Do You Agree That Success Rate Of Marriage Is Declining Very Fast In Society?
By Ganesh44
@Ganesh44 (5547)
India
December 20, 2008 7:16am CST
Dear Friends
I have been attending marriage parties as I think you all do provided we got prior invitation lol
But surprisingly during last 2-3 years I can see that good number (75 percent) of the marriages are short-lived and couples are either divourced or fighting each other using court-and laws and lawyers .
Firt of all do you agree with the me on this or not?
Do you also agree and think that such high rate of unsuccessful marriage can lead to/and is resulting in elimination of practice called marriage in society?
What are the causes or what are your views on this?
Thanks
Ganesh
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21 responses
@nilzerous1 (2434)
• India
20 Dec 08
I think sad people are they, who start fighting out with each other even before going out for a sweet honeymoon trip. But that is a tragic reality. I believe constant pressure, built-up stresses, and a steep competitive environment are making all of us rather unsettled mentally. The primary reason behind marriages being short-lived must be the changed socio-economic scenario. We are all now short-tempered, impatient to listen to others, and we have developed an uncompromising attitude. Saying so, I have a strong reservation regarding the figures you have mentioned. It looks somehow surprising. Have you got any statistical basis, or just a guess?
I believe if that (75%) be based on a Statistics - then a very important social Institution like marriage will soon loose its social significance and glory.
@nilzerous1 (2434)
• India
21 Dec 08
Even if it is 5 - 10% +/- yet this is something society needs to act upon very seriously. Thanks.
@Ganesh44 (5547)
• India
20 Dec 08
Dear Friend
ha ha ha ha lol you take all sweet things into consideration lol . Yes I totally agree with you on this today competition has made most of people as rigid personalities looking some way to get relaxed.
Yes figure are not based on statistics but I have guessed it based on my personal experience around my place . It can be 5-10 % up or down .
Thanks for your response and such a nice information...!
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Take Care
Ganesh
@messageme (2821)
• United States
22 Dec 08
I definitely agree with you that marriages are declining rapidly! I think it's because so many don't view marriages like they use too. Too me alot of it is partners cheattng on each other. I know I would never stay in a marriage if my spouse was cheatting on me, but back in the old days they were obligated to stay with them no matter what happened in their marriage. I wouldn't say marriages were any happier then they just never got divoriced because it wasn't heard of.
@Ganesh44 (5547)
• India
23 Dec 08
Dear Friend
Yes i agree with you these days being loyal to partner is not considered an important thing due to down moral values which is also a big reason for divorce ...
I can see that Marriage as practice in society may fade more if some measures are not taken timely causing some new practices like live ins taking place of it ...........
Thanks for your response and such a nice information...!
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Take Care
Ganesh
@SHAMRACK (8576)
• India
21 Dec 08
Dear friend,
I could see that most of nuclear family is formed, may lawyers, may educated people as these changes occurred a change in the behavioural pattern might too had affected. All are in the competitive world to win and success. Hence those human values and value of relationships begins to fall down. Those old days are seen much of happiness with cooperating with the nature and people. But now even an individual is able to live and if that individual has to live he/she has to fight for survival and success in this world where it is full competition. Hence a main fact like ego arises. May other facts too all these could affect the marriage relationship too.
@Ganesh44 (5547)
• India
23 Dec 08
Dear Friend
wonderful reply yes I agree with you that competition has made things worst with people getting full with personal egos claiming to be superior and expecting more from their partners thats is causing all this ....................
Thanks for your response and such a nice information...!
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Take Care
Ganesh
@quinstessa (218)
• China
22 Dec 08
yes, i do agree all.
the same things also happens in my country.
lots of people get married, and then break to divorce, because they do not prepare well for the marriage life, they thought they do, but they do not.
when people are in love, they ignore the difference and conflicts between them, but things change, when they are in marriage, they facus more on the daily life, and how to make their life to be a real life.
and this is the cause, in my view.
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@Ganesh44 (5547)
• India
23 Dec 08
Dear Friend
Yes you are right people just to marriage for just sake of it and later they find that they are not compatible and lot of conflicts arise causing them to separate ......
Thanks for your response and such a nice information...!
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Take Care
Ganesh
@Frederick42 (2024)
• Canada
21 Dec 08
I agree, especially in western countries.
But I think marriage is still important in western countries.
But marriage or no marriage, love cannot disappear. Men and women will still fall in love with each other, go to parks and restaurants, live together and produce children.
Only the bond and marriage promise is losing value and not the real marriage which is nothing but love and romance.
@Ganesh44 (5547)
• India
23 Dec 08
Dear Friend
lol I think real marriage is also loosing the value beside the bond of marriage since if bond is harmed the relationship ends .Yes I agree such things happen more rapidly in western countries .
Hope marriage may not be taken away with other sort of practices in soicety ....
Thanks for your response and such a nice information...!
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Ganesh
@alindahaw (1219)
• Philippines
21 Dec 08
I must agree that we have higher rates of divorces these days compared to about 10-20 years ago. I read somewhere that people nowadays tend to favor quick divorces. The availability of online do-it-yourself-divorce and online filing of divorce papers made it even easier for us to get rid of our spouses even at the slightest provocation. Yeah, it sucks but life is like that.
@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
21 Dec 08
Hi Ganesh, Yes it does seem that way, whether or not it's the same everywhere I don't know. I feel the day is fast approaching when there will be no more marriage as we know it today. Personally, I'm in favor of an agreement between two people that provides for each partner if they break up and also for children if they have any. It should not be difficult to set up something that would give the same benefits as marriage. I'm not against marriage for thses who want it, I've been married twice myself, but if the younger generations think that way I see nothing wrong with it. Blessings.
@Ganesh44 (5547)
• India
23 Dec 08
Dear Friend
Yes I am also seeing the day with hardly any people interested in marriage .....I think young generations seems to do less marriage ...
Merry Christmas !!
Thanks for your response and such a nice information...!
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Take Care
Ganesh
@michiganrawfood (90)
• United States
20 Dec 08
I'm not sure, most of my friends are just getting married so it's a little too early to tell. From what I can see though, they are doing really well and seem to be happier than my single friends. I really think in hard times like these you need two incomes, and the extra support helps. However, my friends who married really young or didn't have enough money when they got married, added a lot of stress on themselves that have made things tough. I think it depends on the people involved really, not in general about what is going on in society. I think it's more acceptable to get divorced today, so that might lead to more people not sticking it out in a relationship that is not good, and also women are able to support themselves more. So, are there more divorces now, or just more people willing to get divorced than there were in the past?
@Ganesh44 (5547)
• India
21 Dec 08
Dear Friend
good to know that married friends are happier but its reverse in my case lol
Yes finance ,understanding are also causes leading to divorce beside women getting more independent than before
Thanks for your response and such a nice information...!
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Take Care
Ganesh
@gayathrigs (871)
• India
21 Dec 08
what ever you said is absolutely right ganesh, because our society has become more forward then compared to the past and lots of changes have come and are coming in the fashion industry. every one is ultra modern, gone are the days people think in terms of tradition even these days. There are several sites where you can see only separated or divorced people. even in marriage sites we can see many young couple divorced. what i feel is it is only due to ego that people have these days. People want perfection and either of the couple donot want to compromise. they want and expect others to compromise. that was not the thing with our parents and grand parents, either wife or husband used to compromise in those days, but these days for silly reasons and ego problems people tend to go for divorce once there is difference in thought and opinion which is not good. people must learn themselves that marriage is a sacred ceremony and it must be given respect and be united as much as possible.
@Ganesh44 (5547)
• India
21 Dec 08
Dear Friend
Yes media and fashion industry has redifined marriage ,yes you are right couples prefer to divorce than to compromise which is unfourtunate .
Hope things may improve which does not seem to happen although
Thanks for your response and such a nice information...!
Happy Mylotting
Take Care
Ganesh
@aakay4u (799)
• India
20 Dec 08
I am from India and in the last 20 years have attended 80-100 marriages or even more as there were many marriages in family.Till now not a single marriage got broken or was short-lived.Yes i also see from news and papers that marriages are being broken-up etc but the percentage atleast in India is too low.
@Ganesh44 (5547)
• India
20 Dec 08
Dear Friend
one minute one minute please read my discussion again I said during last two to three years ,I reqote lines from my discussion
"But surprisingly during last 2-3 years I can see that good number (75 percent) of the marriages are short-lived and couples are either divourced or fighting each other using court-and laws and lawyers ."
I am not talking about last 20 years ,I agree that rate was low before .
But during last two years I have attended atleast 15 marriages 10 getting divourcesd in a year ,I know all of them personally .
I think that in India too divource rate has become very high .
Thanks for your response and such a nice information...!
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Take Care
Ganesh
@surveytaker29345 (489)
• United States
21 Dec 08
I have to agree that the success rate of marriage seems to be declining.
I think that this has many causes. One cause is that the people who entered the marriage did not know enough about each other before they were married. After they were married, they decide that they have differences that they can not deal with, or that they just do not get along very well.
Another reason is that people do not believe in the institution of marriage like they used to. I think that in my grandparents time, people really believed that marriage meant forever. In today's times, I think that people don't think that divorices are a problem. If the marriage isn't working out, they have no problem with getting a divorce.
One other problem is that many couples do not work hard enough to save their marriages when they are having problems. I think that people need to communicate more with each other and they might be able to work out some of the problems in their relationships. I also think that people should try couples therapy before ending their marriages.
Overall, I do think that the success rates of marriage are declining but I think that in some cases, this could be prevented.
@Ganesh44 (5547)
• India
23 Dec 08
Dear Friend
Yes I agree with you earlier couples used to compromise to save marriage but now they just end up with divorce only remembering about their expectations from other and not their duties to each other .............
Thanks for your response and such a nice information...!
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Take Care
Ganesh
@Pisces28 (5)
• United States
20 Dec 08
Yes, this is true the success rate of marriage is declining.The reason here is now women are more independent and having less tolerance power. If both the couples are working, they should spend some quality time with each other.
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@srouth (2)
• India
21 Dec 08
I don't know are you talking about love marriage or arranged marriage or both?But in both case i am agree with you.
In case of love marriage:
Both the husband and wife have the option to know about each other but in real life(After marriage) a very minor thinking goes through both of their mind.That is"He/She loved me more when i am unmarred"And this happens because before the marriage both of them have the thinking that anyway we have to get marred with each other so both of them give the best effort to get own love.After marriage this effort goes away so they feel less love from their dearest one.
In case of arrange marriage:
They don't have the option to know each other very welly.So it might be happen that wife says "I don't like that you do this or that ,You have no time to spent with me and more over.I think in this case there has more chance to fighting each other.
@Ganesh44 (5547)
• India
23 Dec 08
Dear Friend
I am talking about both ,marriage as whole ,but yes I agree love marriage has better success than arranged because of aquaintaince they already develop ...
Thanks for your response and such a nice information...!
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Ganesh
@sid556 (30959)
• United States
11 Jan 09
The success rate of marriage has been dropping steadily since the early 1970's. I'm not sure the reason but it used to be that couples stuck together no matter what. Back in my day, I only knew of a handful of couples that divorced. by the time I was old enough to marry, the divorce rate was just beginning to rise noticably. I think that divorce became more acceptable and people were realizing that they did not have to stay in miserable marriages. Many of the marriages that stayed together, did so not out of love and respect but "for the sake of the kids" and for what other's would think".
@sanjana_aslam (4187)
• Malaysia
20 Dec 08
hi ganesh
i agree with that totally .. most couple oes not give n take they want only what they want
both parties must decide that they want to be together forevr, and work out all the problems that they are going to face rather than using his problem s n excuse to separate n be happy alone..
cheers
@Ganesh44 (5547)
• India
20 Dec 08
Dear Friend
Yes I agree with you views too because they put their demands and forget their duties for each other I think is the cause for decline in success rate of marriages
Thanks For Your response and such a nice information
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Take Care
Ganesh
@Daydreamer2 (470)
• Philippines
20 Dec 08
i agree with you even at the country Philippines where i was living. But it depends on what people do and feel about themselves, because in their bear heart they can decide what to be decided on, in their soul they cannot feel love anymore, in their heart there's a man/woman to be in loved with, we cannot force them to love us continuously if the whole mind, heart and soul are taken, in fACT WE CANNOT BLAME THEM and we don't always have a choice but to release someone and face the fact that you were never meant to be it suppose to be but nothing happened. Life can be bitter but God finds a way to make you live better. Happy posting!
@Ganesh44 (5547)
• India
20 Dec 08
Dear Friend
Yes I think what they feel from outside is totally different from what they feel from soul/inside putting them to get married .
Even certain and full things are revealed after marriage about each other when couples are too late I think
Thanks For Your response and such a nice information
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Take Care
Ganesh
@ladynetz (968)
• Canada
20 Dec 08
You're right.
The percentage of marriages is in decline.
In my opinion, it happens because we don't teach out children to compromise, try to get along, see each others point of view and get to a common ground.
We teach them to be aggresive and assertive.To fight for what they want.
To get what they want.
Unfortunately, when it comes to human relationships, we all have to give and receive, to help and be helped. We both have to do chores together, grocery shopping, and a budget.Together.
Most of the marriages today are broken because of financial problems.
They are not ready to confront the "real" world, and they think they can make it on theirselves, with no help.
So, they split, instead of trying to fix and go further.
Too bad when kids are also involved.
@Ganesh44 (5547)
• India
20 Dec 08
Dear Friend
Yes I agree with you on this today children are becoming more stubborn than before .
Both men and women are getting more right consious and not duty consious . Yes finance it is also a big reason
Kids are worst affected in such cases
Thanks for your response and such a nice information...!
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Take Care
Ganesh
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
20 Dec 08
I agree that marriages are short lived, but not to such an extent as you have mentioned.But the divorce rats has gone up considerably in the past decade.I feel it is because of the changing social enviornment.There is more freedom and financial independence, so the women are not ready to compromise no matter what? like they did earlier.I feel that it will take some more time for men to change their mentality and start treating their wives like equals, until then the divorce rates are bound to go up
@Ganesh44 (5547)
• India
20 Dec 08
Dear Friend
Yes these are just approximate figure based on my personal opinion . Yes I agree with you women have become more consious about their rights whereas men seems to be in big trouble seeing all this change lol
Thanks for your response and such a nice information...!
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Take Care
Ganesh
@liisafiat (659)
• Latvia
20 Dec 08
Why to agree? THIS RATE IS DECLINING, everyone sees it! Men simply makes fun of such tradition as marriage, as so many ladies looses their virginities before marriage so it kinda has lost its special meaning. And the respect for children also declines...We live better and the quality of life is higher: but we make less children because we find them to be an extra problem and annoying.