Is it okay for a wife to hit her husband?

It is not OK to beat other live being at all! If man beats a woman: obviously he did not accept his nature of being `a man` and that it means not to use his power on weaker creatures. If the woman beats her husband: wow, probably it is the same way around. Or she feels more like a man inside herself, otherwise she would have noticed that she does not have so strong muscles to stand against and fight with A MAN!!! It is more like a mental problem, I think. I would advice that man to watch woman more carefully and maybe if he does not find anything frong in her: then to speak out about what has happened. About that beating. Maybe she was defending herself from him or thought she was?

I think I'd recommend they go for counselling. It doesn't matter which one is the abusive partner and it's just as wrong for a wife as well as a husband. I think without help abusive people will continue to be that way and so just giving them a second chance doesn't work!

I do not think that it matters what gender you are. I do not think that it is okay for anyone to hit another person. I have known men that have been abused by women and it is no more right than a man hitting a woman. I would for sure advised the man to leave the woman.

It is not ok for ANYONE to hit ANOTHER - even an animal. Hitting is associated with violence - and fighting is one aspect of it. Even fighting in sport, in my opinion, is competitive violence. I used to box and also used to watch boxing as a sport during my younger years - but now I believe its nothing more than hurting another person for your own personal glory and financial gains. And the worst people associated with these acts of violence are the spectators themselves. I cannot believe how so many people - especially women - watch the fights conducted by UFC's Ultimate Fighting Championships - cheering on their favorite to hurt or even kill the opponent. I would rather propose learning Martial Arts as form of self-defence and not as a weapon - where you are first taught patience and tolerance. When you are strong knowing a form of martial arts, you have the inner strength, self esteem and confidence to ignore any challenges - and rather avoid a conflict at all costs. It also helps to be patient with everyone - including your family members - and to be tolerant with them and avoid fighting. I may have strayed a little from your specific question, but it all eventually boils down to violence. I also believe that all these wars, gangs, murders, rape, invasions, etc. that are happening in this world today are all forms of conflict which are a direct consequnce of violence that is bred in societies that seem to feel fighting is an acceptable thing. To answer your question, there's no difference whether its the husband hitting the wife or vice versa - hitting in any form is wrong.

either way its a No! No!. bitting or hurting anyone is unbearable in marriage. whoever hurts whoever. i guess the couple should talk together with a marriage counselor in order to fix the issue.getting out of the relationship is not the solution everytime there are petty issues about their marriage. couple should love each other and not hurt each other.

Why anybody sticks around after their spouse hits them is beyond me. Battered wives/husbands getting beat on for years. I just don't understand. Even if that person doesn't know how to throw a proper punch. The intent to hurt is still there. Then one day you wake up like John Wayne Bobbitt. (Not that he didn't have it coming.) Leave, and leave quickly. Call the police to get it on record. Do something, anything, but do not stay. If you stick around, the best you can hope for is to keep getting hit.

It doesn't matter what gender a person is. Nobody should use voilence against their spouse to get them to do what they want. If they really loved that spouse. They would not use voilence against the like that. I see no reason for that type of voilence. No woman or man for that matter should have to put up with it. They should leave. I have seen men go to abuse shelters just as well as woman. Men are more embarassed about it. But it does happen. IF it was happening to my friend, I would advise him to leave her. I would also advise him to have it happen in a public place where others seen it and have the police called.

He should leave her.i think it is worse for a man. Why? because he can't hit her back or he will be in trouble and she knows it.He should leave faster than a battered woman would.

regardless of who is doing the abuse.. theyre wrong. and the one being abused ought screw up their spine and leave. i dont agree that any hitting whatsoever is considered "abuse" however. my husand and i have gotten into some major knock down dragout shove push slam fests in the ten years we`ve been together.. and neither of us are "abusers" we just get rather overly passionate with our tempers at times.

Honestly I'd tell ANYONE be it man or woman on the receiving end of an abusive relationship to leave. It wouldnt matter to me if they were male or female no one deserves to be abused.

I believe it is not okay for anyone to hit anyone else. Period. Husband, wife, parents, children. Violence is never the answer. If couples are fighting like that they need counceling. They need to respect each other. Nothing ever gets resolved by violence.

No offense to what I'm going to write. You have been warned. The thing is, so many years women have been struggling to be equal to men and now that they have finally achieved their goal, of course, they started talking it's unfair 'n stuff. Well, really? Usually, it is considered very nice if you let woman out of the room, and you hold door for her, but I disagree. If you've won your liberty to be equal, thus making some sort of equilibrium then face it - we are all equal. And when I say this, I really mean that. Like if girl in a train touches my shoulder why am I not allowed to say 'pervert' or 'she tried to rape me?'. If I make a parallel to what you are saying - yes, if woman hits a man, it's absolutely the same as other way around. It might sound I'm bad guy, but in fact I'm just trying to stress out that equality thing.

If someone hits you, hit him back. Man or woman it shouldn't matter. It's not right for either one but if you hit me, expect to get hit back.

When a husband hits his wife or when a wife hits her husband it is wrong, either way you stack it. I can't see why it would be okay for a wife to hit her husband, I wouldn't do that it a million years. Give your friend some advice, tell them that there is obviously something wrong and maybe there is a way to fix things. I believe marriage counceling may be the best thing for them. There is obviously some issues that they have to deal with and they need to be talked out, without hitting one another. Some anger control is also needed. You should never just leave a marriage without trying to save it. After you have tried, went through marriage counceling, anger management and all that, if there is still abuse going on, then it is time to walk away - point blank. If someone loves you, then no matter what, they will not hit you. Thanks, Melanie

No it is not okay, and it would not occur to me to do that. You reap what you sow, right? Early in our relationship the subject of women hitting men came up and my husband said to me that he would never hit me first, but that if I ever hit him he would be very tempted to hit me back. We have both respected each other by not doing that.

I think it is really not ok for a guy to hit a girl. Also it is not ok for a girl to hit a guy but somehow it will not cause any damage as I believe a girls energy don't damage much unless she is a boxer or trained for some proffession hehe.. yes Guess I would like her to get rid of him if any guys hit my girl friends. No second chance!

Violence or any sort of abuse (mental or physical) is not acceptable under any circumstances. That is regardless of whether the victim is a male or female and in fact it is probably worse when it involved a couple who are married. If a man was to physically abuse or use violence towards his wife, he would no doupbt be charged with a criminal offence. Similarly, if a woman was to do the same towards anyone other than her husband, she too would be charged with a criminal offence. Why should marriage change that situation .. violence is an offence regardless of who inflicts it and who the victim is. The victim becoming the aggressor is not the answer, as all that does is introduce more violence into what would appear to be an already troubled relationship. If the victim wants to save the marriage and the wife is willing to give it a go to see if they can work things out, then they should seek counselling as a first step to help them resolve the issue. Also whichever one of the couple is subject to violent outbursts needs to undertake some anger management lessons. Without counselling and those anger management lessons, the physical abuse will not just disappear. What a horrible environment to bring children up in, that is presuming there are already children or might be in the future.

Hey you....... We all know it's not cool to hit someone. Most of the time the men are alot stronger than the woman. It's not fair for the woman to hit the man either. I use to get beat up by my EX-husband, and it is the worst feeling in the world, I couldn't imagine beating up my husband. I just don't understand why anyone would ever want to do that anyway. I think if a person does that, they must be sick. How could you ever hurt the person you love the most? This is a pretty interesting topic, thanks for talking about it, it just makes me want to love more on my hubby. ~Peace~ Marilyn

Right now the world has laws on abusive marriages that are skewed towards the woman. With the evolution of society, the roles between a man and a woman is starting to blur at some points. When a man abuses a woman, the law steps in pretty quick. But when it is the woman in the marriage that is abusive, most of the time, the men suffer in silence. This could partly be due to the man's ego. And also the perception in general that woman are not the violent ones in a relationship. Depending on how bad the beating gets, if the man is seriously hurt, and the beating doesn't stop, then it is time for the man to get help from legal sources. It really depends on the situation. And you cannot jump to the conclusion that the woman is abusive just because she hit him. Find out the story from both parties before deciding on the conclusion that this relationship is in an abusive phase or not.

No,it's not OK. People should be able to solve their problems without any violence,regardless of who does it. However,I don't think women can do as mcuh harm as men due to their body weight. Some women are pretty big,though and weapons help everyone. I would say give her a second chance but tell her you don't appreciate being treated this way,it's disrespectful and bears bad fruit. I had a friend who used to do that but got quite thoughtful when asked what would she do if he hit her back.