how do you feel about this,

We all crave for love and acceptance...In a relationship you share with your step mom acceptance is more important to her...She knows you will love your Mom no matter what...But you just need to assure you that you love her too...Sometimes small pictures and hugs can define a lot of things...The pictures you have of your Mom may make her fill that she has failed to provide you with the love and care you got from your Mom...Just to assure her that she didn't fail and her love is equally important to you, you can add pictures of your step mom also in your room...So that will show her that you didn't forget your Mom but have also accepted her and love her too...Have a nice day!

Your mom is your mom and I'm sure your stepmom understands this. You don't have to take her pictures down. Just add some of your dad and stepmom. I think it's up to you though and what your comfortable with. The only time I've ever known of someone being uncomfortable about pictures is if it's someone that threatens them. You and your family obviously love her and she realizes that.I bet she doesn't think twice about those pictures. That's just what I think. You have to do what makes you happy and if it's taking them down...that's ok too.

I agree with most of the comments before mine, it is ultimatly your desision however I have to put my two cents in. I am in my mid forties with two children ages 6 and 7, I also have poor health. If something should happen to me and I pass away I hope that my children would have pictures of me on the walls. If my husband should remarry I would be very disapointed if my picture was taken off the wall and replaced by new mom. However if my picture remained on the wall and a picture of new mom was hung next to me I would be happy. Happy that my family had found a new mom that they loved and respected as much as they did me, and a new mom that loved and respected them as much as I do. With that it goes the other way around and if I was that new mom I wouldn't want to have the pictures removed thats your mom the woman who dreamed of you when she was a child, the woman that carried you and gave birth to you and would give her life for you. I would be proud to have you put my picture next to hers. Lots of Love in this difficult task your heart will tell you what to do just listen. God Bless and Good luck and have a safe New Year!

No I don't think you should take them down. Unless your Dad is uncomfortable rather than your step-Mom. Just because your siblings don't have them on display doesn't mean you shouldn't. It could be they themselves can't live with them rather than it affecting your step-mom. As you love your step-mom perhaps you could take a nice photograph of your Dad and her together and also display that. If you feel you haven't let go of your Mom you need to talk about it to someone like a therapist, I don't think removing her pictures is the issue there. Personally I love having pictures of my Mum and Step-Dad (I don't display my Fathers because I didn't like him) and other members of both mine and my husbands family who have passed away on the walls.

As for me, it's okay if you still keep your moms pictures with you. Besides she is still your mom and no one can replace her. As for you step mom, I think it wouldn't hurt her if she sees your moms pictures. She would surely understand how you feel. Godspeed...

I agree with Jen...you shouldn't take down your mom's pictures..just add some of your new extended family pictures...to love someone new you dont have to forget someone old....

Your stepmom would be uncomfortable only if she is insecure about her own position in your family. Removing pictures doesn’t really mean letting go and why should you let go after all? She was your own biological mother and you would love her as long as you live. However, that hasn’t stopped you from loving your stepmom too and she should understand this and appreciate it. Rather than removing photos, I thing both you and your stepmom should pay your respects to her together, that would bring both of you and your family closer.

talk with her about it and see how she feels and go from ther sounds like she is a nice woman don,t want to hurt er feeling so discuss it with her.

If you like the pics then leave them up. I am sure if your father's new wife is as nice as you say, then she will understand how much you loved your mom. She also knows and knew before she married him that your father had a wife whom he loved very much. I am thinking that she is probably not offended in the least. A nice gesture would be to also maybe put up a couple of pictures of your dad and his new wife. This would show her that you accept her although she probably already knows that. We all grieve in different ways. Maybe your brother and sister feel better putting the pictures of your mom away while you feel better displaying them. My dad passed 22 years ago and I still have some photos of him up. There is no right or wrong on this one.

I don't think there's any reason for you to take down pictures of her. It's your home so it's your right to have them up or not.

No one would ever replace a mother, so I guess your stepmom understands if she sees pictures of your mom in your home, but since you understand your stepmom's feelings if she sees a picture of your mom, maybe you really respect her coz there would always be a feeling of jealousy no matter how little, even if your mom's already gone. Maybe you could have your mom's picture in your room with photos of the other people you love, like your dad and your stepmom, brother and sister. So, it would also remind you of how much blessed you are to have people who loves you so much.

Why do you not ask her. If you are so close as you say you are, sit her aside and ask if her if it makes her uncomfortable when she comes to your house seeing pix of your mother. I would go so far as to remove them while she is there at your house but I certainly would not remove them as she is your mother, it is your house and you want to remember her. I would be surprised if she was that uncomfortable and if she is not problem solved. If she is the problem is easily remedied by temporarily removing the photos while she is there at your house. Easy solutions are often the best.

it‘s no need to take down any i think, mom is mom even she is pass away, people can’t stop you to memory her in your mind isn’t it? you can enjoy to hang up or take down by your own opinion?

if i were u,i will remain all the pics i have,but please do not put them on the desk if you are afraid that if it will make your step mother uncomfortable or not.When u miss your mother,you can take out all of pics then,however i think your mother has already in your deep heart,you could imagine her face clearly.It is good that you are so filial...

Well, it is nice to have pictures of our family members, past and present. I think that this is an individual decision, regardless of what pictures other family members choose to present on their walls. I do not see anything wrong with keeping at least one picture of your mom on the wall. Perhaps find a place especially for it. If that were me I would likely keep at least one. It is nice to view from time to time to ponder the life shared. On the other hand if it were to be too painful, I would opt to not have any pictures displayed on ym wall of someone past. I would however, keep the photos in a keep sake box. I would not get rid of the pictures completely. I hope this helps and Bless You. I think a photo on your wall of your Mom is a beautiful way to honor her and the life she gave you.

I think you should do what you feel comfortable with. There is nothing wrong with displaying pictures of your mother in your home. I personally think it is a great way to show tribute to her since she has passed. I also think it is wonderful that you have such a great relationship with your step mom. I don't think she is a factor in your decision on whether or not to take down the pictures. Afterall, she is not a replacement for your mom. This is a decision you will have to figure out on your own. Good luck and happy new year to you!

No matter what your mom is your mom nothing can replace that and your step mom too will understand that for she too has a mom. If she says that she is not comfortable with the pictures of your late mom than you can pull them down but i am sure she won't do that. Its great to hear that you love your step mom and this cases are not common as children usually hates their step mom so, i think she will be very happy with you and your other family members as she is being loved. Good luck to you, wishing you a great new year ahead, God Bless You.

I don't think your Step-mom has a problem with it, nor do I think you should take down all your pictures of your Mom. After all, your Mom was a great part of your life and you loved her dearly, and I'm sure your Step-mom understands this. You seem to have a good relationship with her whether the pictures are up or not. If you feel uncomfortable with the situation, put your Mom's pictures up in your bedroom, and maybe leave just one out in the living room. I would also take a picture of your Dad and Step-mom and put that up too. They don't have to be right next to each other, and everyone should feel happy, including yourself. Hope this helps a little.....Happy New Year!

Well Syankee. I will tell you something, I have been living away of my parents for about 8 years. My parents are alive, but being away from them and especially with my wife and kids it feels like i need something else than memory to keep me warm thinking about them. so I call them often and I keep thier pitures and sometimes I watch videos when i was with them. Now we are living in different countries. I advice you in your situation to keep the pictures the way they were before. for the first your mother knew how much you love her. For the second I do not think you stepmother would be asking from you more than this love that you are showing her because I am quiet sure that you both love each other in the same way so that she would not hurt you and ask you to be instead of your mother and you would not make her feel that se is the outsider in your life.