I just have to get this out.

Oh my goodness Marty, that is terrible. Both her and the boyfriend should have been out there shoveling. I can't believe that she would have the nerve to call you lazy. I probably would have gone off. You are a very patient man. If someone is working, they should be not only paying you to live there, but also helping out with the chores. And they say on the television all of the time for people to let the younger ones do the snow shoveling. That stuff gets heavy, especially if it is the wet snow. Good luck to you, I hope you can find a way to bring this out in the open instead of letting it bother you on the inside.

If she didn't have anything nice to say like "Thank you for taking the time out to do that" then she shouldn't have said anything else at all. So what if they both work? They are not paying rent!? So what if you are out of a job right now? It's your girlfriend's house and if anyone should have a problem with you not working it should be your girlfriend - not your girlfriend's daughter! That is soooo rude! Since they didn't start it they could have atleast offered to help! I'm 23 years old and I tell you what....sometimes I am soooo embarrassed by people my age...this would be one of those times!

Spoiled and rude too. What would happen if you talked to your girlfriend about it?

Oh no she DIDN'T! Its a good thing you didn't still have that shovel in your hand. I would definitely mention it to your girlfriend if for no other reason than to get it off your chest. I know what it is like to deal with the rude, spoiled, adult offspring of your significant other. Letting it fester will affect your relationship with her. I wish I could say I had some adivce for you to have this come to some sort of happy ending. I ended up paying my then-boyfriend (now husband)'s son to leave. If I hadn't done that I would have had to go!

Cruel is not even that word! What nerve! That is VERY disrespectful. They should be Thankful that you were out there in the first place. You need to take breaks, dont let them make you think any differant. The girlfriend need to talk to her daughter and tell them that they need to respect you. You said they live rent free...they should have had both their butts out there shoveling instead of making rude comments!

yup she sure is a spoilt brat..how rude and disrespectful..i really think u should talk to your girlfrend about it. i mean she should have more respect toward you especially since you've been so kind enough to let her and her boyfriend stay with you rent free-thats big...coz if you just leave it then its sort of like giving her her a lisence to say things like that whenever she wants..

i guess, you have a good decision just have to get that out.i know, it will hard for you. but if you know, you have some place to go and have a peace of mind and be respected then why not go there?

I think that the daughter and her boyfriend should have been out there helping you with the shoveling. It doesn't matter that they work and you don't, they're a lot younger than you aren't. I don't mean to say that to pick at you, but shoveling all that snow can be rough on any person...even the youngest of people.

I just don't get young people any more. That is not the way I was raised, I would have been out there with you if not before you. I don't care if they work or not! How are they going to get to work if they are still snowed in? I don't think you are the lazy one here.

I don't know if this is a one time thing or regular behavior, but it was really rude and you should be bothered by it. Don't just push this behavior aside because than they will think it's ok and keep treating you like this! It is your place, not your girlfriends, and her kids are adults so while she should get involved because she cares about you, you should have handled it. In other words, it's your place, you make the rules-not your girlfriend! She should have your back, but you should stand up to them. What are they going to do about it? If they can't apologize, than they go live somewhere else!And if your girlfriend doesn't like it she can move out! People have disagreements and act like brats though all the time when they live with someone. Sometimes we just get on each others nerves, you know? Calling her a spoiled brat though isn't helping. We can all be spoiled brats. I'm sure she is sometimes, but if you dislike her that much kick her out! But don't live with someone you resent and dislike, that's not cool. I know when I was younger I wasn't very nice with my parents, and as I got older and lived on my own I realized what a brat I was acting like-but that doesn't mean I was a bad person. I just had some growing up to do. Maybe it's time they get out there on their own, and they will appreciate you more! But just take heart, that this kinda stuff doesn't just happen to you! When I lived with my boyfriends family for a few months I did the dishes and helped out without being asked. He definitely should have been helping, it's the least he could do! You gotta decide what you will tolerate, and if you let people push you around you get what you deserve. Harsh, but true! I hope things work out though and you can tell them how you feel, and work things out!

I agree with you she is cruel and inconsiderate on several levels. Firstly she should be paying rent since she and her boyfriend live at your home rent free, also she is inconsiderate for asking you that and finally she should have asked her boyfriend to help he. They should have started shoveling before you and even if they saw you doing it ,then they should have come to help, its the least they can do to show their gratitude. Maybe you should start charging them rent and they would be more grateful and willing to do anything to get in your good books.

Have to take things easy when staying together. Treat it as a children comment. Do whatever you can happily. Jason www.smsolar.net www.smsolar.net/panel www.smsolar.net/bird_nest

lol.. im sorry it happened.. but your 52 you should understand, she is a kid.. ofcourse she will behave like that.. i dont really think that you should solve family problems like this on what other people say.. talk it over with your girl friend ask her what to do.. she knows her daughter better than you.. if your always act on things by what "other" people say.. it could cause problems..