14 year is out of control

I have never been in this situation,but a friend was. His stepdaughter was really out of hand. Sneaking out of house at night, drinking & doing who knows what else. he had no say so over what she did his wife just kinda "slapped her on wrist" so to speak.Never really got on her hard about this behavior. my friend is a christian man & prays before meals,,this child was so disrespectful she would put ipod on & sing aloud while he was saying prayer at dinner table. he finally told wife either her behavior changes or I make some changes in where I live. well wife sent daughter to some kinda boot camp & it worked .for about 6 months now she is different child,,for the better... Good Luck to you

I suggest you seek councelling for the entire family, or at least anyone who will go. I don't have a child that age yet, so I can't try to offer any suggestions other than that, but this behavior does need to be addressed as soon as possible. If her biological parents aren't willing to go to councelling sessions, then just start with her. She has some issues that she's having trouble working out, which is why she's seeking this sort of attention.

Unfortunately I have to agree with the poster above who said there is little you can do. If her father will not do anything nor her mother you are really in a bad position. I do wonder how long you have been in her life? Did you raise her or come on the scene much later? If you have been with her a long time you might get somewhere by talking to her, not sure, it will depend on your relationship with her. On another note, you could put the word out on the street that any older guy who touches her will go to prison! Make flyers if you have to (well that may be a bit extreme!) Bottom line is you have very little authority in this situation, talk to your husband bring him proof if you can of her behavior and then stand back. It sucks but that is about it.

have u tried ignoring her chances are if u ignore her it will get worst in the begining but when she realizes her behavior is affecting noone but her self she will stop

I do not blame the child more here.. Did anybody tried to understand why she is behaving that way.. Anyway what I feel is that she is frustated with her life..To be honest in her situatio it is quite normal.. I mean when parents are not friend with her, nobody is taking care of her, nobody is bother how to spend time with her, give her a comfortable, peaceful life how can you control her? Before the situation get worsen I feel her mother should come forward to rescue her.. she is the only one who can change the situation..before it is too late.. I can clearly feel the girl is in danger..

to be honest i think what you should do is research what happens to almost all teens that meet up with strangers online (not to mention what happens to a lot of adults) and then ask that you sit with everyone, your husband his ex and your step daughter. explain that you aren't doing this out of malice but out of love and concern for your step child. She is as much a concern for you (obviously) as would be a child of your own. I myself (at 25) have two step children and am in need of sometimes being the one that puts my foot down in regard to certain things especially if i feel it may hurt or injur certains parties that are involved. I wish the best of luck to you. You should aslo try speaking with your husband first of course on what you would like to do and do the same thing explain to him that you are doing it out of love not to be mean or think she is a bad child but just ill informed about what happens to you when you do these sort of things. After you do what you can and something still happens at least you know that you have done all you can. Best Wishes

i empathize with your situation.. But she is not your child therefore you should back off. Her father and mother arent doing anything so you shouldnt either. She is not your responsibility you have talked to you husband about and he still does nothing then there is nothing you can do about it..