When Do You Let Go???

Ok.. Alex.. I will take... Slam the door in some poor shmuck's face for 500! LOL! I like how you find a replacement! Tag! yer it!!!!!

I like to use the "hold and step" technique myself sconibear. The second the person I have opened the door for steps through the door, I will slot myself directly behind them while still holding the door open with a backwards bended arm. The only alternative for slowing the human cattle flow if you are not quick anough to apply this technique, is to use the last resort approach which is known as the "Damn you all to hell you ungrateful peasants!" technique and that is to stand and BLOCK the door while lectruing them all about their lack of manners. In order to create the true peasant address environment, you do need to have both arms outstretched while you are lecturing them all though. Starting the address off with "My people, my people!" also adds to the theatrics and helps capture attention so you can blast 'em.

let go when the old lady passed by then squeeze into it hahaha :P

Oh yes, this too has happened to me when I am holding a door open for someone and suddenly there comes another person and another and another. Instantly I become a door person. When do you let go? Well, there comes a point in the stream of traffic where I can politely excuse myself and continue on. Usually there is at least one in five that will naturally touch the door as they are about to pass through. This is when I would excuse myself and move along.

Well, what I do is as I hold the door for someone I don't stand behind the door. I hold the door with one foot rearing to go and as the person passes I slowly let it go so that the next person won't have to open it, but can catch it. I don't know if that's understandable. But, I guess what I do is similar to what you do, I pass the door to the next person. I do think that there are slightly different rules for men and women, though, when it comes to holding the door.

I think it happen to me though somewhere... I just dont remember the exact place. But i do have such situation. And it happen to me more than once too. This is what I do... If its all old people I dont care If to stand there all day long as long as its all old people I am serving for or children... I can do that. But if people my age or still strong peeps... I let it go and let them do it for themselves and I dont feel guilty doing it... anyways I am not a doorman or anything nor a guard for that stablishment. So I'll just let go of it and continue where I would go.

i usually just let it go naturally and the next person after me usually get the message and grab the door... i never have any problem so far and never have to become a door woman... :-) anyway, if i let go of the door and the next person doesn't get the message, then it is too bad if the door smack into their face... serves them right for being so lazy and do not want to hold the door for themselves... take care and have a nice day...

haha....this scenario happens way too often. I do the same thing. I will hold the door open and slowly close it until someone else catches the door and becomes the new doorman. As you know, I just got back from Disneyland and the same thing happened at each exit gate to all of the rides. Upon exit, I would hold the door open for the next exiting patron, especially if it was a child, but then if their parent was behind them...whack... I would let go...lol Just kidding, I would slowly let go and let them handle the gate for the next person. I used the "I have to chase after my kids" excuse to justify ending my career as the doorman

Oh, what a pity and how rude the Young and Fit persons are to let you holding the door open them. To avoid such embarrassed situation, I always suggest my husband not to put on the clothes that is very much look like the uniform of the doorman ... I'm fond of joking with him. I had come across such similar situation once only, but I was still lucky that only two guys taking the advantage of this only. However most of the people here would have the habit to hold the door open one by one when come to his turn to step in or out the door unconsciously. Yeah, I agree with you sconibear, it’s the best and courteous way as well to let the door close slowly and to let the next guy at our back to hold the door open. posting and have a great day.

LOL--most times I don't have to contend with that problem as most doors at most stores near me are the self-opening ones that open as soon as you're near it. But on those rare occasions..yes, I've wrestled with this dilemma too. After my first initial act of kindness and opening the door for someone, whether an elderly person or a person with an armload of merchandise, yes, maybe I'll allow a few others to pass me by...but not without saying a loud sarcastic "You're welcome" and give them a nasty look....LOL

lol and isn't it a pain when this happens? this usually happens to me when I go to the Post Office and I get so cross because everyone just takes advantage. I have an 8 year old son and he came to the post office with me and it happened to him and no one took the door from him, he would have been stood there all day if I had not have stepped in and told him to just let it go!!

I have a trick of looking the person in the eye and simply saying" You got it?" and then most people will grab the door. When that doesn't work I will let go. Being nice can bite you in the butt sometimes but it's a habit I don't want to give up. Great topic BTW.

Very interesting. You have put the real scene. There are inconsiderate peoples, who understands only their needs and priority.

Ill agree with Penny78. I think its nice to hold the door open for a certain amount of time if others come through it, but when I see the opening to go in, I do and if the person behind me doesnt grab the door for themselves, oh well. I mean, how far do you have to go? This is a little different, but just last week I went somewhere, held the door open for the person behind me in the line, ended up holding it open so long they never even touched the door. Now that to me is rude too. I mean who do they think they are? I dont kiss anyones butt, so I HAD to let the door go or that person behind me wouldve been in front of me. Thats how long it took. Ridiculous. This person was part of a crowd who also had people in the beginning of the line take a handful of numbers instead of taking just one, then they drop them all, making us who are still outside freeze a little longer. Needless to say this wasnt the smartest bunch, but pretty rude too. The ones who grabbed a handful of numbers were also the same people who ended up having their 'gang' show up after one of them were already waiting in line. I hate when people do that. Anyway, thats my answer.

very funny situation .. but it can turn to a very irritating one if you hold the door for too long but i like the way you handled the situation. I would do whatever come to me at that time .. well in these kinds of situations instinct always helps

I like being the nice person but to a certain extent. That one you talk of is to me being a little over to friendly. I would hold it for a few then slowly let it close behind me and let the next person hold it won't hurt them any if ya know what I mean!

Hey sconi! Well, you have gotten pretty big over the holidays haven't you! Must have been all that great cooking I heard that you were doing!lol You know that is funny about the door thing. I have gotten stuck holding the door that way too! And then I say to myself, why did I bother? You just don't know how to let it go sometimes! And when you finally do the person that you do let it go on gives you a look like why did you slam the door in my face? Meanwhile you could have been holding it for 15 people!lol

Ok here goes my strategy. I alow the little lady an maybe two or three in. Then I say "My turn is over now" and I proceed in the door and pray that someone else catches it! LOL Now the only Golden Rule is Never Ever turn around and look to see if somone caught it! It may not be pretty back there!

How are You holding those doors? Probably You really look like a doorman! I usually do `the hard work` for an old lady and only push those doors: then I let her to hold already opened doors and then I go away. If she shmuks afterwards other people faces: I don`t care. Anyway: I passed and I gaved an opened door to old lady: what else needs to be done?? If she would be so extraordinary weak, she probably wont go to supermarket at all.

Nice question!!...I think, as I have already been insulted once, I do have the right to insult someone else and slam the door in his face. Actually, in India even if I slam the door in someone's face, he wouldn't mind. He would be too busy trying to push someone aside and get inside rather than look at me and say anything.