Would you tell your spouse how much salary you get?

Ha! Ha! Ha! I could not stop myself laughing when I went through your post. What an 'interesting' discussion and I wonder how such marvellous thoughts come into your mind. You are right some of men do not tell their exact salary to their spouse or vice versa. However, I always tell the truth because it gives a clear picture to my better half, who is also a working lady. She should have an idea, how much we both earn and how to manage house-hold affairs. Transparency in financial matters always proves good for healthy relationship of a husband and wife. I am the 'Finance Manager' of the home, therefore, I tell her, how 'funds' comes in the home and how these are 'spent' on various activities and how much is saved out of the income. One of my colleagues and his wife both work in my office, so even if my colleague wishes to conceal his actual salary, he cannot do, because her wife knows, how much salary one gets in the office.

Of course. We live in a community property state. Here it is not allowed for people to be secretive about their assets. It was not like that a few years back, though, when men tried to hide their income from their wives. When women got a little more equality the laws changed. That was a good thing. Back then it was unheard of for a woman to earn more than here husband. I used to know some women who turned down promotions because they didn't want their husbands to be upset. Hah! They must have been married to idiots.

Most definitely. Why would i want to hide it ? After all a marriage is to be built around trust, and a lot of misunderstanding and mistrust does get created due to money. I would also do it for the reasons of wanting to jointly plan the expenses and savings of the family. There are few friends i know who would even hand over thier entire income to their wives and take from them only what they deem necessary for thier day to day expenses. That is of course is a decision they have taken as they found the wives to be very wise and efficient at planning and maintaining the expenses.

i would like to know about my spouses income .but it should not be a sort of compulsion.i think trust and transperancy should be in every relationship but the partner should also respect each others views.

yes, i always tell my hubby how much im earning from my work, so as he. we shared money, actually. but we have our own money in our own accounts. We never fight because of money. we always make sure that we agreed about everything that is relevant with the "money" thing. Its a nonsense reason to fight for.

Boyfriend actually knows what I'm being paid at work. And now you got me thinking, he knows exactly how much I get paid but I only have an idea as to his. I guess I'm just open to how much I make (not to everyone, of course). I show him my pay stub and I'm sure I've said it out loud how much I got paid on a certain day or something.

yeah, both of us are pretty open with each other financially...i mean, we even share a bank account...it helps us to both keep track on the spending.

Why not? If I get married to someone, I would be sharing my life, my everything with him. Including my past present and future. Same way my thoughts, emotions and finances as well. It is difficult to find a true companion but then this is life.

My wife knows exactly how much money I earn and I know what she earns too. It's always been that way as it was with my parents too. I think it always best to be open and honest with my partner. :-) Derek

Hi Mou well i dont mind sharing with my wife so she must know how much i earn how much are expenses do we need to spend more or save more So, nothing to hide Take care

Marriage is all about trust. So I think both the spouses have to be very open to each other. It does help in the financial situation at home and also in the savings. I would not have liked my spouse hiding his income from me.

my partner and i know how much the other earns. the only time we keep our earnings secret is when we get unexpected bonuses. sometimes we won't tell the other for a while because we're planning a surprise. and then the other finds out through the surprise present or dinner out or tickets somewhere, etc.

hi, mimpi1911 yes i would. i do not like keeping secrets from my husband, especially when it comes to money. i also believe that he does not want to keep secrets from me about his earnings. in fact, we have been sharing a bank account even before we got married. have a nice day and see ya around!

Of course... my husband tells me and sometimes shows me his cheque too... why the hush hush with your soul mate...

She knows how much I was earning then and how much I am earning earning now.I don't want to give false hopes and want her to know how rich or poor she is.I am more concerned about the future of her and our child.I must make her prepared to live whatever she is getting every month and whatever she will get in the future too.

I'm not sure about the 'would' you tell part. I already have. My husband knows my take home salary as well as the other benefits. I personally think that a spouse needs to know about every detail and that goes for the wife knowing about the husband's income too. But sometimes, it's not really a good idea because one or the other tends to take advantage of it. I don't think that's right...but I still do not believe in hiding such details from the spouse even when they take advantage.

yes mimpi, why not.......Me and my hubby have no reason to hide anything.....besides, here we don't get salary in hand, it goes straight to our banks and when we get bank statements, we can see not only rupees but even paisa...ha ha ha...and to tell you the truth, after paying all the loans and bills, we are always in minus (overdraft).....so nothing to hide dear........may be if one of us will win some lottery , then we would start hiding things........ Have a nice day dear.

I don't have a spouse so I don't really know. I know that many people think its a taboo to talk about how much money you make but I don't really care. I do think that spouses need to know each other's income though. You are a team working together and paying for things together. You need to know how much each other makes in order to budget appropriately. I also think its a sign of trust. Of course each couple has their own way or dealing with money. If it works then go for it.

Hey!^_^ I would definitely tell my spouse just how much Im getting cause that way we both can manage our finances together. Of course it would be ideal if we also have separate accounts as well as a joint one so we can spend for us as a couple and also have something aside for ourselves. Its nice to be transparent in a marriage especially when it comes to finances since keeping these things from each other can only evoke conflict and the couple might end up arguing..^_^

I don't really see anything wrong with telling your mate how much your salary is. There shouldn't be any secrets when it comes to that let alone any secrets at all. Keeping your salary a secret does not make much sense to me. It doesn't hurt to share what you make with your husband unless you are trying to hide something.