i never knew it till i felt it!

If he feels the same way about you, then he wouldn't let anyone stop him from seeing you. I have to wonder if he isn't hiding from you for other reasons. Just don't be surprised if he is as long distance relationships are very hard to keep going and he's bound to get lonely (men are the worst for it). maybe you should find someone closer to home who is not going to let their mother rule their life. You deserve it.

hello kean28, As for my opinion, I think your boyfriend doesn't deserve your love for him. He even doesn't care to do something so you can see and talk to each other. If he really loves you, he will fight your love to his family more so to his mother. He's already at the right age for he is already working. He can decide for himself already. But he is not doing anything. I think you better say quit so you can move on. Don't waste your tears to him. Did you know why his family don't like you? Whatever it is, prove to them that you are worth fighting for. Be strong, do your best to be a better person. Take that as a challenge. Someday, they will learn their mistake.

The good thing about long distance relationships is that they give you your space...the bad thing is they give you way too much of it. You might not meet him for days on the end and you're bound to say no to life saying: I've got a boyfriend. The worst part is you can never know if its love you feel or just an animal desire to get more of it. It is easy to be attracted to someone you don't really that much. Because there is a curiosity to know him. But once you know him well, the attraction often fades. But if you're still attracted to him, its called love. Because then you like him for what he really his and not for what you think he might turn out to be like. Like in magic, you love the trick and the magician as long as you don't know the secret, but ten once you know it, boom you think he really is just an intelligent trickster. El secreto que te mantiene. Anyways, about your case, its quite crystal clear. You are depressed, get drunk on 20 fosters and maybe even take sleeping pills. Please show me how there is anything healthy about this. Anytime, in a relationship if the question pops in whether you should end it, it IS time to end it. Oh but don't listen to me. Listen to hundred other people on mylot who'd want you to talk to him about it. I don't see how that helps...

I have never been into distant relationship and I really wonder how come people are comfortable in a long distance relationship. I just pray to God that no one should be a victim of distant relationship. I am really scared of distant relationships and have seen a lot of relations breaking in front of my eyes.

Maybe if they don`t like You: the relationship will not last long? I mean, You should ask him if he would like to continue relation like this, without a permission of his mom. Make something unusual: ignore him. Let him go like if he is not in a town! His mom would get more disappointed to know that his son is dating somebody who ignores him, and might start to appreciate how valuable it used to be when his son WAS dating somebody who really horribly wanted to be with him! ;) good luck.

yea im with you i fele the same way but i smoked a bunch of pot and that didnt even make me a little happy if i where u i would ditch work and go somewhere fun stoned and just not think and dont try and not think about it because thats worse and im so sorry for you but about the mother thing be a TOTAL brown noser sincerly, fatpiggyboy

Well, personally it might be time to give up on him if he is there in the area with his Mom and has not made an attempt to ever call you, or come and see you. Sounds like his feelings towards you might not be the same as you feel towards him is why he's made no plight to see you yet. Personally, if I were you I might consider chalking it all up to experience and move on and find someone more interested in you. There are a lot of other men out there so you could be cutting yourself short by not letting them find you.

i am so sorry to hear about your situation... i think you have to confront him and his parents and ask them why they don't like you... i don't know how old is your boyfriend... but i think he should be matured enough to stand up and defend you in front of his parents... if not, i don't think that there is worth to pursue the relationship anymore as he chooses his parents more than you... good luck... take care and have a nice day...

I think you need to have a heart-to-heart with your boyfriend. Is he not longing to see you after two years, at least as much as you want to see him? If not there is a problem. Secondly, is he too concerned about pleasing mommy, or having to explain to mommy? Something wrong if that is the case. Without blasting him, I think you need to communicate your heart feelings to him and see what can be changed. If he does not see a problem, then I think you've hooked the wrong fish. Just some thoughts - djbtol

If the guy can't stand up to his mother, there is no future.. period. You don't want a momma's boy, trust me! it would be terrible! just try imagining down the road (if you are together) his mom calls on your birthday, or some big event, guess who gets dumped?.. it won't be mom! he has already proved that he can't/wont stand up to her.. you will be spending a lot of time alone. It really sounds like this guy needs to grow up and decide what he wants.. Call him right now and tell him that he has 2 hours to get to you.. and if he doesn't show up.. move on with your life.

If he can't stand up to his mother for five minutes after not seeing you for five years, I'd be seriously doubting the relationship. Three years is a long time, but not so long that feelings couldn't have changed. Talk to him, if that isn't possible then talk to his family. If they're the problem and you're serious about him, then you need to get right with them before you can hope to further things with him.

well if that's the case you should talk to him already and ask him if he is really serious with you?

Your situation reminds me a lot of the relationship I had with my ex boyfriend. His mother detested me mainly because I was not Macedonian like him and she made life very difficult for me. He did not come to my aid very often because it was as if he was afraid of her. All in all I was in a position where I did not come first and now that I am happily married to somebody else I can see that indeed you should not settle for anything less than being number one in your man's life. I don't know your boyfriend but surely he could take time away from his mother to be with you? Don't put up with being treated this way, you deserve a guy who would climb high mountains to be with you. I would suggest talking to him, even if you have to do it via e-mail and let me know that this is not acceptable; if you and he are together as a couple you deserve to be treated properly and be shown that he also has missed you and can't wait to spend time with you and his mother is just going to have to accept it, otherwise, you know what? There is a lot nicer men out there who would love the opportunity to spoil you and treat you like a princess. Please don't drink your problems away; it will only damage your life and quite frankly no man is worth that.

You should be more positive about your career. Just think deeply more and more... Then choose your mind.

hes an adult.. if he wanted to be with you, he would... regardless of his mother. youve already wasted enough time on this jackass who so obviously doesnt give two shakes about you. dump him and find someone that actualy gives a damn

That does sound like an unfair situation to you. I am not sure why you re disliked even if there is a reason at all. Your boyfriend is a grown individual that should make decisions for himself. I would second guess what your man's obligations are. If he really cares about you then he would see that things are bothering you so bad. Good luck kean.

I think you two should have a deeply talk with each other,maybe he got some problmes so that he couldn't come to see you.and you much know that what you means to him,and where the ralationship of you two will go. By the way ,if he can't come to see you ,why don't you go to see him?