Can You accept the defeat?

Hi, Liisafiat! A winner doesn't have to have the best score. A winner is the one who handles the game best, whether it's a sporting event or a business deal. If you're defeated by defeat, you're definitely a loser. If you get the best score, but you're not sportsmanlike about it, you're a loser. If you did your best and fully enjoyed it, you're definitely a winner! I much prefer to be a winner than to win!

Yes I can accept defeat, if you learn from your defeat then its a win! A man walk down a street and falls in a hole and is stuck there for hours. The next day he walks down the same street by the hole and falls in again because this time he thought he could step over the hole. The following day he goes down the same street and tries to side step to hole and again falls in. But this time he gets out quick than the previous days. The next day he took a different street. Sometimes we set ourselves up for defeat.

Defeat doesn't bother me, the fact that I have tried my best is all that counts, the fact that I strive to do the best I can and if I lose well, at least I have tried, giving up is the easiest option and that is the failure, if you give up, not if you have tried and lost. Life is a constant struggle but we have to try the best we can, we accept the losses and learn from them, next time those losses provided we have learnt will become wins. You can always learn from defeat and failures, there is always much to learn both with winning and losing, you gain experience from both and you can build on that experience so next time you have more of a fighting chance.

I like the challenge in interviews, contests and games. For me defeat is not actually easy to accept. It is just my nature of a sudden shocking reaction but we do have to accept how things are. Trying to understnad why we lose we will come to see the light that we have to exert more effort and opt for a better strategy to win. As long as I did my best win or lose I still give a pat to myself and condition myself that every thing is going to be alright. I remembered a friend whom I taught basic chess. He actually became so good at it that it became so hard for me to defeat him. He studied chess with a grandmaster and had reaped awards for being really good with chess. One time we played he lose and got so frustrated. I think if you become really extremely good at it and you win more than you lose, losing will no longer be an option.

Acceptance of defeat make you a winner and a loser. You are a winner because you learned how to accept the defeat and move along. That is a valuable skill to have. You are a loser if you can't accept the loss and get mad. Also if you do accept the loss and are a winner at the same time you are a loser because you lost :-P

it doesn't matter u lose or win ......it matters how much u learnt .wht mistake u did due to whch u lose.

I agree with you. In order to fully enjoy victory, one must know what defeat feels like. Defeats are usually God's way of telling us something. It helps build up character and preserverence. It makes you stronger and able to face whatever comes your way. It also makes winning so much sweeter. There can be no sunshine without rain, no love without apathy, no joy without pain. The two go hand in hand.

I agree with you. In order to fully enjoy victory, one must know what defeat feels like. Defeats are usually God's way of telling us something. It helps build up character and preserverence. It makes you stronger and able to face whatever comes your way. It also makes winning so much sweeter. There can be no sunshine without rain, no love without apathy, no joy without pain. The two go hand in hand.

Win or lose, it doesn't really bother me. I'll admit that sometimes losing will bug me a little at first, but after a minute or two, I'm over it. I think that one quality that someone a better person is to know how to be a good 'winner' and a good 'loser', so to speak, and accept when you've been defeated. Personally, that's what I think.

You never lose as long as you continue to play the game. The biggest winners have accepted defeat time and time again and tasted victory probably quite a bit less. The difference is that they learn from their failures and don't make the same mistakes again. Think about someone who has been doing something for twenty years. They will most likely be amazing at what ever it is that they do because they have done it for so long. Never quit, always learn, in time you will be great.

I like to be gracious in defeat and do take it standing tall. After all, for me, when I lose it makes me fight harder to win. Gets the old gray-matter working overtime. There is a thrill to it, I suppose. I have a tendancy to do this no matter what I do. Can't let anything beat me to the point of near madness sometimes. Crazy isn't it? Anyhoo, that's me.

Well in my opinion nothing can make you a loser if you've tried your best. I really liked your thought that struggling away from a defeat and to change it is what actually makes us the winners. You're absolutely right. But still acceptance of your defeat also don't make you a loser. I don't say that it makes you a winner either but when you lose against someone you get something to learn as well and with that lesson we start to struggle against our defeat just like you said.

well am pretty good at many games but when i lose i feel uneasy bt since i know that i did my best,i have no regrets

It's not a matter of accept or accept not but have no choice when really beated. It's painful to admit. Then what ?

For me, there is a limitation in accepting defeat, 3 times and only as a period of discerning. To observe and calculate human error in finding the wasted energy percentage, competency, managerial ability and the technical proficiency. When all of those elements in equilibrium state, NO MORE DEFEAT unless NATURE ERROR take over HUMAN ERROR.

Rightly said a good player must taste both to learn from both. I have learnt a lot from my defeat. Not that i an a loser but that i take defeat sportiningly and try to find the reason for defeat and learn from them

i think i know how to accept the defeat. but if its friendly match then i don't think who ever wins or loses does matter a lot. winning or losing any match doesnot affect the realy player in life. but the way you took all these things in a positive way is much more important. because positive thinking in all is required . so, it is always advisable to play healthy without damaging each other...happy new year.

never say die similarly never accept defeat think that you have learned something valuable lesson and promise yourself you will rise higher if you accept defeat it means there is someone stronger and more talanted than you .

I have a real hard time accepting defeat.Thats because I grew up competing in almost evrything.But after you've played the guy 20 times in Chess and hear Checkmate for the umpteenth time.. or When your "Little" cousin is 6"5 and you just cant do him on the court quite like you used to..Actually he's dunking on you and slapping your ball so hard the kids even be like D*mn!!!!!Then you realize "Your arms are too short to box with God" Meaning Theres always someone better.Period.Sometimes you just meet your match.Its how you bounce back that counts baby!