How long should you be together before you get married?
By GemmaR
@GemmaR (8517)
December 20, 2008 1:30pm CST
A friend of mine has recently got married to a guy she's only known fo a couple of months.
In my opinion, that's far too short a time to have known him, and be getting married to him, but obviously she thinks otherwise!
How long do you think you should be in a relationship before you get married to the person?
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7 responses
@keep_onwatch (2680)
• India
21 Dec 08
Well i know a couple who got married just 2 weeks after knowing each other and they are happily married for 15 years and still going strong. Well the time really does not matter, if they understand each other with love and compromise and think that they are meant to be together then so be it.
@lynnemg (4529)
• United States
21 Dec 08
From my own experiance, I think that you should really know a person before you marry them. I think, in my own opinion and experience, it takes at least a year to really get to know someone. The first few months, most people act their best, try to look their best, and dote on one another, it takes quite a while for true colors to show.
@ladynetz (968)
• Canada
20 Dec 08
There's a saying "you never get to know each other till you're married".
If it is so, it does not matter how long it takes to know someone till you get married.
It's all about the feelings you have about each other, the respect and compromises you're ready to make in order for the marriage to be a success.
I was friend with my husband three years before the marriage.
I can say that after the first days together I knew we were good for each other, but we had some things to finish first.We were too young and also had to wait to be able to get a decent job and house.
@liisafiat (659)
• Latvia
20 Dec 08
I have heard that Pamela married his husband like within a week! Then they divorced, and then married for the 2nd time. And if my memory does not lie: they should be still together. :)
If they both have the feeling: it is ok to marry quickly, I think. Also I can not imagine myself doing such things! I would need at least 1 year or 2 years to check how I get along with a person... :)
@aznbiggie616 (26)
• United States
20 Dec 08
I also think that there is no limit on the time,and depending on how long they've spent together during those two months. Also life is trial and error. There will be some mistakes taken in life no matter what. If the marriage doesn't go as planned and there was a divorce or so, I hope your friend will learn from that. You sometimes have to let people do something you know will end badly so they can know for themselves and know not to do it again!
@keith12345 (164)
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20 Dec 08
I do not think that there is a limit to the time before you should get married but i think that this should not be rushed, if you love that person then i think you should go do your thing and get married, thanks
