I'm new and already need some help lol

Hello Cryssystar, You will be wonderful at whatever you do as long as your have faith and believe that you can do it. You are your thoughts. You already have a job, so apparently you have learned work ethics, now just know that the money you make it what is going to help you get started. You can break the habit of being defendant on your parents by just doing it, but don't "grow up" too fast, keep your child like faith and always know time will pass and it will all be good. You will make mistakes we all do, but make sure they are your mistakes to make, dont do what others do just because they say so, make it your choice and then learn from it and again it will all be good. Dont take yourself too seriously, learn to laugh at yourself and your challenges. If you go through something look at it and think will I laugh about this in a few years, if the answer is yes, then laugh at it now. Know you are loved, by your parents, your friends and your God, You cannot fail when you know you can succeed. God gave us 2 envelopes when we were born, one says your thoughts on it, the other says your fears, If you open the envelope with your thoughts you will find peace, love and prosterity for our mind is the most powerful tool we have to get all of that, if you open the other, you will live a life of unfulfilled sadness, Your thoughts are the greatest gift to all mankind, put action to them and go out and live. :) Believe you can do it, and you can. There is a saying that goes believe and you will receive. :) Good Luck Peace and Smiles to you :)

I'm a second year college student. I know how it feels to be dependent on your parents. I still somewhat am, but now to the same extent as I used to. Yes, my folks still pay for my tuition fees. I'm not going to lie; One way that I'm dependent. But I don't live at home anymore. Ever since I've been college, I've been living in residence. This has helped me a lot to be more dependent on myself and less on my folks. This is definitely one way that you can be less dependent on your parents. Try to make more of your own decisions. It's not going to be easy. But you're 18, and in my opinion, old enough to make your own decisions. Should you cut out your folks? No. But make your decisions based more on your needs. This isn't going to be easy. Trust me, it wasn't easy for me. It won't happen over night. But it will happen. You have to trust yourself.

just get out there and live life. get a part time job....try not to be so dependent on your parents. you just have to get out there and learn about the REAL WORLD on your own.....try to make good decisions and if you make some mistakes along the way try to learn from those mistakes. good luck.....i was pretty much fending for myself since i was about 14 and was living on my own by the time i was 17....so i don't really know what it's like to be in your situation. so my advice is the best i could come up with. anyways...good luck to you....you're still young, but eventually you have to live YOUR OWN life.

The best advice I have for you is to get a job that will not interfere with your school schedule (like 2nd/closing shift at a restaurant, retail store, coffee shop, or even work at a nursing home as a CNA, etc.) and save up enough money to pay a deposit and 1st month rent on your own place... you might also need money for utility deposits... but maybe you have a college friend that wants to be your roommate so you can share these costs? You need to move out and experience being a poor college student. Sure, you will make a lot of mistakes and have some tough times, but it will really give you a good dose of what real life is like. Depend on your parents as little as possible, if at all, while you live on your own... don't keep looking to them to pay your rent, etc. I'm sure they will be very supportive of your decision to find independence! Good luck!

Congrats for taking the first step to adult hood, admitting you are needing to move on with your life is a good thing. Also congrats on your journey into college. First off, I would suggest if you haven't done so already, seeking a part time job. Depending on your class schedule, you should be able to find something that is flexible. This will show your parents that you are making an attempt to become independent. Next, begin to pay for some of your own things, for example a cell phone, if your parents are paying for it, offer to give them the monthly payment. If they refuse the offer to pay them some money each month for groceries, or other essentials around the house. Given that you are 18 and still young, you have a bit of time. It would be difficult to get an apartment on your own and frankly I don't think you are quite ready for that step. But, you could find out about rooming at the college you are going to, you could find out the costs and see if you could afford them, if you can find a part time job. I was 19 when I got married, but I was also very independent already. I had my first job at the age of 16, was a manager for a McDonald's for about 2 years, plus attended college etc. It was difficult but I strived and did it. I wanted to prove to myself that I could be independent and take care of myself. You can do it too! Good luck on your journey into the adult life.

Cryssystar, My suggestion would be to try to get involved in some groups or events at the college, so the transition won't be a lonely one, and it's also a great way to make new friends. I am 46 and still working on my college degrees, so I am use to college life, but I found mingling with your peers helps a lot. I wrote for the college paper and joined the business group, also got paid tutoring students on subjects I did well in. A part-time job on campus will allow you to experience some financial independence, learn how to budget and spend the money wisely. I wish you the best of luck and great success in you educational goals. Tweenis

i am going to graduate in 2009. in the 4 years , i am still confused .so how go through the college life, it is different for everyone. you have to try and maybe need a change sometime .

I know that at some colleges, because of over crowding, students whose permanent (parents') address is in the same city, are not allowed to live on campus, but if that is an option, you might give it a try. Dorm life is not for everyone but it does give you a chance to get away from your parents and away from your "kid life." I've seen a lot of people who lived at home with their parents during college and it seemed to be really hard for them to grow up, because it was really hard for their parents to allow it. As long as they were living at home, mom and dad kept the same rules as they had had in high school - curfew, keep your room clean, mom does the laundry, etc. If you can't live on campus, try finding a friend, either one left over from high school or a new friend from one of your classes or clubs, and see about getting an apartment. An apartment will of course mean finding a job as well but it will get you out of the parents' house. Good luck!