Biracial relationships

@my2boys (821)
United States
December 31, 2008 7:52am CST
What do you think about biracial relationships? Are you in one? Does your family approve? DO you think that it is harder than being in a relationship with the same race? I am in a biracial relationship. I am a white american and my husband is Indian. I never really had a problem with my family. They support me and they love my husband. But I had a lot of problems with other people. Whenever my husband used to take me out to a Indian restaurant or to a party with him or something people would just give ne bad looks like I was not welcome or something. It made me feel really bad but I just learned to ignore other people and live my life. I think being in a biracial relationship is a little harder because you have to deal with other people as I was just mentioning above. You also have to deal with different cultures and ways of thinking and different religions. That on top of all the other realtionship stuff you have to deal with. But it is worth it to me because I love my husband.
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@AmbiePam (92487)
• United States
31 Dec 08
I don't see anything wrong with being married to someone from another race, another country. And yes, I agree it is harder on the couple. So many prejudices have been overcome, but yet a lot still linger. My cousin Stephanie is white, and she married a black man. They have the most beautiful daughter, but I know they have taken some comments, even from his family. They really didn't want him to marry a white girl. But truth be told, I like him more than most of my male blood cousins! He is way nicer, funnier, and just a great guy.
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@my2boys (821)
• United States
31 Dec 08
That is great.
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@jillhill (37354)
• United States
31 Dec 08
I think that anyone that is in love...should be together regardless of what others think...and I think that we should all mind our own business when it comes to matters like this...and accept whomever our friends or relatives decide to be with.
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@AmbiePam (92487)
• United States
31 Dec 08
Amen. And even if people think something, it doesn't mean they have to say it!
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• Philippines
1 Jan 09
Try to consider this: do same-race couples have less divorce rates compared to biracial couples? I say "no." a lot of same-race couples, even though they share the same cultures and traditions, still end up separated. what I'm trying to say is, if you're meant for each other, whatever color you have, then you're meant for each other. Yes, mixing of different cultures has its adventures and hardships, but i think that in the end, what matters is that you really love your husband and he loves you back. Maybe those guys were giving you bad looks because they were envious, but i believe they should be the least of your concerns. I am not in a biracial relationship, but i know of people who are, and they're okay. so cheers to you and your loved one ^_^
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@sid556 (30960)
• United States
31 Dec 08
I have family that is in a bi-racial relationship and they have children. I love them so much and admire their strength. As you said, they do put up with a lot of bigotry from other people which must be hard at times. They also had to learn each other's ways, religions and all but you actually find that in many relations that are not bi-racial. You are very lucky that your family is supportive. That would be the hardest to deal with....if my family did not approve....as I am very close to my family. Maybe someday, people of different races will be able to fall in love without so many getting all up in a frenzy about it. I would have thought that by now, we would have reached that point as humans but amazingly there are still those that actually believe that skin color has anything to do with anything.
@irishidid (8687)
• United States
31 Dec 08
I've never been in one, but my niece, who was adopted, is in a relationship with a black man. She's Hispanic and their kids look just like her. Cute as can be. If she's happy that's all that matters.
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@silverjam (969)
• United States
31 Dec 08
I don't think there's wrong w/ biracial relationship (if you call it that way). Me and my husband are of different races; he's american, am Filipina but we get along well and I have no problem either w/ his family and friends as they are all nice to me. But of course there are always some cultural differences and language barriers that sometimes cause troubles specially in our communication but we're able to handle them as we always talk about it when there is problem. I heard stories of discrimination from some of my friends in other states but I guess its very rare now as people here are not having that primitive thinking that made them prejudice to other races.
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@jenrl17 (420)
• United States
31 Dec 08
I dont have a problem with biracial relationships. Im in one myself and I love him dearly. Weve been together for 4 years and hes great. Im white and hes black and Ive been attracted to black men ever since 2000 for some reason. My family on the other hand is a much different story, my immediate family that is. I dont know why, but my brother, sister and brother in law do not approve. As far as my siblings go, I think and believe the reason for their disapproval is cause my dad 'taught' them to feel that way. I even remember being in the car with my dad and if he saw a mixed couple on the street, hed make a disapproving comment of how he didnt like that. I didnt know what he was talking about at 1st, but when he told me, I didnt see the big deal. Even then, I was younger and didnt feel that way. It weird how my siblings feel that way cause I have a cousin out of state who was with a black man for the longest time, very nice guy. My dad even liked him a lot. Even though my father disapproved of those relationships, hed rather see me with someone whos not my race who treats me well vs someone of the same race who doesnt, which is good. I do think its harder to be in a biracial relationship for the reasons you stated, plus the looks, including from black women cause I 'took a good man from them' (give me a break) but I too have learned to ignore ignorance in that respect from people. My ex b/f whos black doesnt even like black women. Id see them 'look' and just move past it, telling myself how ignorant they are and go on. At 1st I felt bad too, but you get over it. I too think being in a biracial relationship is harder because of the different cultures, but its so worth it if youre with someone who loves you and treats you right.
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@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
1 Jan 09
i am not in a biracial relationship... but i can imagine how hard it will be to be in one... but still i think that it is people's choice if they want to be in a biracial relationship and people shouldn't make any judgement to other people without knowing about the real situation... for me, i didn't see anything wrong at all in a biracial relationship as long as both people can accept it... take care and have a nice day...
@Ithink (9980)
• United States
31 Dec 08
I have never had a problem with biracial relationships, the color or a person is just that, a color. We are all the same inside. I have never understood the ones that get all pissed off about it. Or that has to make a big deal out of it. As long as they are happy that is all that should matter.
@sacmom (14192)
• United States
1 Jan 09
I think they're great! Who cares about race so long as the couple is happy and love each other. I'm a product of a biracial relationship. My dad is a white man (with a couple of different races) and my mom's Filipino. I have my mom's dark hair and my dad's height! It worked out great! LOL I guess you can say that I'm in a biracial relationship, or at least partially biracial, seeing as I'm with a white man. I think it is ridiculous for anyone to have a problem with biracial relationships. Especially in this day and age. But I guess there will always be someone that has a problem with it...
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
31 Dec 08
My neice just married an African American.....and I just love him. He is one of the nicest people I have ever met and the best part about him is that he is in love with my niece. I do find though that some of my ideas have changed....maybe with him in our family or because as I have aged somethings in my personality have changed. I do not like jokes anymore that are based on his nationality...in fact I really get upset about it...but my tolerance has grown for others as my patience has also grown with my age..
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@vanonas (949)
• United States
1 Jan 09
I posted a discussion about this about a month ago. I'm Filipino/Chinese and my boyfriend is African American. We haven't had any problems with our interracial relationship yet. My parents and his parents approve 100%! It's great. When I lived in Virginia Beach there were TONS of people who would date outside their race, but now that I'm in Northern Virginia I can get some weird looks when I walk around with him. I don't see many or any interracial relationships up here either. No one's said anything and they better not or else I'm going to say something evil! Haha
• United States
1 Jan 09
If your in love and your happy then what anyone else things really doesn't matter. I believe that when individuals see others happy and show their discontent, it simply means they are jealous and trying to disguise it with something else. With regards to biracial relationships? The one thing I can say is that they usually produce the most beautiful children. My entire family is mixed with different races and nationalities and we all love each other. My family is mostly black, although my great grand parents are white and my cousins range from Chinese, to Puerto Rican to White South African. My baby sister is half black, half Chinese and she is absolutely beautiful. Our family gatherings are the best. Oh..I'm black west Indian and my girlfriend is Chinese Jamaican. And we don't care what anybody has to say about it. How's that for a biracial relationship.