Why Do People Go Out of Their Way To Make Quiet People Talk?

What's wrong with being quiet? I've been criticeized for it ever since I can remember. I have to talk like crazy, all day long, because I'm an English teacher. I love working with the kids, but I look forward to quiet when the final bell rings . My husband is one of those people who talks and talks and talks, so we balance each other nicely. Many years ago, he's give me an occasional "quiz" because he said he didn't know if I was listening! I was, and I still am, listening to every word. Many people seem to think that a quiet person is a stupid person. They're wrong. We are what we are -- quiet people.

Hello there. I have been told this too. Sometimes, when I am quiet, people will keep repeating: "Say something!". Sometimes I just like to listen to what a group is talking. Sometimes I want to be quiet with myself and think a little bit. If I do not feel like I have anything useful to add, then why should I say something? I guess some people will feel uncomfortable if they know that you are quiet. It passes them the feeling that you are sad or something like that, and, therefore, they will try to make you talk. Just get used to it, because a lot of people does not respect silence. Respectfully, Munhozmib.

Some people just have this need to know what you are thinking. I'm not one of them. I have seen people do this to other people and it annoys me as well when I see it. I think for the most part it's insecurity on that persons part. Some people need to have all the cards on the table so to speak because it's less risk for them.

I tend to be shy and do not warm up to some people. I am not a snob however and will carry on a conversation with someone I do not know. I think some people think you might be stuck up so try to converse to make a connection. Some people cannot tell the difference between being reserved and being anti-social. I do believe there are some people who cannot sit quiet, especially alone with their thoughts, if they actually have them. You also have to remember some people are brought up that way and to go into their houses there is constant chatter and verbal confict.

I don't talk a lot either, but I haven't had anyone bother me about it in a long time. I think maybe it's a couple things like: maybe they think you don't like them, Maybe they just can't get why you can be so quiet yet they can't shut up. It's most likely because they are an idiot.

Unlike those rude one's that think its funny, some actually do try to make quiet people talk. I think they feel or see that the person has an amazing personality that is just waiting to come out! For example, my best friend of 4 years now used to be queit and not talk unless absolutely necessary. But after a while I got her to talk and she just came out of her shell. Now she talks alot and her self esteem is higher (I'm not tryin to say you don't have self esteem). So yeah, people do that to try and take quiet people out of their shell. Does that help?

Yes I too am like you which prefers to be silent most of the time in here. Although I feel annoyed when situation like yours happened but I think a smile with the group is enough message for them to understand me.

maybe its for the challenge hehe... people might consider that an achievement of some sort to be able to make a quiet person talk. I am not much of a talker also, but not too quiet that I would have people walk up to me like the way they do to you. i guess its just seems like natural for people to want to catch attention that is why they tend to talk alot and they feel that there must be something wrong if you don't talk hehe

Well they're just outgoing probably, don't mind it, its' their friendliness.

Believe me I know. Everyone always thinks im "shy". Cant people understand that sometimes, people just dont have alot to say?!

I agree with you in this situation! I am a quiet person by nature and I generally don't mix in huge groups. There are times when I go silent and I kind of feel under pressure as though I should be saying something; I guess the others make me feel this way but they should just leave things alone! We are the way we are and if we don't want to indulge in something then we shouldn't have to, we should be accepted! By the same token, we should accept others for the way they are. I generally like quiet time but not all the time! Andrew

I have always had the same thing happen to me. Only, I think it's funny because I always get more attention, than the loud women who are loud just so they can get attention.

I hate that.Sometimes especially when I am around new people I don't talk a lot mainly because I don't have anything to say to them.I can't stand when its pointed out when someone is being quiet if they are shy that will just make them more uncomfortable.

It really bothers me when people do that to others who are just naturally quiet. Although I do admit I sometimes badger the prententious quiet ones. You know the one's who sit there looking down on everyone else? God they annoy me.

I think some people feel nervous around quiet people. People naturally want to get to know the people around them and it's hard to know someone if they don't talk much. I don't know for sure, but I don't think they are being horrible to you by doing this. I think maybe they just want you to be relaxed around them. I used to be very quiet a couple years ago, kept myself to myself a lot. But over the last couple years I decided I'd make more of an effort with people and just start talking about whatever came into my head at the time and found that people really appreciate you making the effort to talk to them. Interacting with people is good for you, if you have worries or stress, even if you're not talking about your problems, talking to others can help relieve that tension.

I think you should be happy someone recognises you out of the whole lot and wants to make you feel among.

I don't like to talk much I have always been known as a quiet person, and people who don't know me will come up and think something is wrong with me because I am not talking an chatting a mile a minute. I tell them nothing is wrong I'm just a quiet person and if I have something to say I'll say it. That usually shuts them up but then I also have the drunk people who just love to bug me an know why I don't talk that much and then they will just tell me every little dark secret that they have then they start crying and tell me how much they appreciate me listening to them. I try to avoid parties just for the reason lol.

I have heard that comment lots of times and it always annoys me. I used to be very shy and when people said that to me, I always felt under pressure and it made me even more shy. Now I am not that shy anymore, but I am still quiet sometimes, and I hate it when people try to make me talk. I'll talk if I want to, but I think that my silence makes people uncomfortable sometimes.

There's nothing wrong with being a quiet person but sometimes people take it as rudeness and unfriendliness. People who loves to talk do not get it of course. Everyone has a personality of their own. Try to just smile next time cause i doubt that you will ever get to make them shut up either. Don't waste your time like they do with their time to try to make you talk. Stay in your comfort zone and hopefully they will learn to accept and respect you for who you are. Take care.

I was misunderstood also by being too quiet and reserved, but it did not make me affected, in a long run, people who stays with me is a true friend and thankful that I become their friend.