i am not yet married but whenever i will,it will not a eloped wedding.
@ashlee832002 (424)
• United States
8 Nov 06
I do feel bad for an elopement an not a ceremony as I'm an only child and I took the privelege from my father of walking me down the aisle and giving me away. Also, it is my first marraige, and I think a first marriage should be special and someone should go all out to make it perfect. Yet, I didn't have the funds to do a wedding, my husband didn't have the funds, and neither one of my parents would have had the funds to help us, so we had no choice. Plus, no one knew we were engaged due to the fact we only known each other two months.
